I'm a girl of 17. Every day I wonder what the meaning of life is, why do I have to do such meaningless things like going to school when we do nothing, we waste our time in almost all subjects because so much material has been put in, that teachers don't care to forgive us and make us learn everything, and I'm tired of trying to learn everything to maintain a good diploma, which I don't need, but because I've always been here she only had good grades, I am conscientious now to stop studying and not to practice. On the other hand, I have decided to apply for dentistry, for which I need time, because it is very difficult for me to memorize the topics, and I am even more angry because I understand them perfectly, but I just can't learn them as with the words in the textbook. On the other hand, I don't know if I want to do this, I don't know what's interesting to me. How can I know what I would enjoy doing without practicing it. I chose this profession because I am interested in these subjects, and I like them. And in practice I don't have much choice, because the only stable professions are programming, medicine and law. But to put it aside even if I become a dentist and have a stable income, in the end I still have to live for what - for a family, some momentary experiences, but what is behind it, do we have a mission, what and why.
I'm tired of listening to the same appointed things from people every day, like gossip, who did what, etc., discussing some movies, which coffee we're going to go to. I can't stand to see everyone drifting and doing things they don't know why. I don't even want to go out and see people anymore, but for some reason they are constantly trying to communicate with me and call me out, but at the same time I get annoyed, but I hate to tell them to leave me alone. , because they look at me with a sad look and start asking me if I'm angry with them, if I hate them, etc., and I'm still so nervous. If there is no purpose on this earth, why don't I kill myself right now, what am I losing. I don't feel satisfied when I achieve my goals, I accept it as a kind of obligation, which if I finish - nothing, but if I don't, I feel guilty and depressed that I'm not good for anything and I will fail. I'm tired of living in ignorance. They just tell you live for the moment and rejoice, but that's not enough for me. I don't want to go with the flow. Please give me advice if you find yourself in such a situation.
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Mdaaa: Is it worth living after you die anyway? Is it worth eating after you get hungry anyway? Is it worth taking a bath after getting dirty anyway? Is it worth having sex after you're done at some point anyway? ;)) And so on;)) In general, life is a long prelude to death. To be interesting you have to do things that make sense. What - you decide. ;))
Pleasure is not the ultimate goal of the trip, but the trip itself! :) And I've thought more than once on this topic and not just me. Everyone has done it. Life in itself has no meaning, we give it one. Ah, and so you are here ... experience everything, try everything. There is such a great abundance of everything in this world. And she is certain of death, there is no fear. There are times when I want to take a house in a secluded place and lie down all day. To read, watch movies, learn to cook, or play a musical instrument. At other times I want to travel, still others to go out and run, play football, table tennis, train. In the fourth, I want to work, to make things, to create. In some cases, I want to be bad. To destroy, to strike and to throw. A million moods. A million things. A million experiences. A million wishes. A million dreams ... millions of meanings. Life is yours, so is the choice. Find something that draws you and give yourself to it, be it in work, in learning, in perfection, in a love affair ... whatever you decide. Get a pet, get a tattoo - live your life. Take with a handful ... it's all for you! Or as my father shouts when he gets drunk: From me to know ... eat, drink, live and do not do nonsense. Don't ruin your life for one thing or for someone. Good luck!! M # 21 when drunk: From me to know ... eat, drink, live and do not do nonsense. Don't ruin your life for one thing or for someone. Good luck!! M # 21 when drunk: From me to know ... eat, drink, live and do not do nonsense. Don't ruin your life for one thing or for someone. Good luck!! M # 21
I'm a boy of 17 and I'd tell you I know how you feel. I'll start with the fact that a very large percentage of our sets feel this way or are depressed for various reasons. I myself am depressed because of unrequited love. I don't know what advice I can give you because I can't stop feeling like garbage myself, but remember that it won't always be like that, nothing is eternal - it's the thought that calms me down. Everyone has bad and good moments in their life and somehow you have to go through the difficult ones, talk to someone about this topic or try to understand things from another point of view.
