Is it wrong to fall in love with another in these circumstances? I am the second wife. the husband - from the first marriage a child, reluctance for another. after seeing his mother, a sharp change in his attitude towards me - memorized words that his child was more important, that I was not good for anything, as I had a lot of them ... (I have an education and a job, and he -no, first marriage, I'm not a reason for divorce) I know that they talk behind my back, intrigue some ... and suddenly my longing for love turned to another. I follow the "rules of marriage", even though they are not followed for me. I'm not cheating, I'm not looking for temporary adventures. To the ladies, how would you act in my place?
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Nothing is understandable. Learn to express yourself. The child from the first marriage is more important than you and get used to it. If you behave well with the child, take him on vacation and at home, maintain a relationship, then everything is fine. Do not isolate it. You commit a great sin if you do. Do not compete with the child for the love of your husband.
I would divorce. Alpha, w. 29
Divorce.
Hi, I am a 38 year old man and I can advise you to look for another man who respects you as a woman. You're wasting your time
I didn't understand anything from your story!
You run fast. What are you doing this for?
I'm not a lady, I'm a man ... To me, things sound like a divorce that hasn't happened yet, but is inevitable. And the sooner the better. When he doesn't appreciate you, to go back to his ex or to find another one of the "many" ... When I read such a story and I'm ashamed that I share one gender with similar ...
I would be a whip, this is not a big loss.
I don't see what keeps you from this one when he has such an attitude towards you? What did you like about it? Be careful that your new love does not turn out to be the same "commodity" as the current one.
to number 2: and because the child from the first marriage is more important, shouldn't other children be born? That's why people get married ... and you don't seem to read well: who should take this child on vacation when the father doesn't work? How do you personally "get used" to paying to be treated like a human being? this is called racketeering. would you get used to it or are you a divorcee where you want strangers to pay for your children? !!
and me to number 2: where did it occur to you that this is a competition? the author did not write this. and why are you so sure that if they take him and lead him back and forth, everything will be fine? and why do you think they don't? in the commented text this information is missing, it is not said whether it is true or not. moreover, the method does not work one hundred percent. a friend was in a similar situation: they took him to sea with them, and he was still dissatisfied and did not like it. there is no pleasure here! and who is to blame afterwards: the girlfriend, who instead of resting had to be a babysitter, or the fact that when you are a thorn in someone's side and you stand up, it is still this ...