I will start from the fact that I am a married woman with a child. I am young and attractive. At first I was very happy, but over time, everyday life prevailed and there came a time when I felt like a prisoner. We no longer have the desire to diversify our lives together. Everyone looks at their stuff. Sex has been missing for years. When it happens, it's more of a routine, without kisses. He hasn't kissed me in ages. I suffered a lot in the first few years. Now I have no desire, it's insulting for me to push me and not hear when I talk to him. The TV is more interesting than me and the child. There is also no interest in the child. There is no interest in the car, in the home, in the family. Come to think of it, he was like that from the beginning, but I had a great desire to give. I gave up for a year. It's a real pain to provoke something in him. And the other men ... there is no one I am indifferent to. And of course, a special one appeared among them, which captivated me and I don't stop thinking about him. I told myself, no more children, the family is a trap, the family is a prison, it kills love. But then I started thinking about a second child, about the new man, about how I can be happy. I thought so the first time. Is it possible for a person to be married and happy? Yes, we see such couples. But is everything really okay with them? Are they cohesive, are they gentle, is their sex ok? Is it worth it to commit again or in 5 years I will be in the same situation again, but with 2 children from different men and older? Are strong feelings and love a lure to fall into the trap of family life? Is complete happiness possible? And he, the new one, I adore him, I missed love so much, love in the form of kisses, sex and butterflies in the stomach. And again, I fool began to dream of a child from him. To spoil our good relationship with midnight roar, stress ... And the worst thing is that we do not take precautions and a pregnancy is completely real. And there are so many unknowns. I don't even know what he means to me. What can he intend, knowing each other for a month. He also likes me very much, but it is too early to talk about intentions. I've been very tense lately, I don't eat, I don't sleep, I only think about him. I fell in love with him when I saw him, the world stopped and I saw nothing but his eyes. And I'm not the type to look into the eyes. There were a few men I interacted with, just for company, they were nice to me, and I would eventually have sex with someone. I dumped them all. I don't want anyone else but him. I dropped the activities, the commitments. I relaxed downstream. I feel like I'm sitting on the edge of a rock. It's not good on the rock and I want to jump, but it's dark below and I don't know where I'll end up. And last but not least, I worry that he is very attractive, drives a very expensive car, lives in luxury. There could be women, girls, beautiful, younger than me. He and I are no less than him, but I'm worried. I have no worries with the current man.
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The choice is in your hands. I will not blame you, you will do it yourself sooner or later. The consequences are for you. And when the euphoria passes, you will wonder whether to continue with the boring or the interesting. Author, answer a question for me - how many years have you lived with your husband and how long have you had a child and since the appearance of the child has everything started to fall apart? F27
I think you are about to repeat a big mistake in your life. The first time you did not think soberly and rationally, but completely let go of your emotions. Now you are doing exactly the same. And you can no longer afford it - your mother. You've known the man for a month and you don't even take care of yourself .. Don't turn out to be a single mother with two children from different fathers at one point .. Why don't you think about diversity this time. Evaluate the person in question despite his feelings - what are his qualities and shortcomings. In the meantime, by no means do you have unsafe sex. Separately, if you don't love your current husband, break up with him. This is often the case. Separate the child, but do not take him to the new one, nor introduce him to him. And over time, if this person proves himself, only then can you gradually introduce him into the child's life. After accepting it, if all goes well, you can live together. See how you will deal with everyday life together (there are always some). And only then, when you really know this person well in various aspects, can you think of a child. First a stable family, then a child. Not the other way around. It's time for you to control your emotions, to grow up. Understand that not everyone who likes you becomes a husband. Make your child a priority. Not to sacrifice for him, but to comply. After all, you brought him into this world and no love and butterflies could be more important! G30 who likes you becomes a husband. Make your child a priority. Not to sacrifice for him, but to comply. After all, you brought him into this world and no love and butterflies could be more important! G30 who likes you becomes a husband. Make your child a priority. Not to sacrifice for him, but to comply. After all, you brought him into this world and no love and butterflies could be more important! G30
What you call love are hormones, and you can't build a family on them. I do not rule out the relationship of some couples to have a real love on which to build a family. But this is probably below 1%. In the time of the family, it was clearly seen mainly as a duty and a price to be paid to live in a civilized society. This was forgotten, and Hollywood popularized "romantic love," which is nothing more than animal love, and hence the term "search." Love is created, not "sought". So don't expect a second time, a different result than the first ... Besides, love is not "happiness" because it is not a dopamine secretion in your brain. Often love is pain, suffering, devotion, sacrifice, and so on. Hey, such long-forgotten things, especially from women ...
I'm amazed at your naivety. As you describe it, the gentleman in question can easily grab a 22-year-old student with a top appearance and make her children if he wants. You're sunken and you don't think sober. Instead of looking for the reasons why your marriage is falling apart, you immediately look for the easy way out - a lover, divorce, a new family, a new child, etc. Except that there is no guarantee that in 5 years you will not get bored with the new one (in fact, I guarantee that you will probably get bored ... as you say, you have known him for 1 month and you still live in the thrill).
Well you have a choice. Family or butterflies. Foreign men do not want family, they want sex. The fact that you dream and fantasize about various things does not mean that it will happen exactly like that. Most likely, other things will happen that you will not like so much .... You have a family, a husband and a child. What pippiruds did they chase? Family life is a sacrifice and a duty. The time for shivers, piperuds, etc. is over. But if you think it is not, divorce and indulge your desires. You don't have to cheat.
A smart man once said: Smart people remove the problem, and stupid people remove the person. Apparently, the renaissance of militant ubiquitous and global stupidity has now arrived. Married women, they talk like schoolgirls and want shivers and butterflies ... And stingy people who are complexed by their low conversions and zombies on TV ... Another smart friend of mine says: Smart men read books and stupid ones watch TV .. I don't think you need to be very smart to understand the hint. You have found a resemblance. Stay with the man and look after the children. You have a chance, at least you come out smart. :) Marriage is not just fun and butterflies, but responsibility, but if it doesn't make you dizzy and you decide to go on the slide, at least do it right. Divorce and break your head if you feel like it.