Only life is worth it, we don't have anything else anyway. You have to endure puberty, and it's best to set long-term goals. What is it worth? For everything. For every trip in the mountains, for every yoga, for every tear. Maybe you will become a mother. Or you will have 1000 lovers for each pose of the Kama Sutra one. Or you will decide to get drunk. Aren't you curious what will happen tomorrow, who will call, who will you meet, what theater will you go to? What will you do next, whether your generation will fly in orbit as we now fly by plane. Don't you want to see the Copa Cabana or the Great Wall of China or the Grand Canyon, Rome ... The world is a wonderful place for us who are privileged to be born in Europe today. You have everything you need for a good life. Once it happens to you, just watch what happens. You will die anyway,
Try, learn, even if you don't see the point now. In time you will see it :)
It is worth it and how !! First of all, I congratulate you for focusing on something useful from now on. Do not give up! Secondly, for now everything may seem monotonous to you, because in reality you are still tied to one environment - to the school, which I myself found meaningless, but it's good that they were a boy and my friends, so at least that's why I went. I didn't study there at all, and I'm not sorry, it didn't stop me from doing anything - I applied for several things and I was accepted in all of them, but because I knew how to figure out what to cook for, where to enter and so on. I dreamed of adventure, of traveling. When I graduated, the same summer I went to sea alone, I had a girlfriend in the seaside town and we met, I met other people separately. From then on, I started to love going to the sea again, before I hated it, but since I went alone, I've been very fascinated, so the next year I did it again. I attended various electronic dance parties, which I had dreamed of for years, although alone, I still spoke much better than with others. One must learn to feel good in one's own company. I traveled through different cities - Plovdiv, Pleven, Burgas, Varna, Varna and when I jumped back to Ruse. I also visited the resorts a lot. In the winter I went to see the sea, I traveled alone to the sea and back for a day, it was unique. Even villages that no one knows I visited and hiked in the mountains, I adore the Iskar gorge as well. I went where I wanted. At first I thought I would be bored alone, but no, I even felt better than someone just grumbling at me. I love parties, concerts, as long as I have money, I go. It's only now that I'm almost 21 that I've found some people, with which I can have some fun, but honestly it's not like I was alone. People love to listen to my stories where I've been to experience, nothing that I'm really still a girl of 20. Life for the most part is as a man did, the rest can be some coincidence, luck or bad luck. But nothing is eternal. After every evil comes some good and vice versa. Having a family one day I don't think is bad, and I used to be afraid of it, but it's not really that bad - you don't always become a maid of a Balkan shop, I know a couple with children who travel around the world, travel, sometimes with the children, other times not, they have a house in the village, every week they are both there and resting, they have a family business and they are fine. He who seeks, finds, the world is not only black or only white! but honestly it's not like I was alone. People love to listen to my stories where I've been to experience, nothing that I'm really still a girl of 20. Life for the most part is as a man did, the rest can be some coincidence, luck or bad luck. But nothing is eternal. After every evil comes some good and vice versa. Having a family one day I don't think is bad, and I used to be afraid of it, but it's not really that bad - you don't always become a maid of a Balkan shop, I know a couple with children who travel around the world, travel, sometimes with the children, other times not, they have a house in the village, every week they are both there and resting, they have a family business and they are fine. He who seeks, finds, the world is not only black or only white! but honestly it's not like I was alone. People love to listen to my stories where I've been to experience, nothing that I'm really still a girl of 20. Life for the most part is as a man did, the rest can be some coincidence, luck or bad luck. But nothing is eternal. After every evil comes some good and vice versa. Having a family one day I don't think is bad, and I used to be afraid of it, but it's not really that bad - you don't always become a maid of a Balkan shop, I know a couple with children who travel around the world, travel, sometimes with the children, other times not, they have a house in the village, every week they are both there and resting, they have a family business and they are fine. He who seeks, finds, the world is not only black or only white! that I'm actually still a girl of 20. For the most part, life is like a man did, the rest can be some kind of coincidence, luck or unlucky. But nothing is eternal. After every evil comes some good and vice versa. Having a family one day I don't think is bad, and I used to be afraid of it, but it's not really that bad - you don't always become a maid of a Balkan shop, I know a couple with children who travel around the world, travel, sometimes with the children, other times not, they have a house in the village, every week they are both there and resting, they have a family business and they are fine. He who seeks, finds, the world is not only black or only white! that I'm actually still a girl of 20. For the most part, life is like a man did, the rest can be some kind of coincidence, luck or unlucky. But nothing is eternal. After every evil comes some good and vice versa. Having a family one day I don't think is bad, and I used to be afraid of it, but it's not really that bad - you don't always become a maid of a Balkan shop, I know a couple with children who travel around the world, travel, sometimes with the children, other times not, they have a house in the village, every week they are both there and resting, they have a family business and they are fine. He who seeks, finds, the world is not only black or only white! Having a family one day I don't think is bad, and I used to be afraid of it, but it's not really that bad - you don't always become a maid of a Balkan shop, I know a couple with children who travel around the world, travel, sometimes with the children, other times not, they have a house in the village, every week they are both there and resting, they have a family business and they are fine. He who seeks, finds, the world is not only black or only white! Having a family one day I don't think is bad, and I used to be afraid of it, but it's not really that bad - you don't always become a maid of a Balkan shop, I know a couple with children who travel around the world, travel, sometimes with the children, other times not, they have a house in the village, every week they are both there and resting, they have a family business and they are fine. He who seeks, finds, the world is not only black or only white!
