Hello! My topic is a bit silly, but there is something that bothers me, and I decided to ask you. I will be as brief as possible. I met a man in Tinder shortly before deleting my account, as I was extremely disappointed with the app. I'm 26, he's 28. Apparently everything is fine, he is polite, cultured, smart, intelligent, charming, funny, etc., he is looking for something serious or at least so he claims. We kissed on our 3rd date - so far so good. However, out of curiosity, I made a fake profile in the app (yes, I know this is stupid, but it's not the result of a discussion in this case) - another photo, other years, another name - I matched with it and immediately after he started writing to me. The dumbest thing is that while he is telling me that he is thinking about me, he is writing on my fake profile. I'm not sure exactly how I should react to this - to close my eyes and wait to see what happens - or to accept that he obviously has no intentions towards me after he keeps looking for and talking to other women - and to stop things , no matter how much I don't want to .. I want to hear your opinion on the matter, because at least in my imagination I do not feel that it is right to do so. Or at least I'm not burning with desire to be one of the many that someone is trying to stock up on at the same time, after something as intimate as a kiss. Doesn't that mean anything anymore? that it is right to do so. Or at least I'm not burning with desire to be one of the many that someone is trying to stock up on at the same time, and after something as intimate as a kiss. Doesn't that mean anything anymore? that it is right to do so. Or at least I'm not burning with desire to be one of the many that someone is trying to stock up on at the same time, and after something as intimate as a kiss. Doesn't that mean anything anymore?
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You are too cunning and entangled in your own webs. What will you check and experience when there is almost nothing between you? Users of these platforms are so accustomed to them and to communication and teasing with different people that it will be difficult to give up unless there is a good reason, such as a relationship that has deepened. You judge.
It is normal. It still feels the soil. A kiss at this age means nothing. Do you know how many people I've kissed like that, without sex, without special relationships? If you like continuing to meet him, he will show.
Admittedly, I did it at the beginning of our relationship with my wife, but I still don't think it's right. But still we were 20 then. And he should be more settled. In my opinion, at least for the time being, there are no serious intentions.
Men in such an application are not serious. They are looking for women only for sex and to be as many as possible. I had exactly the same incident as you and I will tell you what I did. I had an account in the application in question and there I met a girl. We saw each other. We had a great time and just like you kissed me on the third date. We became a couple, we saw each other. He told me that he already wanted to have sex, but it was only the fourth date and I told him at least a week to meet him and then we would do it and he said no problem. Then I made a fake profile and we got married and he started writing on my fake profile how beautiful she is, how he wants her, he said he doesn't have a girlfriend and they want to see each other. From the fake profile I told him that I was only looking for sex and he said that he was looking for that too. We agreed to see him from the fake profile at 1 pm in front of us and go upstairs to have sex. At the same time, he arranges with me to go for coffee at 2 o'clock in the afternoon, ostensibly after sex with her to see me. I was very angry. It was 1 o'clock the next day and he wrote on the fake profile that he was in front of them. Then I found a picture of this girl from the fake profile hugging a girl who looked a lot like me and sent it to him from the fake profile. I wrote him that a man would never ruin a woman's friendship and that he was complete rubbish and we were with her at the moment. He didn't dare answer any more and blocked both everywhere and hid. I advise you to act like me. It definitely works. You don't need such a person in life, give him a lesson like I did. At the same time, he agrees with me to go for coffee at 2 o'clock in the afternoon, ostensibly after sex with her to see me. I was very angry. It was 1 o'clock the next day and he wrote on the fake profile that he was in front of them. Then I found a picture of this girl from the fake profile hugging a girl who looked a lot like me and sent it to him from the fake profile. I wrote him that a man would never ruin a woman's friendship and that he was complete rubbish and we were with her at the moment. He didn't dare answer any more and blocked both everywhere and hid. I advise you to act like me. It definitely works. You don't need such a person in life, give him a lesson like I did. At the same time, he arranges with me to go for coffee at 2 o'clock in the afternoon, ostensibly after sex with her to see me. I was very angry. It was 1 o'clock the next day and he wrote on the fake profile that he was in front of them. Then I found a picture of this girl from the fake profile hugging a girl who looked a lot like me and sent it to him from the fake profile. I wrote him that a man would never ruin a woman's friendship and that he was complete rubbish and we were with her at the moment. He didn't dare answer any more and blocked both everywhere and hid. I advise you to act like me. It definitely works. You don't need such a person in life, give him a lesson like I did. Then I found a picture of this girl from the fake profile hugging a girl who looked a lot like me and sent it to him from the fake profile. I wrote him that a man would never ruin a woman's friendship and that he was complete rubbish and we were with her at the moment. He didn't dare answer any more and blocked both everywhere and hid. I advise you to act like me. It definitely works. You don't need such a person in life, give him a lesson like I did. Then I found a picture of this girl from the fake profile hugging a girl who looked a lot like me and sent it to him from the fake profile. I wrote him that a man would never ruin a woman's friendship and that he was complete rubbish and we were with her at the moment. He didn't dare answer any more and blocked both everywhere and hid. I advise you to act like me. It definitely works. You don't need such a person in life, give him a lesson like I did.
