Hey, hello! As difficult as it is for me, I will be as brief as possible. 10 months ago I was abandoned by the "love of my life". For months I did not accept the separation and I struggled with nails and teeth that this is not the end, but alas ... I love (yes, I know it is now) a lot of this boy. He is more than perfect for me. We had a great relationship based mostly on passion. But we didn't trust each other. We constantly questioned each other's fidelity. Yes, later this mistrust ended our relationship. I (10 months later) want and am ready for a new relationship. My question, however, is whether I'm clinging to one, like a "straw walker," looking for a way to forget my love. This is where my story begins. A few months ago I met a boy. From the moment in which I saw him I was captivated by his smile. And as soon as our eyes met ... I decided I should try. It is high time I stopped living in memories. There's a thrill, why not !! So little by little, this boy and I brought our relationship together. We are together now. We feel good with each other, we talk for hours about everything, we trust each other (at least I think so) ... HOWEVER ... He doesn't want to have sex with me, he can't. Yes, we talked about it. He has some personal problems that I know about. He claims that everything is because of them and that he needs time to deal with them, and to be calm, and to be able to indulge in other pleasant things. But ... I don't think that's the problem ... Or at least it's not just that. The truth is that I am the initiator of most things that happen between us. I do not know what to do!? !! I like him. You will ask him how he feels? !! I do not know! In 1 month he told me that I am beautiful more times than my ex-boyfriend in 1 year. He also claims that he is fine with me and that this is not the reason why he has no desire for sex. Am I blind? I want things so badly between us that I don't see the truth? !! I do not know!? Help me, please.
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Why are you so sure he's lying to you? It could be some shameful disease and he doesn't want to tell you because it's ... you know shame.
Homosexual ?!
not worth it
Keep one thing in mind, because you can be very sick without sex if it goes on forever. I have been suffering like this for years ...
Look for another! Not in this man for you. How old are you? 20-25? Relationship without sex ... It is not a relationship, not after you turn 20.
I think you should try.
Sex and love are different things. Sex is one thing and love is another.
He's probably confused and doesn't know what he wants from you. Give him time. That which is yours will come to you. But I don't understand why he doesn't want to sleep with you! Doesn't work for him? How come he doesn't?
Most likely the dude has a problem. I've been to this sled. It was a side effect of a physical problem for me, but when I hit the beam twice and it burned very seriously and on a mental level. I managed with some treatment, but it is very clear to me what is wrong with this comrade. I guess the person is really obsessed with you, but he's just inhumanly plastered because he's worried about being caught and it could happen again. The most important thing in this case is for him to call what the problem is - physically or in the head. From there - with patience and work on the problem things get better. Be calm, don't press him and so on. If the problem is only in the head, then you can do a lot with understanding, patience and reassurance. And little by little, if you can get him to relax and not think about it, things will happen. Encouragement, some praise and you will see how it will spread. :))) If the problem turns out to be on a physical level - urologist, tests and opinion from the doctor what can be done. b.
Yes, you're holding on to the new boy like a straw drowning man, and you look a hell of a lot. In fact, I even think that what's wrong with him is a plus for you, because if you don't have sex, you won't have the compulsive feeling that you're cheating on your ex, whom you admitted that you still love. As for trust - and there is a clear thing - just because you do not love him and you do not care so much with who and where he is, while this with your ex was impossible because of the strong feelings between you. It's best not to just give the new boy too much hope and send him off alive until your relationship deepens, because he may start to sink (if he isn't already), and you're obviously only using him as a substitute. . At some point, sooner or later you will beat his jester, whether it is because of your ex or because of a new thrill does not matter - the important thing is that you will cause him a lot of pain, so you better not delve into it at all. And lastly - as you still have feelings for one, do not start a relationship with another, no one deserves to suffer, knowing that the woman next to him loves another, and he is nothing more than a substitute! Yes, it can take years to fall out of love with the other, but even so during this time it's just ridiculous to start serious relationships, because such relationships when one of the two loves a third person somehow I do not see why or how they would exist ...
you can't forget the old one, you cling to a new relationship, you will even make a child out of him soon, just to become his duck, remember my word, write after a year, was I wrong ?!
Number 12 is right. I support your words with both hands. But I have another question for the author. You are worried about not having sex because: a) you are not physically attracted to it and it affects your self-esteem b) you are worried about it c) you need sex d) another reason Number 13 it does not have to happen, if at all it happens to him. To the author: This is not your man.
I'm not very emotional and so on, but I have an easy and simple solution to the problem - ALCOHOL. Drink a little with the young man, relax and if even then you can not ... quickly to Uncle Doctor. Good luck !!!
Hi, I'm the author. Thanks to everyone for the shared opinion. Number 13, you're wrong. The boy and I broke up. He wished so. He had many problems and worries to focus on. I guess that's better. Yes, I have mixed feelings right now - underestimated, neglected, misled and relieved at the same time. But there is no end to this grief for my ex-boyfriend ...
Author: Number 15, that with alcohol didn't help at all. Number 14, I don't look bad, not at all. My ex-boyfriend is a volleyball player with a great body, he could have anyone he wanted. He wanted to sleep with me and he liked it, but he didn't !? !! I do not know what the reason is. I guess it's in me and it definitely worries me and affects my self-esteem. Also YES, I like sex a lot and I'm not particularly happy with the fact that I haven't had one in 10 months. I am 22 years old, I study and work ... Of course I need sex.
You broke up on his initiative, right? Very strange ... Maybe he was scared and the fact that he can't have sex ruined his self-confidence, because he knew that with this problem things would go away ... if all is not lost, try to look for him and if you really like him, tell him that you will give him a chance and help him deal with these problems ... if they are in his head, they will disappear!
hahaha n16 n13 I'm more stupid I haven't heard honestly, you had worries and headaches and what exactly without sharing them with you you were a couple of partners to share !! to fight the difficulties in life came only robbed you watermelon and bye !! you went to flirt. come on please don't need to study psychology for some things, as a man I was on all sides of the love relationship I lied I lied but I never looked back and now I'm happier than ever that my girl didn't benefit from wiping snot !! M-28
I also think like you n13 :). Thanks for your time :) The author