Hello, I am a 21-year-old girl, I am a second year student. A few weeks ago I met a boy on a dating site, we wrote to each other for a long time before we met, not out of reluctance on the part of any of us, but for the simple reason that he had an exam to study for. Everything was going well, even frighteningly well, we talked about all sorts of topics, I shared me, he was constantly looking for me, as soon as I entered skype in the evening he immediately started writing to me and we continued until midnight. From the beginning we were only on friendly terms, but later we started to like each other, he was making plans to almost start a relationship, although we had not seen each other yet. We acted like we had been boyfriends for several months. Finally the day we decided to see each other came. He came in his car, I went up and decided to just offer him a few options for how our meeting would go, so that awkward situations do not occur - Option 1: if he liked me to go for a walk and then have a drink; Option 2: not to like me, but to be uncomfortable to tell me and drink only coffee and Option 3: to say directly that he did not like me and everyone to leave. Luckily for me, he chose the first option, I was happy. We walked, talked, then sat in a cafe, also chatting well. Towards the end of our meeting he offered to take me and I agreed, he had gotten in the car and the moment I got in he pulled me to kiss me, I felt myself panicking and pulled away, he naturally asked me why and I please told you I'm old-fashioned (which is far from the case). He took me to the bus stop, I just said goodbye to him on the way down, he answered me the same and that was it. A few days later I waited for him to write to me, but he didn't, I wrote to him, but he didn't answer, I got angry and removed him from my Skype. I wrote to another person on Skype later to find out why he wasn't looking for me, of course he understood my pulling from the kiss as a sign that I didn't like him, as I thought to myself. I briefly explained to him the reason I was pulling away (she was serious and he understood me), I also told him how bad I felt that he had given up on me so easily and thrown the things we were talking about to the wind, and he simply replied that he had not forgotten me. I could not reconcile myself as he lightly removed everything and did not look for me and said goodbye. However, I still held on to him and that prevailed - I added him to my Skype and wrote to him, I realized that he had blocked me. We haven't written to each other since, nor have we heard each other. Is it possible for a person who says he cares about you, that he likes you, that he wants you to be boyfriends to throw everything away like that? Even one last attempt not to make you there? Was I wrong about him? Please help me to answer all these questions, thank you in advance
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When I want something I fight for it.
In my opinion, you should no longer look for him after he has blocked you, so he has made his decision. My opinion is that he just wanted to put you to bed and nothing more. In my opinion, he is also a frivolous man - first he wants you to have a relationship, and then suddenly he doesn't write to you and blocks you. So forget it and don't look for it!
Yes, it's possible - if he didn't really care about you. Listen to number 2 - don't look for it anymore. In my opinion, this boy only wanted sex from you. * Yasa
Abe, think about it a bit =))) Enough with these clichés "if he really cared about you" and so on. They see each other - the girl tells him, if you like me - let's have a drink, if you don't like me - run. He says "let's drink" - he likes her. After giving him such a "choice", she also likes him. In the evening, when he sends her away - he reaches out to kiss her, she pulls away. So what does a person think ??? Of course he will beat his whips. From here I feel how the author is quite suspicious, does not know what she wants and behaves like a rattlesnake. We run from such, we run =) bile
Abe, bile, nonsense ... Just because she didn't let him kiss her doesn't mean anything. And I did it (on the first date) and it was no problem. I mean ... the boy's looking for me again. He obviously really wanted things to go that fast. So don't regret anything :)
abe it is normal for the girl to withdraw. They see each other for the first time and he immediately wants a kiss. I don't think it's happening and it shouldn't be happening so fast. It's just that he really only wanted one of the authors and we all know what he is. So you don't need such a person, author, get rid of him, he gave up on you very quickly, which probably means that he usually gives up quickly and runs away from serious things. (of responsibilities). He wanted everything to happen quickly, but nothing happens that way. Everything requires patience and perseverance. Beware of such oligophrenics, bye and I wish you to find a decent boy like me;) (hehe) even more decent and to be happy and calm with him. :) КоКо
He only wanted sex, believe me. You better get rid of it. Otherwise he would have blocked you again, but he would have counted you. Female intuition has spared you great humiliation. One piece of advice from me: when you go to dating sites, look at how long it takes to register. If she is older than 6 months, and otherwise she is cool, beautiful, etc., then she is a tailor. If it was so cool and wonderful, for so long, someone would still take it, right? Or "waiting for the right one" ... if it were yes :) Darling, if he had "loved" you, such a small thing would never have denied him. And he would look for you much harder. Next time, watch carefully. Boronia
My respects, but the author is of the type "Welcome to kindergarten" Not because of the withdrawal from the kiss, it is quite natural, as well as his impulse and her reaction. I was rather annoyed that she wrote to him, he did not answer her and she removed him from her Skype. Well, if I were him, I'd first think she didn't want a relationship and wait for her to say something after she rejected me. Okay, she wrote to him, but Topy didn't answer and she removed him from her Skype. I was in her position, but if someone did that to me, I wouldn't want any more communication. He blocked it ... ohhh, the Light works like a child
Thank you very much for your help people, you helped me answer all my questions. It really turns out that he only asked me for this and when I refused him he said to himself - it will not be easy with this one, and he gave up. But I don't think much about him anymore, I realized that I was his next. I'm definitely not sorry, I'm even glad it didn't work out before I got really involved.
