Hello, I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years with a boy who is 6 years older than me. I am 19 years old. My problem is that I'm quite jealous and I don't trust anyone, absolutely no one ... He's the only one I trust. My thought is different. I constantly read on the sites, I also see everywhere and hear how everyone cheats and I can't believe how only he is different and hates cheating. Every one of his friends cheats on his girlfriend, but only he is faithful to me. It's kind of weird to me, because everyone nowadays lies about how such a real man fell to me. Hardworking, honest, good man. I am very happy and that scares me. I have never seen a person like him before and I wonder if we will always be like that. From the first day of our meeting until now, we love each other in the same way. I feel like only our love is real, but I'm very scared,
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And I keep wondering. My friend claims that he will not cheat on me, that he hates infidelity, and so on. Sometimes I believe him, but men are famous as women, I see them in my environment, I hear what they are talking about, I read how they cheat on movies and shared stories on the net. He hasn't given me a reason so far, but I have one thing in mind anyway. There is simply no way to know. After 20 years of marriage, people cheat on each other and do not even suspect that their spouses can do such a thing, they even swear that they would not do it, and then they realize that they have lived a lie all their lives.
Not men, but women cheat. It's just that men are honest and responsible, and women don't know what your case is.
It is possible, but it is already so rare for an insignificant man or woman to be honest, to be kind to the other person, not to cheat and so on. For this reason, we all do not believe that there are such people, there are but few. I also have such a person by my side and I sometimes wonder how I found him, but most of all I am happy and grateful to have found him. I recommend the same to you. This type of people are a corner nowadays and when you find a different person from everyone else you just have to enjoy nothing more.
What if you change? Just as boys cheat, girls cheat just as much. Tighten up! We all have fears. That doesn't mean we shouldn't live.
Don't think about tomorrow. Live in the present. The answer is YES it will change and YES you will have problems. Whether you separate depends on the two, but from now on you can't wait for the disappointment without even indulging in happiness. If you did, what did you live for? Is that why I 'knew it was going to happen'?
Absolutely possible! But we must not forget that we accept the love we think we deserve. Believing in ourselves and in our loved one, it is perfectly normal to get happiness, which "liars" only delude themselves that they have. All the best and success in life MS :))
You're jealous, but you love him? Jealousy is far from the feeling of trust, and what is left for love. I don't really condemn you, you can be very deceived, it can be on a mental basis, your thoughts and the rotten society (I think this is a factor for you) and the selfishness of people, mass unhappy relationships, etc. I really do not want to confuse you with religion, but the Apostle Paul see what he said: Love endures long and is merciful; love does not envy; love does not exalt itself, is not proud, does not be rude, does not seek its own, is not irritated, does not take into account evil, does not rejoice in injustice, but rejoices with the truth, everything is silent, everything is believed, everything is he hopes he endures everything. I have a sex life, I have a great relationship (1 for life I am almost 24 already), but I have given freedom to my partner. She is a free person. There are also responsibilities, of course. I know what you're feeling, and from my point of view it's not just love, it's bad feelings that fuck up your relationship. Love, what can I tell you - infidelity is excluded, he or she would not step on the psyche of the person he or she loves, but rather would never do so for the rest of his or her life. But this situation is very rarely reached by people who love each other (mainly for health reasons and other life problems). tn. Sex is important for happiness and a full relationship, I do not deny that. In short, you need to have more trust in the person, otherwise it can really destroy your relationship, in my opinion, as an infidelity, I do not exaggerate. You did not allow infidelity, but you allowed no less an enemy of love and trust, in my opinion, and that is jealousy. You can't have both, love and jealousy are incompatible. This above is my opinion everything, without the quote. I personally wish you to make things right, to have peace and tranquility in the souls of both of you, complete trust and mutual love. Judge for yourself, but I think it's good to share these things with the person, if he loves you, he should help you and overcome him.
Girls, I'm very curious where these female boys who cheated are. Do I know only faithful boys who do not dare to look at another, even if their girlfriend is not around? Why are you talking nonsense, such arrogance.
This is wonderful! You can only rejoice, I believe that if I love and do not cheat, there are still people of the opposite sex like me, the question is to meet him, yes, it is obviously rare, but once you get it, you can only You're happy. And yet the fact that if the boy is cheating is most likely with a girl, which logically means that we cheat equally. The question is whether you love enough and have no interest in another, if you hold on to someone you will not cause it. As I can, because I hold on to him, if he really holds on to me, he won't cause it to me either. Rejoice in what you have, because nothing is eternal, especially if you can't appreciate it!
Don't film so much, be careful with jealousy, because you can fuck everything. Number 9, you said it very well. One piece of advice, stop looking for confirmations about your fears, (I constantly read on the sites, I also see everywhere and hear how everyone cheats) (I guarantee you that you will find them everywhere, at every step and in every situation. People of all kinds, some cheat, others not :)
Nowadays, women cheat a lot, but a lot more than men, and they lie, so the fact that men had the reputation of "women" is complete nonsense. Tighten up, the boy is not cheating on you, until 2 months ago I was in a relationship that lasted 3 years and 8 months, I never cheated on her, what did I not do for her, and finally she came out one of the light women. Trust the boy, try not to fail in any way, because then you will really regret it :) Good luck!
Thanks for the advice :)