Dating on tinder. That's the only reason you should expect it to be.
I'll probably be a little extreme, but ... why on earth are there so many girls who believe that there are people in such applications who are looking for "something serious"? There may be, but they are units and quickly become frustrated, just like you, so they stop using it. Once upon a time, dating sites were popular - the same thing. Make no mistake, and from 10 profiles to write to him, as long as he likes the photo in front, the result will be the same. Just the very idea of this famous application is like that. I guess there are exceptions to the rule, but I wouldn't count on that.
Nowadays, sex has nothing to do with it, and you expect the man to accept the kiss as intimate enough to calm down and concentrate on you. In my opinion, it is not right to deal with several people at the same time, this is beyond my worldview, but it is also my personal problem, because not everyone is of this opinion. Ask him if he continues to write to other women in Tinder, if he lies to you, forget about him. You have no connection, theoretically he is free, but there is obviously something wrong with him, if he is still ashamed that he is writing to others and cannot be honest with you. Loyalty is important, trust even more so. You can't trust a person who lies to you in the beginning when you don't even have a relationship and you don't have to be loyal.
Yes, kissing, sex, words - mean nothing to people who use such applications. There you will not meet a person for a serious relationship, the setting is different. You're wasting your time. And to make five profiles, he will write again - hoping that something better will come out ... and so on indefinitely.
The author: it so happened that we met the person in question after this case and I told him about it. We clarified, we discussed it, but I told him that I was only looking for something serious and for me this is not such an approach, and that I do not want to waste time with another type of relationship and someone who does not invest only in me. . To my surprise, he offered to delete his tinder and I decided to give him a chance. And he did delete his account that night. Do you think this is a good sign?
It's not okay. And in general, the question is stupid. You ask it, relying on the fact that there will be bitches like you, like swarms here, to justify you and give you the impulse to do whatever you want - to lie, to anoint, to change, to settle always at the expense of others whom you will deceive, and always be right. Well, there are no such movies. Sooner or later you will get what you deserve for all the filth.
Tinder is the epitome of intimacy as a product in consumer society. However, I don't think there's a connection between you so you can ask him not to take down other girls. You kissed once in a meeting ... ok. That still means nothing. Is there a sincere desire for intimacy? A sincere desire to make a connection and to communicate? I doubt. Women have to play on many fronts, because every woman is constantly irradiated by many other offers of men and it is not known when she will give in to someone else. You may have stopped liking other men on Tinder, but that doesn't mean there's no acquaintance to offer and like you more than this Tinder.
Number 10, you don't seem to have read any of what is written below the title, and what exactly the topic is all about.
Why are you so naive, author? An deleted account means nothing, it can register on various dating sites, and still have sex. But you are not officially a couple to interfere in his personal life. He has found in you a "hard-to-reach woman" who doesn't just want sex, men like him are ready for more "sacrifices," but they have to have exactly that woman who isn't for one sex. Then he will leave you without knowing that he is just an adventurer who took what he wanted. Don't look for relationships other than sexual in tinder !!! Serious relationships do not arise from sex, nor from a kiss, a few kind words ...
Nowadays, things like a kiss really mean nothing. Like you, I thought it was right to invest in just one person, but a lot of people don't think so. I used Tinder briefly and met a man there with whom we had a lot in common and had great conversations. We saw each other, it was nice, but of course it turned out that he had a lot of wives and although he said he would definitely come to see me again, he never came. I deleted Tinder, and that was my only meeting from there. And I thought I had met someone so special to me ... apparently some of us are very deluded. Once he deleted his account, maybe I'll take you seriously, you'll find out for yourself if that's the case.
And what if he deleted it? You can't be sure he doesn't fish with others outside of Tinder. They quickly exchange contacts there. And there may be another profile elsewhere ... such people often appear on more than one dating site. And you can rest assured that he seems to be taking it seriously ... at the same time he probably continues to spin her babes on her face, somewhere else, while you naively think that something can come out and then you will roar and complain about how they lied to you on some other topic.