Boronia and Yasa Abe girls, think with your heads. If he only wanted sex, would he drive her into them and send her to kiss her? If they put things like that on me, with three options, almost, you choose whether to have something or not, and then they refuse me a kiss, of course, I will withdraw. The other events are lapeshki stories. Author, you like the boy, you yourself say that he wrote to you every day, you had a good time, it is normal that he wants to kiss you. Call him, offer him to see you and talk calmly, talk calmly and things will be fine. Good luck. But
Number 5 Remember that they have been writing to each other for a long time, they almost knew each other. With today's technology, the first encounter is not what it was years ago. But
And I'm of the opinion that he only wanted sex. I've had a few such incidents and it's a really nasty experience. Let me tell you - from dating on the net, 95% of men turn out to be jerks and countmen. I don't know about women. But I stopped looking for a person on the net a long time ago, and I met my current friend elsewhere, so the connection started.
Apparently many women still live with the thought of the knight where the dragon will strike, the precipice will jump and after so many battles he will come and kiss us ... Well, yes, but no ... In order for someone to fight, he must you give him a sign that he has something to fight for, because, to be honest, how many times have you said of a man who insisted and fought for you that he became annoying, impudent, and almost impudent? If he is not like that, why doesn't he fight ... And from a kiss it is never said that you will throw yourself into his bed right away ... And yes, he can give up, because he, just like you, has pride and it is not for him to run after a skirt, with which he talked for 3 months, say ... and on the Internet. I understand that you have built things together, that you have struggled with life, that you wonder ... But come on, different people, different ideals. If you don't like it, everyone is on their way and that's it. Lola
I agree with Lola. The fact that you withdrew like that pushed him away. This does not mean that he only wanted sex, etc., but does not exclude it. Besides, you should have reacted differently, because he may not know why you are withdrawing.
Ale, in general I respect your opinion very much and I like your comments. But, in this case, I keep saying it was just for sex. And, just because he drove her is a very good prelude to such actions. Only on this site there are a few stories about girls lied to in this way. Writing for months, sweet talk, meeting, everything is wonderful, he sends her by car, kisses her, lets go? hand ... they have sex in the car or, if the babe's terrain is free, maybe next to the bed? to go. And then ... but why didn't he call me, he told me that he realized that he wasn't ready for a relationship, etc., etc. If he cared, he wouldn't give up so easily, I'm convinced. And it's not about trembling dragons :), but to call, for example, to ask if we will go out again, etc. In this case, he just saw that it would not shine and broke. In fact, I too was a "witness" very recently. of similar relationships. The man pretended to be in love with super success, everyone bonded with him, then slept with the girl and evaporated. Despite the months spent on Skype and the oaths of love. Author, I'm glad you're overcoming it. It's not worth getting upset about this guy :) Regards: Boronia
number 8 I wrote to him a few days after our meeting, because I decided that after I withdrew he was waiting for me to take the next step, but unfortunately there was no answer from him, and I saw that he was online. Anyway, a few days passed, but there was no answer from him again. That's why I finally wrote to him from another person's Skype to see what reasons he would point out to me for not writing to me anymore. Then I told him why I withdrew (a few months ago I was at the RD of a former classmate, the party lasted until late, and I had to travel in the morning, so I left earlier at about 23:00, a friend of my classmate offered to take me , because he was in my direction, I agreed. The same thing happened - he got in the car and the moment I got in he pulled me to kiss me, and I didn't like him that way, I tried to break free, but he was very insistent, I had to slap him. Then I got out of the car and took a taxi. I was very scared then, I thought I had forgotten this case, but apparently my memory came back. ) And he just said "aha, next time will you pull again". I told him how bad I felt that he didn't write to me anymore, and he said again - "I haven't forgotten you, I didn't know if you will pull again next time". After I didn't answer anything, it obviously blocked me - I realized when, despite everything, I was still holding on to it and decided to add it. and he again - "I have not forgotten you, I did not understand next time you will pull again". After I didn't answer anything, it obviously blocked me - I realized when, despite everything, I was still holding on to it and decided to add it. and he again - "I have not forgotten you, I did not understand next time you will pull again". After I didn't answer anything, it obviously blocked me - I realized when, despite everything, I was still holding on to it and decided to add it.
