Hello. I read a lot, but I did not find an answer to the specific question, so I want the opinion of more experienced and experienced. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, and before that we had been in contact for another 6. When we left, I was impressed that sometimes he is a little euphoric during meetings, he called me on the phone - he was inadequate - he grinned aimlessly and ridiculous on serious conversations. This is how the circumstances came about that he introduced me to his company for the first time on his birthday. I knew from before that he smoked marijuana from time to time, I recognized the "symptoms" because I also smoked during my student years, and I didn't find anything disturbing because I didn't know the people around him, but he was a boy from a stable and very erudite family. . However, I was shocked when he was given weed as a birthday present, I won't mention how much he smoked, some switched to another. And the first ones I met were inadequate, in my words from 12 noon. He himself, after the party, did not bother with a man, totally inadequate, totally animal face. We talked the next day - I told him I didn't like what I saw. He didn't say anything, but two days later, when we met, he started the conversation himself, said that he didn't like smoking and there was no more ... But of course, the situation repeated itself, the conversation too, the promise and that ... I I lost faith in his words, after an incident - I got pregnant, and by mutual consent we decided to keep the child, although I preferred to raise him alone - I have the opportunity, but I decided that I have no moral right to deprive him of paternity, I love him. BUT, it so happened that I had a miscarriage. I went home to be calm and recover, and I had no desire to upset him — and he was sad enough about what had happened anyway. He rang in half an hour, until he disappeared from the line in two hours, saying he was hellishly worried and sick when I called, worried that something might happen to him, what was my surprise that he was inadequate — the explanation of pain intoxicated ....
To all my grief over the loss of the desired child, my trust and sympathy evaporated and I "saw". We are not kids at the age of 15, we are at the age of 30, I have a business, he has a stable job - there is no excuse for an adequate person to "comfort" his grief with grass. For me, he just went out and snorted, which he did regularly when we weren't together and when he was hiding. I'm very disappointed, I'm thinking of leaving him, even though he has feelings - he could have shown elementary sympathy, instead, in his euphoria, he said to me, "I'm glad you're all right, that's why I went out to relax." include-how is it recognized is it dependent? There are people in my midst who smoke but do it in a radically different way, and I haven't used it in years. In my opinion, he has no control, or I'm just confused by the pain and inadequate
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I smoked until I was 21 or 22 years old. In my opinion, who has not stopped until a serious age, understand who supports himself and lives with someone ... will never stop
Horror !!! Smoking weed is pure addiction. But to behave in this way..I don't know if only weed is to blame.This person is totally wrong and that's why he smokes and makes more mistakes ... He is addicted ..but no, this must be your problem at the moment. The problem is that he did not react adequately, humanely to what happened. This is a cruel person!
Think that if you go home, it will not stop and you will regret it.
Drugs are a child's story for me. Big men and women in their 30s like you are just frivolous about taking any drugs, including marijuana. I'm your age, and it's more than funny to me when some of my sets use drugs, and I'm just ridiculous when I see 50-year-old uncles sniffing ... I understand you're in your 20s and be deceived in the middle, the company, or whatever you use, but at the age of 30 and with business and serious work - I'm sorry, but I just can't figure it out. Maybe I'm more old-fashioned, or maybe the fact that no one in my environment takes drugs (well, I have 2-3 friends who smoke weed twice a year when they decide to remember their teenage years) has brainwashed me,
I do not know about the addict, so from a distance it is difficult to say. There seems to be no other mechanism for responding to stress than taking substances. Which is really a red light for you. Ask him if he likes something different, let him decide for himself and try a few things. Usually sports, nature, changing circles help. It is really very unfortunate for the child. On the other hand, a child is a permanent stress, think about what his father would have done. Wondering who to look ahead to. Isn't there someone else who attracts you? Maybe less interesting, but more stable for a relationship and family.
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Thank you all for the opinions expressed ... The situation is evolving these days. I had had enough, and after his last drink - I told him everything in his face, at first he denied, then he became aggressive, but as much as he shouted, so I did not save anything without shouting but in a firm and definite tone. He promised not to smoke anymore, I wanted him to swear to me and his mother - and then he said something that finally opened my eyes that the problem is not superficial, but an addiction "I can't swear to you because I can to relax and pull once or twice "I was not surprised who knows how much, but I was quite surprised how deeply he got stuck. I packed up, wished him a merry "hug with Mary," and went to my house. He keeps calling and swearing ... he offers me tests and blood tests, he loved me very much ... he would have sunk completely without me ... and others. I was on the verge of coming back because I love him - then imagine how my life goes in fear every time he is in his company, because he will hardly change it ... imagine how hysterically I will test him, and how in the end account he will blow up, because the environment in which he has pushed himself, will constantly incite him and ask him "why? Do you have such fear of your wife" and at some point he will just pull ... then clog .. Drugs have never been my companion, I may have tried it, but the time has long passed and I decided not to return to the man.