To have fun and not care, that's what you live for
M 39 And did you happen to notice that at this age 50% of girls think and think like you? Who was "tired" of life. Another could not forget anyone. That she was a virgin or no one understood her. This is a stage in life and the hormones that get mixed up in your brain. You had homework and lessons. Well, rejoice. I have been without a father since I was 16 and I needed the income to touch the lives of the other 16 years old. There was no one to give it to me. And I got into real life. I found any job, just to be able to go out in the evening with my "friends" for coffee. I'm not talking about restaurants and chalgoteks. To this day, I've been pushing like an idiot for 23 years, just so I can provide something to eat for my child and wife. And I wanted to study. I wanted and still want to become a gynecologist. But who would give me these conditions? You have not reached the stage of appreciating what you have. Tired of studying and let's live. Dentistry is an expensive profession. People will always be born with teeth and will constantly make money for them. Additionally, they advertise the biggest enemy of tooth enamel. Who can explain to them that toothpaste is a slime paste with aromas. It is enough only with the brush and mouthwash. We will not carry these teeth in the grave. I know two dentists. One has a 15 meter yacht. Three cars. Two penthouses and two more two-bedroom apartments. The other bought a three-storey building with a built-up area of 1000 square meters. I'm not talking about what funds they have. Do you still find the teaching annoying? You will grow. You will want to raise your own child. From your genes and blood. With all your existence you will want it to grow happily and healthily. To teach him to live better. And all this will be accompanied by your happiness and love. Use this gray matter in your head. Life is already disgusting and short.
God gives life only to those who can experience it, he draws his own conclusions.
Why do you always write quickly, by phone, etc. and then apologize for any mistakes !? Well, write it from a desktop computer, write it slowly and / or check it for errors before publishing! Or you just know that you are illiterate and so you insert an apology and justification ... Have a little respect for your readers! They take the time to read and answer you, and you don't take the time to write it like people do !?
Yours is called "Existential Crisis", and everyone has been through it. There are a lot of videos on youtube with the psychologist Jordan B. Peterson, and they can help you. As they wrote before me: there is no meaning to life in principle. It all comes down to What goals will you set for yourself in the future? For 1 of my neighbors, the goal is to have money for a bottle of vodka at 8.00, and for my classmate to work at CERN. NEVER give up your education! Choose a specialty, and go up and forward. The most important thing is to combine what you are given with what you like.
To number 10 I don't know if the author will find your opinion useful, but it was mine. Thank you and success in life, you are not old, I wish you to enjoy life, and in other ways, except through your child, who, of course, let him be healthy and be a good person :)
From the author to 10: Yes, I really understand that from your point of view I look like some ungrateful person who doesn't appreciate anything, but my problem is not the school, it was like an example of the things that force us to do, and it practically doesn't make sense. I will use the school again because I am closest to it. What's the point of memorizing things when I can't understand them just to make an assessment, what's the point of people talking nonsense just like that, what's the point of having a family like 90% of them? they fall apart and the problem is that people change and you can't get the other person to do things if they don't want to. And you do not have this right, because it is a separate individual. At some point, everything you fight for can collapse. And in practice, is it the whole life to raise and educate a child. Is this the whole struggle for life to leave something behind? These desires for a family are simply innate to you, if not created, so that children can bring you joy, who would create them. My question was what was behind these primary things. Because we always look at the small and the simple and turn in the same circle. Somehow I can't accept that my life will be spent studying, working, family, momentary experiences and hobbies and death.