Boronia There are certainly many such cases. I'm not defending the boy, but that doesn't mean it's the case. And he can't force a girl to have sex. If he really cares about her, he will wait for her. If he insists on sex, it's not worth it. But
Number 11, and what if they wrote to each other? I have been writing to some people for months, this does not mean that the first time we see each other I will throw myself on their neck :) And the meeting was practically the first, so the author's reaction is quite normal and I would say natural for a girl :)) Number 5
He only wanted sex, as long as you discussed it. I'm number 12. "Will you pull again next time?" This question shows that this is obviously all he cares about. If he was decent, he would even apologize and say, "I'm sorry I attacked you like that, I like you so much," or something. I suggest the author ignore it from her thoughts. There are questions that are difficult to answer, and one of them is why some people act this way. And I've had a round-the-clock chat, thousands of promises, and when it comes down to it, it turns out that it was all done because the gentleman in question wanted sex. Even I can't believe how such sacrifices are made for one sex. However, there are men who have less restraint and are quite sexual, their urge is so strong, that sometimes they are ready to sell their souls for one fuck. And we women get caught up in their sweet talk and are ready for anything for our "prince". Author, take this incident as a good lesson. And keep going. You have lost nothing.
People, the more I read your comments, the more I become convinced that everything was really just for one sex. You could say I overcame it, but just thinking how stupid and naive I was to believe him drove me crazy. I bonded like a student of his sweet words. Thank you all very much for your feedback and help. If it weren't for you, to light me up, I would probably still be suffering, even blaming myself for nothing. Who knows, maybe I would even swallow my pride and even though he had blocked me, I would have called him on the phone.
I'm 8 Post 16 sounds completely different and then I agree. The question he asked you now clearly reveals the picture. I didn't mean to hurt you, it just sounded childish at first. Now smile, calm down, pass. At least, I've been in the identical situation. Good luck, darling!
To number 8 by the author You did not affect me, I am grateful for your opinion, I just wanted to clarify the situation that led to wrong conclusions in you.
Hello, author! I have not written a comment so far, but I followed the topic because I am in a very similar situation. I wanted to ask you how are you? have you forgotten it already or at least got used to the lack of constant writing and if so, how? !? After two meetings he stopped writing to me and then the explanation was "I'm only looking for a non-committal relationship, and you're right and I was afraid I would hurt you, so I stopped looking for you" I'm sorry to interfere with your topic!
to number 23 by the author You did not interfere in my topic, calm down :). Well, what can I tell you, I'm quite a strange person, I easily fall in love and enchant, but unfortunately I quite easily fall out of love with this person. Now that some time has passed since I stopped writing to this man, I look at things realistically and realize that maybe even mine was not falling in love, but a momentary fascination with the image of man created by my imagination. I liked the thought rather that this man fell for me, that he wanted me. Moreover, I was so blinded by the image created in my mind that even when we met I completely suppressed the thought that in fact it did not even attract me externally. Maybe if we had met on the street I wouldn't even have noticed. That's why I've already given up on this internet dating, the probability of the two of you fitting in live is too small, and most men on the net are only looking for sex, not a relationship. As for your case, my opinion is that you got rid of it quite easily, you should be grateful to him for that, at least he was honest with you and admitted his true intentions to you before you fell into his trap. If you have feelings better forget him, there is no point in hurting yourself and dreaming that he will want you to have a real relationship. And if you don't have it and you think it's just a hobby, be with him. there is no point in hurting yourself and dreaming that he will want you to have a real relationship. And if you don't have it and you think it's just a hobby, be with him. there is no point in hurting yourself and dreaming that he will want you to have a real relationship. And if you don't have it and you think it's just a hobby, be with him.