Unfortunately, a lot of my friends use weed and all kinds of drugs and they do it as if they were making breakfast, as if it was something completely normal. They do not worry about anyone and gladly offer to the new people around them, who also do not refuse. I had a friend who is a very famous and talented actor. In the beginning, he rarely smoked weed and it became even more fun with him. After that, however, he started smoking it almost every day. Separate alcohol and cigarettes. Over time, he changed significantly on a mental level - as if he had become a different person. He became aggressive, hypocritical, pretentious, and exhausted. He treated his closest people with contempt, looking at them and me, including an annoying fly. He didn't realize what he was doing to himself and his friends. I couldn't stop him. I endured for a very long time. I once told him in his eyes that this was no longer the man I had once liked. We fought. We were rude. From that moment on, it was as if we had never met. The bad memories and this bitter ending remain ... Unfortunately, addictions are not just the need to get the opiate in question. They change the consciousness, they change the personality after a time, which is very, very pathetic and sad.
Unfortunately, a lot of my friends use weed and all kinds of drugs and they do it as if they were making breakfast, as if it was something completely normal. They do not worry about anyone and gladly offer to the new people around them, who also do not refuse. I had a friend who is a very famous and talented actor. In the beginning, he rarely smoked weed and it became even more fun with him. After that, however, he started smoking it almost every day. Separate alcohol and cigarettes. Over time, he changed significantly on a mental level - as if he had become a different person. He became aggressive, hypocritical, pretentious, and exhausted. He treated his closest people with contempt, looking at them and me, including an annoying fly. He didn't realize what he was doing to himself and his friends. I couldn't stop him. I endured for a very long time. I once told him in his eyes that this was no longer the man I had once liked. We fought. We were rude. From that moment on, it was as if we had never met. The bad memories and this bitter ending remain ... Unfortunately, addictions are not just the need to get the opiate in question. They change the consciousness, they change the personality after a time, which is very, very pathetic and sad.
He's addicted! I smoked for 3-4 years non stop. I stopped because I started to feel sick and I didn't develop as a person. I've also taken hard drugs ... by the way, if your husband smokes weed, you know 100% he takes other harder drugs, but probably only at parties. You just can't feel it because you don't understand these things. Why do you have to leave your husband for smoking weed? I understand that he is an alcoholic and makes scandals, beats you, etc. m28
It all depends on how you look at things. You see grass at the level of cocaine, but not at all. You must be one of the whores who 'hates drugs', but then she goes to a flight bar and shakes her head. You sound like a very responsible and mature woman to me ... To get pregnant by a DRUG addict !!! and to do ABORTTTDTDTt !!! Think that Tommy Chong is 80 and smokes every day, what Willie Nelson, Snoop Dogg, That Olympian with 8 medals, Me, George Washington and other great people. Let the boy smoke it. I am an excellent student and I study abroad and I still smoke, I will smoke until I die.
There is a problem, this is clear to everyone ... Have you noticed what he is like when he has not taken anything for at least 24 hours - does he become more nervous, do his hands tremble, do his senses sharpen (sight, smell, hearing), whether he becomes more sensitive, more easily upset, more self-absorbed, or the other extreme more euphoric, do you notice that he often throws up things related in any way to the grass (or other drugs) ... If the answer to most of these questions is "Yes!" Then the boy really has a serious problem and I advise you to run as fast as possible and as far as possible and not to look back, no matter what he tells you and promises, because you know- addicts are very good at persuasion and lies !!! If the answer to the questions is "No!", Then everything is out of ligature and it makes sense to fight if you really love it! Success! P.P. I tell you this from experience and it is two-sided ... And the fact that a person is educated, smart, well-read and / or with a good job does not mean that it cannot happen to him or his relative! The fact that it happened to him does not make him bad or insensitive, on the contrary - in most cases, hypersensitivity is the thing that drives the drug, as well as problems of any kind in childhood, and why he became so. , for example, his brother-no, again depends on the emotionality and sensitivity of the person!
As far as I understand from history, your man does not smoke only trumps, 100% pipe and chemist. There is no point in even smoking weed, I say it because I smoke, more than 5-6 years with a lot of experience and harvests and not only ... Weed is a drug, it can be lighter, but it is like everyone else, no is much lighter ... Abe you know, success in life. :)