Hello readers! I decided to share with you a strange situation I am in at the moment. And I will be happy to give me an opinion and especially advice. I am a girl of 19, two weeks ago I was at a home party with my friends. There was alcohol, music, dancing, ah. At one point a boy came to dance with me, and we were both drunk already. Shortly afterwards, I decided to retire to freshen up and catch my breath. Then the boy in question came to me and started kissing me, I replied because I liked him a long time ago, but I decided that he only accepted me as a friend, and we were only hello, I was quite surprised. He kept touching me and saying, "Come on, why don't you want to, why not?" I told him he didn't know me and that he had been drinking, to which he replied that he was a shy man. We went downstairs, he didn't stop looking at me like I was something to eat, he was coming to me, and before that he showed no interest. Kissing me, he ignited a spark in me. We met after the party because he wanted to explain. Not knowing how to act on me, he decided to drink. Besides, I was with another boy a year ago, so he didn't want to try. Thinking that I did not like him, I replied that he was quite wrong in his judgment, because it was just the opposite. He was kissing me, holding my hand, asking me about my life and about me, as if he wanted to know me, I don't know.
A few days later we saw each other again, but it seemed to me that he was withdrawn, cold, then we saw 2 of our friends, he behaved even more contemptuously and a little rudely, as if I was part of the decor, as if I were one from his avers. At one point, tears welled up in my eyes, but I hid my pain. And when I got home, I cried my eyes out, I was disappointed. I don't think that I deserve the nasty treatment of a man I have treated kindly, carefully, and warmly. I told him that he had insulted me with his behavior, he was sorry, he thought I was having fun and I enjoyed it. A mutual friend asked him what he wanted - not only to sleep with me, but he wanted to see in time if we would fit. (?!?) This puzzled me a lot and made me think, is it worth waiting for him to understand what he wants with me? I'm skeptical.
After all, if you like someone, you throw yourself headlong, you try, you act. And here I do not see any action on his part. I don't understand, I'm really dark India this boy. That he is aware is one thing, but this inaction is terribly difficult. Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will take his time for me? to whom I have been kind, considerate, and warm. I told him that he had offended me with his behavior, he was sorry, he thought I was having fun and I enjoyed it. A mutual friend asked him what he wanted - not only to sleep with me, but he wanted to see in time if we would fit. (?!?) This puzzled me a lot and made me think, is it worth waiting for him to understand what he wants with me? I'm skeptical. After all, if you like someone, you throw yourself headlong, you try, you act. And here I do not see any action on his part. I don't understand, I'm really dark India this boy. That he is aware is one thing, but this inaction is terribly difficult.
Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will devote his time to me? to whom I have been kind, considerate, and warm. I told him that he had offended me with his behavior, he was sorry, he thought I was having fun and I enjoyed it. A mutual friend asked him what he wanted - not only to sleep with me, but he wanted to see in time if we would fit. (?!?) This puzzled me a lot and made me think, is it worth waiting for him to understand what he wants with me? I'm skeptical. After all, if you like someone, you throw yourself headlong, you try, you act. And here I do not see any action on his part. I don't understand, I'm really dark India this boy. That he is aware is one thing, but this inaction is terribly difficult. Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will devote his time to me? sorry, I thought I was having fun and I enjoyed it. A mutual friend asked him what he wanted - not only to sleep with me, but he wanted to see in time if we would fit. (?!?) This puzzled me a lot and made me think, is it worth waiting for him to understand what he wants with me? I'm skeptical. After all, if you like someone, you throw yourself headlong, you try, you act. And here I do not see any action on his part. I don't understand, I'm really dark India this boy.
That he is aware is one thing, but this inaction is terribly difficult. Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will devote his time to me? sorry, I thought I was having fun and I enjoyed it. A mutual friend asked him what he wanted - not only to sleep with me, but he wanted to see in time if we would fit. (?!?) This puzzled me a lot and made me think, is it worth waiting for him to understand what he wants with me? I'm skeptical. After all, if you like someone, you throw yourself headlong, you try, you act. And here I do not see any action on his part. I don't understand, I'm really dark India this boy. That he is aware is one thing, but this inaction is terribly difficult. Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will take his time for me? ? )
This puzzled me a lot and made me think, is it worth waiting for him to understand what he wants with me? I'm skeptical. After all, if you like someone, you throw yourself headlong, you try, you act. And here I do not see any action on his part. I don't understand, I'm really dark India this boy. That he is aware is one thing, but this inaction is terribly difficult. Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will devote his time to me? ? ) This puzzled me a lot and made me think, is it worth waiting for him to understand what he wants with me? I'm skeptical. After all, if you like someone, you throw yourself headlong, you try, you act. And here I do not see any action on his part. I don't understand, I'm really dark India this boy. That he is aware is one thing, but this inaction is terribly difficult. Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will devote his time to me? but this inaction is terribly difficult. Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will take his time for me? but this inaction is terribly difficult. Should I wait for him, or should I continue with someone who is determined and will take his time for me?
