Hello! I am not writing here for the first time and (again) I am asking you for advice or at least for some opinion. So my "story" is this: There are moments (every day) in which I imagine talking to someone. Okay, it's happened to everyone and I'm fully aware that it's just a fantasy, but sometimes I get obsessed and it happens to me every day. For example, I imagine talking to a guy I like, abe with someone in general, and I just think it's too much. It's like acting out a scene, you know? Yes, I can stop it, but sometimes I don't realize when I'm starting again. And I also often have a lot, a LOT of thoughts in my head, which is why I confuse myself and this is probably due to the fact that I close myself in (that is, in principle I am not a very closed person, but for this special I have not talked to anyone). And somehow, on my own, I start thinking about nonsense and speaking in an inner voice, which prevents me from enjoying life. That's why I prefer to be with people around me, because those thoughts disappear then. I just can't explain it and it's probably normal and I'm just filming right now, but sometimes it's like I can't stop thinking. (And in fact, it might be good if I started practicing yoga or meditation, because I've heard various things and I think they can help me).
So, just lately, when I get home, for example, I start philosophizing about things and that's how my day goes. I try to get organized and stop thinking about nonsense and it seems to work and I start doing something real, but sometimes it's like it's hard for me. Just to note that when I'm out with people, I don't feel that way and everything's okay, that is, I feel this way only when I am alone. And let's get back to the topic. Yesterday, for example, I don't know what happened to me. Somehow I didn't feel alive and I didn't know what to do. There was a mess in my head (and I think I actually just need a break from the world) and yes. At the moment, I'm just not doing anything, and I know I have something to do. But so, do you think all this is normal (just to add that I'm 16) and will you share your opinion on the matter?
Sometimes I even start to think that I may have a split personality, but I've read that you don't realize there that you're not talking to anyone. Anyway, I'm just asking you for help and I will be extremely grateful if you share your opinion on the matter! I ask the editors to approve the story. :) Somehow I didn't feel alive and I didn't know what to do. There was a mess in my head (and I think I actually just need a break from the world) and yes. At the moment, I'm just not doing anything, and I know I have something to do. But so, do you think all this is normal (just to add that I'm 16) and will you share your opinion on the matter? Sometimes I even start to think that I may have a split personality, but I've read that you don't realize there that you're not talking to anyone. Anyway, I'm just asking you for help and I will be extremely grateful if you share your opinion on the matter! I ask the editors to approve the story. :) Somehow I didn't feel alive and I didn't know what to do.
There was a mess in my head (and I think I actually just need a break from the world) and yes. At the moment, I'm just not doing anything, and I know I have something to do. But so, do you think all this is normal (just to add that I'm 16) and will you share your opinion on the matter? Sometimes I even start to think that I may have a split personality, but I've read that you don't realize there that you're not talking to anyone. Anyway, I'm just asking you for help and I will be extremely grateful if you share your opinion on the matter! I ask the editors to approve the story. :) But so, do you think all this is normal (just to add that I'm 16) and will you share your opinion on the matter? Sometimes I even start to think that I may have a split personality, but I've read that you don't realize there that you're not talking to anyone. Anyway, I'm just asking you for help and I will be extremely grateful if you share your opinion on the matter! I ask the editors to approve the story. :) But so, do you think all this is normal (just to add that I'm 16) and will you share your opinion on the matter?
Sometimes I even start to think that I may have a split personality, but I've read that you don't realize there that you're not talking to anyone. Anyway, I'm just asking you for help and I will be extremely grateful if you share your opinion on the matter! I ask the editors to approve the story. :)
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It's normal, I hope, because I'm the same and I'm 22. But it's not a good habit because you start thinking about everything too much and one species prevents you from living your life, in general.