Hey! A girl writes to you who, like you, is interested in intelligent things and has intelligent goals, but has realized one thing - there is nothing wrong with being called to live from time to time, or as long as it does not interfere with your learning and goals. With this way of thinking you will remain lonely forever. I fully understand you. Yes. An 80 percent of people are just ... Under any criticism. Chalga, no values, no morals, they are simple. You can't tie a normal story with them. BUT there are also normal people! As a person who is not very social and is even an introvert and notices all these things, I have never suffered from a lack of contacts and friends! I've always found people who think like me. And I'm not talking about people who reject everything and everyone. We go out on a chalga chat pat, we drink, we don't care. The trick is to find the balance. With your way of thinking, you risk being left alone and rejected by everyone forever, simply because ... you are narrow-minded. Those you describe are like that, but you are like that yourself, I don't know if you realize it. Don't reject everything and everyone, and learn to have fun. Nothing will happen to you if you go to a chalga chat pat, drink, if you don't smoke, hookahs at least ... It's fun. As long as it's not every night. Just learn to relax and accept people. It is IMPOSSIBLE that there are no decent and cool people around you. I just don't think you see them. And from time to time you just need to go with the flow, you can learn something ... or open your eyes to some things. Try :) and learn to have fun. Nothing will happen to you if you go to a chalga chat pat, drink, if you don't smoke, hookahs at least ... It's fun. As long as it's not every night. Just learn to relax and accept people. It is IMPOSSIBLE that there are no decent and cool people around you. I just don't think you see them. And from time to time you just need to go with the flow, you can learn something ... or open your eyes to some things. Try :) and learn to have fun. Nothing will happen to you if you go to a chalga chat pat, drink, if you don't smoke, hookahs at least ... It's fun. As long as it's not every night. Just learn to relax and accept people. It is IMPOSSIBLE that there are no decent and cool people around you. I just don't think you see them. And from time to time you just need to go with the flow, you can learn something ... or open your eyes to some things. Try :)
You're just over things! The fact that you are not part of the herd makes me happy, because I am like you! I am a boy of 35, in March 2019 I will defend my diploma thesis, which from now on I will have to read, when I get a job, I will see what kind of colleagues I will have - I like to go to concerts that are free, I shoot them with my camera !! This unloads me, I don't think about anything! Find a hobby, too, when you finish school, you will enroll in university, don't just stay with high school! Don't listen to the others - where did they go, with whom did they go! To go to those fox shops! You and I are of the same mind, we just don't like what everyone does! It's so simple! And I watch TV - movies, TV series, journalism, investigations - everything! And one more thing - we all know what happens in schools - drugs, fights, and now murders! I'm glad you didn't fall victim to someone, that you're not naive! You're just being careful! Me too! Good thing you're not creating. problems of yours - you got drunk somewhere, then to call them from the district that their daughter is not with them, but goes and gets drunk! This is a big plus for you that you are not like that - to shame your parents! And let the others break their heads!
Number 12, can you read? The topic is not,, I can't write because I'm illiterate,,, a,, Is it worth living? ,,. So, if you can't help with the author's problems, you don't have to point out how witty, literate and interesting you are. This will do nothing to solve these problems. I personally share the opinion of number 2. To some extent I agree with numbers 7 and 10. But at 10 I have the feeling that it belittles the author's problem by comparing it with his own. Given that everyone experiences their dramas individually, it is not fair to classify them as another 50%, because for one it can be a big drama that today they broke it at an important exam for him, and for another that he gave BGN 50. for a manicure, for example, his nail happened today and he can't go to an important meeting for him. For everyone, his dramas are the most important! Otherwise, there would be no dramas leading to depression. So no matter how insignificant one problem is for one, the same problem can even be deadly for another. And I think that the author looks at this problem much more deeply, and this is evident in the logically asked questions.
Girl, you need sex and you don't know it. When a woman says "I don't know what's wrong with me," she's just being fucked. Elementary, but in 90% of cases it turns out to be a reality.