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Don't wait for him!
The boy was expecting sex, if he was serious and decent, he would not behave like a moron.
Look now, very often in order to receive the Grand Prize (which in this case is a great relationship with a serious and decent person) you have to work hard! So just stand passively, "disappointed" and roar - things will not work out! He has shown you that he likes you, he has taken a step towards you, but you have also taken a step towards him! You are 19, you are still super-inexperienced. Why do you think that the boy is not acting out of a squirrel, and you do not assume that he can worry too much, that he is uncomfortable, that he is not yet fully aware of his thoughts and feelings, and how to react to them? He may wait day after day with a broken heart for you to go to him alone, hug him and tell him that you love him. But this day does not come and does not come, and he is disappointed and suffers accordingly ... You say: "Being conscious is one thing," well show him that you are too! "After all, if you like someone, you throw yourself headlong, you try, you act." - that's in the movies, isn't it? Where everything is pre-directed and known ... In life, things almost never happen exactly like that, especially when you are still young and inexperienced, when you are not fully aware of your feelings, nor do you know what awaits you in the future if you take a certain step. ... Don't be enslaved to stereotypes! The relationship is a joint creation! Whatever YOU do, it will be! If you don't like something in it, first of all look for the fault in YOURSELF, and not in the other ... "well, he wanted to see in time if we would fit in." - and what else does a person who is looking for a serious relationship want? ? Isn't that exactly it? You see a potential partner, you like him in appearance and as much as you have led him by behavior, you have taken some small and not very skillful step towards him, what is your next concern? Will you fit! Because if you are not, if he thinks that he is entertaining you, and you are furious, you decide that he has offended you, and you roar your eyes afterwards - do you call him "fitting"? The opposite is true, in my opinion. And if you find yourself in a similar conflict on 3-4 other topics, well, it makes it clear that there can be no connection, even if you like yourself and want it! Number 2, the "moron" (or rather the minor) is you, believe me. and you roar your eyes afterwards - do you call this "fit"? The opposite is true, in my opinion. And if you find yourself in a similar conflict on 3-4 other topics, well, it makes it clear that there can be no connection, even if you like yourself and want it! Number 2, the "moron" (or rather the minor) is you, believe me. and you roar your eyes afterwards - do you call this "fit"? The opposite is true, in my opinion. And if you find yourself in a similar conflict on 3-4 other topics, well, it makes it clear that there can be no connection, even if you like yourself and want it! Number 2, the "moron" (or rather the minor) is you, believe me.
The dude did everything according to the textbook, first you get positive emotions - tenderness, caresses, interest then negative - disrespect, lack of tenderness, humiliation - here you start to doubt yourself and what you see once and then so, more you sink so much then you want proof of the doubts, again positive you are already going crazy - you are already doubting yourself and what you see and hear. Everything becomes enchanting and you only want him. Perfect combination. He is called an emotional vampire, or in other words he tramples and humiliates you in order to possess you, he wants to connect all your emotions with him. I don't know why, but with this trick you lose your mind. Science psychology.
He got drunk and wanted sex. You didn't give it to him, you hit him on the ego. This behavior is perfectly clear to me. If a man is really interested, he will keep looking for you.
From the author: Thanks for the comments. I also forgot to write that his ex is from the company and they hugged quite often, and as far as I know, she has a boyfriend and a few days ago I found out that after the reunion, she slept with them (ie her ex). This shocked and upset me, and led me to think that there was something between them still. Our mutual friend asked him what the hell he wanted from me and he replied that he wanted something serious. But his actions lead me to think that he only wants sex, that he has not overcome the ex, with whom they have been separated for more than a year, and the dumbest thing - that he wanted to use me to forget her. I may not be right, but my intuition tells me that. I don't want to put sin on my soul, but I think they sleep together. Anyway. I asked him directly what his intentions were for me, the answer was somehow mocking and arrogant: "