7 months ago I went with a 23-year-old boy - an athlete with a lot of success behind him, and I'm 17. At first it all started as a joke, but he was quite stubborn and insisted on a relationship. I thought it would pass quickly - some short adventure without complicated relationships. At first he was kind, constantly trying to impress me, paying attention to me and taking me to the movies, the mountains, restaurants or just for a walk. We had agreed that everyone has a phone, personal space and friends (so that there are no unnecessary scandals). A few months passed, which passed with furious speed, I did not pay attention that over time our relationship became more serious. He travels frequently (camps, national team training and training camps). and when it comes to ending the relationship he puts all the blame on me and accuses me of having another and that was the reason I wanted to break up with him (here I want to add that I do not cheat on him and I am not his and I don't hide anything from him and I don't worry if he will see something I don't need in my phone). I want advice and an opinion on what you think is cheating on me and if so why does he not want to end our relationship.
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Your man is not literate! And even with these opportunities that his sports career gives him, considering his age, he will hardly stay only with you ...
In my opinion, he is cheating on you and not with an end, but he does not want you to end the relationship in order to have a backup option. It's better to end the relationship now, because there isn't one and it will fall apart anyway. It's just that the boy is a macho and will go as far as he can and for as long as he can. You will only waste your time with him! Find a valuable man, not an airman who strives to win every race and every woman!
You took it lightly and, accordingly, the "relationship" is frivolous - "I thought it would pass quickly - some short adventure without complicated relationships."
Well, personal space, personal space, but that's all ... In a real serious relationship there must be room for sharing, etc. In my opinion, if you are not happy - you are young, you will have more love, lose it. He may just be like that, freedom-loving - and I understand that. If he had a jealous girlfriend before you, I understand. But the important thing is how do you feel? If you are not happy, the solution is either to talk to him so that he understands you, or to separate.
You yourself felt that he was cheating on you. There is no need to deceive yourself. The question is, do you want to keep him at the cost of the humiliation of infidelity ... or do you want to separate. For now, you're just hiding the truth from yourself, that's why you posted the topic here - you hope they tell you he's not cheating on you. I know very well how you feel, because I've been there too. You better go, you'll be better. You are still very young for such serious relationships, and even when two people are not together in everyday life, it is difficult to say that they have a relationship. I'm a woman, almost twice your age. At your age, everything seemed fateful, great, tragic ... but from the distance of time I see that everything that happened to me was not accidental. I am now with a person we love, and whom I can appreciate precisely because of everything, which I experienced before my meeting with him. Such a relationship is not worth fighting for, I hope you come to this conclusion yourself. At 17, have fun, go out with friends, you will soon become a student and meet many new people, you will be surprised how quickly you will forget it.
Put it this way: "You give him your phone unlocked and you want his to make sure he's not cheating on you." (catch him unprepared without waiting, because otherwise he'll delete his chats) You tell him, "either show me right away what you wrote, or we'll break up right away, I have nothing to hide, here's my phone" And that's if he refuses , so there is something to hide and it is right to leave him, if you do not want to make a fool of you, no woman deserves it, be strong and confident (<3), take it so hard that he understands that you are serious and this time he will not miss it!
Put it this way: "You give him your phone unlocked and you want his to make sure he's not cheating on you." (catch him unprepared without waiting, because otherwise he'll delete his chats) You tell him, "either show me right away what you wrote, or we'll break up right away, I have nothing to hide, here's my phone" And that's if he refuses , so there is something to hide and it is right to leave him, if you do not want to make a fool of you, no woman deserves it, be strong and confident (<3), take it so hard that he understands that you are serious and this time he will not miss it!
lol these liglets with their personal space are the funniest to me. I gave my friend the password from Facebook and told her to do what she wanted because I had nothing to hide, and trust is the most important thing. I also have hers, but I've never come in because I know he's just not that kind of person - when someone starts downloading it, he loses it, and that's it. probably chatting and getting off with a dozen more chicks. It is best not to deal with this type of people at all. M26
A "real relationship" in my opinion begins when you two have agreed that you will be together, if you are a kind of promise, you see each other often. The relationship in which you define yourself in public that you are a couple, meaning this does not mean that it should be on Facebook, but among friends, relatives, etc. When you spend part of your time together, you gather in the company of other people / relatives / friends, at home, outside, eating, sleeping together. When a person has serious intentions towards you, it means that he has to offer you something, cohabitation or make plans for the future, plans for children and even experiments, otherwise I guess a serious relationship, everyone understands differently, someone says a serious relationship in cohabitation, others when with such intentions for this to happen. (p. 27)
The story is just like mine lol, darling remove it then you will suffer.
The thing is, I just feel like he's cheating on me, I didn't catch him at the crime scene. Whenever he sees something foreign, he apologizes to a friend, his girlfriend has forgotten him, or that he wrote to his friend's girlfriend. Indeed, each of you is right, I support your opinions - I myself did not approach correctly at first and when I realized that he is one of the people "leaders" or more precisely he does not like someone to give him instructions or forbid him, I did not leave him this is one of the mistakes because it is these people who find it difficult to make connections and relationships. Indeed, we both had other relationships behind our backs and we both learned lessons and this is true for the "jealous ex" and I think it is because of this girl that I suffer and my relationship goes this way. I still can't say why I'm still happy with him, but I don't fly out of happiness - not always. He gives me security, supports me, I'm calm when I'm with him, I know I don't go with a mold or a drug addict. I'm one of those people who talk a lot, I say to myself everything I don't like, I like it when I have a problem to clarify it and I have an opinion while he, poor thing, seems to take the words out of his mouth with a hook. as short as it can be, which annoys me a lot. But this is my point of view, and his is that our relationship is very good, he does not cheat on me, he tells me that he loves me and does not want to separate and right here I am on the scales I really can not understand if a man cheats on you he will want to end the relationship as soon as possible, and he just does not know how to act and there are some 10% if he does not cheat on me? !? !!
"We had agreed that everyone has a phone, personal space and friends" - your job is both itchy and painful !? You wanted everyone to have personal space and freedom, then you whine that he does what he wants. You don't keep your word, you want him to be responsible, it's not love, it's child's play. Better emphasize learning, because as a 17-year-old, you write illiterately!
I personally address number 12! I am writing here for advice on the subject, and not for someone to tell me that "I wrote illiterately for 17 years". If I have any mistakes it's because I'm in a hurry or because I'm writing from the phone .... I'm writing here because first it's anonymous, second I can get some advice and third I don't "whine", there is a huge difference between a person who wants advice and a person who whines about his relationship. It is also difficult to have a relationship with a person who has built a name and contributed to the success of our country. It is not easy to have a relationship with this type of people, because they are more or less different from others. I'm not with him because he's who he is and he knows that perfectly well. Our relationship started this way, because I said a little above - relationships with this type of people are difficult, and I did not expect for this reason that it will last so long.