Don't worry, you don't have a split personality. This strangeness of yours is a sign of a developed imagination and nothing more frightening. At 16, I was the same. I fantasized in the morning on the way to school, the night before I fell asleep and sometimes while I was bathing. Always in moments when I perform some mechanical actions or I am alone and I am bored. I imagined a lot of plots, not all of them were related to me or acquaintances. I did it for no reason and most of the time I started unconsciously. I've talked to educators, psychologists and whatever else you can think of. Everyone said that I was completely normal, but my imagination is more pronounced and because of that at times I get distracted easily. It's not like hearing other people's voices in your head or seeing beings that don't exist. For you, fantasizing is like reading a book, you almost really see the story and you almost really hear it. It's like you're in the "zone", but you know it's only in your head and you control it completely. It was quite logical for me, I've always loved stories and I've been looking for them. I've had marathon periods for movies / series, I've read a lot of books in a short time, I've found forums where people post author stories (fictional). To this day, I dream almost every night with very few exceptions. I received the best advice from a close relative of mine. He advises me, if I have such an imagination, to invest it in something creative and to deal with an art form. I really started doing it and my concentration improved significantly. I'm still fantasizing, but I'm only doing it with a white sheet in front of me. Apart from my struggle with the urge to scratch the sheets during an exam, I have no other problems. These plots of mine have already been recorded, drawn and I'm kind of relaxed. I use my imagination wherever it can be used. For me, the decoration of my room is like a kind of adventure. To tidy my wardrobe means to sit down and imagine in advance what it will look like, not finding peace until I do it the same way. I can't meditate, I've tried on the advice of a friend, but I regularly do stretching and flexibility exercises because it makes me concentrate. Like yoga, but not so slowly and with fewer breathing lessons. At 16 I thought I was crazy, at 22 I just accepted myself and decided that this part of me was not bad and deserved to find a place in my life. Not everyone has a good imagination, people with one should find it useful. If you want, go and talk to a psychologist, but I think it's all due to imagination.
I do not guarantee that it is normal - I have not visited a specialist - but I have such a habit. I have been living alone for about 10 years now with rare breaks. I have pets that don't talk. I have a few friends with whom I talk a lot, but ... still, it's different to be alone with myself and discuss my life quickly. This habit is noticeably intensified in tense moments and periods. When I quarrel with someone, when something nasty happens, when something good happens. Everything that caused a stronger emotion in me generally makes me go through the essays-reflections aloud about the action that took place, the results, the reasons, etc. When the action is tied to a person - respectively, I have a conversation as if with him. When I expect to share with someone something that excites me a lot, I also say it at home. I do not guarantee that it is normal.
If you've noticed all the crazy people are talking to themselves, that is, we all have this fate of hearing our "thoughts" but we keep them inside until we lose the rope. So I've read a lot of philosophical books and they explain that voice. For me, when it appears, I am either not happy or I have too much free time. For situations of talking to random people, it's as if I saw the reflection in you. We may be a psychiatrist. I explain this with the fact that I was an extrovert before and after a strong emotional tram from a loved one, something clicked and I started to choke. It's not just you in the being of thoughts, we are many. Make a radical change. Read Eckhart Tolle's The Power of the Present
It's a temporary phenomenon. Start going out more often around people and watching them. When your brain is busy observing, you will not be able to enter your thoughts. Find a boyfriend and fill your time. This condition is observed when you are under stress in isolation. Try to stop it when you start entering this world. I was the same at your age. My father left us. I shut myself in and, like you, had imaginary conversations with a girl I liked on the street. It's hard and it's slow. Gradually, I began to feel like I was entering a "movie" and angrily trying to distract my thoughts from my head. The sooner you succeed, the better. Don't shut up. Go out and stay with people as much as you can. This is not a split personality. It is rather a stage of life. You are not the only one. Grandpa Tosho
Oh, it's normal. So am I. You are absolutely normal, and don't have any doubts about that. Even to tell you, it is useful because it relieves stress and tension. With yoga and others. Eastern practices do not bother that there you will croak past them. You are still very young and do not have enough control over your mind, but in time this will happen. What you are talking about is due to higher brain activity and activity, which is a kind of mental training even. It is abnormal to bite and repeat the same thing, to repeat like a parrot and to look stupid without thinking about anything. Just don't talk too much left and right about the fact that the mass of people are ignorant and will misunderstand your fantasies.