Hello dear readers. I thought for a long time whether to share, but now I decided. I've been with him for almost two years. We experienced a lot, parted for a while, and got back together. At first, he didn't me. he allowed it to himself, but over time I think I changed it for the better. Maybe I was and am more emotional and mature in our relationship and I think about things more. I've been seeing a big change in him lately and I'm happy about that. My problem is that I'm crazy jealous. I've just had low self-esteem since school. Not that I don't like myself, on the contrary, I think I'm nice, but I constantly compare myself with others. If you see someone beautiful and well-groomed, I immediately think, what if he sees her if he will like her. And when I'm with him I just have no words. In general, each is like a threat, not because I can't live without it, the problem is entirely personal. And especially his ex.
I found out about her at the beginning of our relationship, I saw her by chance on social networks. Well, the first thing I thought was, we look alike. Big brown eyes, light cheeks with tingles, a crooked tooth, in general, there is a resemblance. To this day, I can't get it out of my head that he's caught up with me because I look like her. Earlier, he had written a mocking comment on a photo of her with a friend. We argued, he said it was just like that, I know it wasn't like that, but I swallowed it and I wrote to an ex with whom we have a good relationship. But still I do not stop remembering and tormented. I'm not sure about myself. I went to extremes when I was jealous of my older sister, that I raised a scandal with him, I just felt that he liked her. Do you think I'm sick? How to fight with me I do not know but I know that with whomever I am I will always be jealous and compare myself with those more beautiful than me. This is my confession, I have not shared it with anyone, because they would think I was crazy. I hope to get advice and opinions
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I don't think you're sick, but still put some limits in yourself. Excessive jealousy and scandals can repel anyone. Think about the point of being jealous ... What do you achieve? - Only negative emotions. Don't waste your time and that of your friend in pointless arguments.
At least the resemblance is only visual ... I realized that I resemble his ex and as interests, as a person ... with the difference that I am more of her in every respect, but there are similarities. Think about whether you don't like men who look alike. He may not have been looking for similarities, but simply his character for a woman.
I think that a person's ability to vote is the same - for example, my husband is supposed to admire blonde girls, but all his exes, and I, his wife, are dark-haired and with duller skin.
Yes, jealousy is a disease and you should not be in a relationship with anyone before you are healed. Can you imagine how your friend feels? If you don't take action, he will leave. And every next one. Don't cause it, deal with your problem on time, good luck!