Hello everyone, I thought a lot before I decided to share my story, but I still decided. I met on a dating site a boy who is abroad. I have never taken such acquaintances seriously and I did not believe that I, like another fool, could be fascinated. We liked him a lot and gradually, from joke to joke, we started thinking about each other and chatting all night. In a few days it will be a year anyway. From the beginning we were both very enthusiastic, he would come in 3-4 months and we were already burning with desire for a first date, we were making plans for a common future, a family. Calls and text messages followed every day. But ... and to this day he has not come. Obstacles to work, lack of documents and what not as a motive for not being able to come. I do not dare to go to him, and he does not insist. Our attitude towards each other has not changed, but somehow time and distance separate us a lot and I no longer know what to think. I don't know whether to believe the promises that next year will surely come. On top of that, he writes not seriously with other girls from such sites. I know that for now I am the only one who has a serious attitude, but how can I believe that one day and another like me will not appear on the same site, in the same way ..... I do not want to press it, because still again I am the girl from the chat and I have no real connection with him. I catch him sometimes lying, staying to write to a girl, but in fact he tells me he's going out .... I don't know what to think anymore, and my head will burst with thoughts and longing for him, even though we're both on opinion that we try not to force things, because we never know each other personally, and if one day we are disappointed live, it will hurt a lot .... The promises of mutual waiting, desire and thoughts for each other remain, but do you think that the thrill will remain for a few more months, if it really comes I sincerely ask anyone who has a similar story or is willing to give me advice. Thanks in advance to everyone.
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Hello, At the beginning of your story it was as if I was reading mine, but with us everything ended well so that we could start living truly happy. I met in the same way, we fell in love. He always found a way to return to Bulgaria for 2-3 weeks, and when his vacation was over I went to him. A year after he wrote to me for the first time, we got married. I think this man is playing you. You and everyone he writes to. He does not hide the hope that he will come. Even if this happens, be very careful and sensible. He knows you've sunk into it and you're easy prey. But I think that after lying to you for a whole year, it's not worth deceiving yourself! You know what to do, but you're afraid you're wrong, aren't you? In my opinion, you should not waste your time in vain hopes. If he wanted to call you and see you, he would. Mine and I met 2 months after we realized we were falling in love with each other. I wish you success!
Ehh, let's just say I've seen better. A 24-year-old girl writes to you. I experienced this virtual crazy love in my real life and we made plans for a common future, etc. I will give you a piece of advice - run while it's time! I will now explain everything to support this comment. I was 21 when the so-called idyll began. At first he was in Bulgaria and he was about to go abroad and we just chatted as acquaintances, but he started paying more attention to me and imperceptibly I lost my mind about this man. He decided not to see me until he returned from exile, and so 2 years passed, during which I waited for him and longed for every moment spent in the internet room and for our conversations. At one point he admitted such things to me that I did not know what to do, that he had a longtime girlfriend with whom he lived (abroad), however, you see, he didn't love her anymore, she was cheating on him, but it was very difficult to be alone there, so they still lived under one roof, they were like roommates. And I was furious, I went wild on the phone (and he called me regularly - almost every day during this period of confession) and I did not know how I accepted his truth. I still don't know if it was true or a lie, but I don't care anymore. And so this game of cat and mouse went through many vicissitudes. I tried several times to put an end to this farce, but I loved it very much and I know that despite all the pain it has caused me, a distorted part of me will always love it. The cherished moment of his return to Bulgaria came. Many times I asked him, when we see each other, to have already clarified who he wants to be with and to say it in my eyes (then only this would stop the subsequent nonsense on my part), but he claimed that when he left, it was eloquent enough and they had nothing else to say. And my frog prince came ... and I fell even more in love. I introduced him to all my friends and people who have value in my life, and he didn't even want me to visit him in his city. I was a student then and lived in a dormitory. He used to come there, he would sit like a bay, I cooked for him, I even washed him ... maybe the thing I will never forgive myself, but it was good for me then. Suddenly he started making plans to go abroad again. And I stumbled, I was not the same, I walked like a patient. I tried to dissuade him, but he did not want to sit and be miserable in Bulgaria ... he was looking for something better - I hope he found it. He and I had plans to get married, and so on. we wanted kids .... And with all my duck brain, I agreed, let him come home and meet my parents. Maybe I haven't made a bigger mistake so far in my life, but as they say, there's always more to go, so I'm relieved :). Naturally, our people liked him a lot, he is a person who immediately senses where the wind is blowing from. 1-2 months passed and he said that he borrowed money and left again. I sent him to the station. I didn't cry, with inhuman efforts I held back my tears until I was alone to watch me cry for him. He cried. He was sad and other nice things, he told me that he would not be there for at most 8 months, he would study things and settle me with him, if I had finished first. Lots of lies, but that didn't stop me from believing. He left and did not call. Finally, because I called him on the old numbers there, he somehow decided to call me, say things that even a child would not believe .... In the end, it turned out that he had returned to his longtime girlfriend, and I deeply doubt that she knew of my existence. This was the most unseen curiosity for me, but I still loved it - then - before I understood and realized all this slop. So if he lies to you and you see him, do not close your eyes, run while it's time .... Good luck and I hope to help you in assessing this so-called. internet love.
Yes, I experienced something similar ... I was not afraid to go to him, I wanted him to come, and that day never happened. At one point, I realized that I was fascinated not by him, but by the possibility that I had met the right person for me. This went on for months, we talked on the phone every day, he called, he had some way to top up his card for a little money, and so on. We even spent a New Year together - on the phone :))). He insisted that I go to him, he had reasons why he could not come, and this continued day after day, without any development. Until I decided to use a trick. I made up a story and told him to see his reaction. And do you know what happened? Oh, horror !!! He poured a lot of slop of insults on me, first on the phone, then I stopped picking up, and he wrote angry letters by e-mail, several times a day and eventually it became clear that he lives with a girl who is expecting a child from him and has met her in the same way, alas :))). So I am in the process of searching again, but I no longer answer men who are just abroad and their way to Bulgaria is interrupted for one reason or another, because I know that I will not be the only girl like him for him. The sites are full of women waiting for their prince - you, me, her ... thousands! Don't get attached to it until you come to see each other face to face and touch each other to find out if you really want to or is it just a virtual illusion ... Good luck !!! who are just abroad and their way to Bulgaria is interrupted for one reason or another, because I know that I will not be the only such girl for him. The sites are full of women waiting for their prince - you, me, her ... thousands! Don't get attached to it until you come to see each other face to face and touch each other to find out if you really want to or is it just a virtual illusion ... Good luck !!! who are just abroad and their way to Bulgaria is interrupted for one reason or another, because I know that I will not be the only such girl for him. The sites are full of women waiting for their prince - you, me, her ... thousands! Don't get attached to it until you come to see each other face to face and touch each other to find out if you really want to or is it just a virtual illusion ... Good luck !!!
It says a 48-year-old woman, my daughter had the same case 2-3 times. My advice, if you are looking for one, is not to connect with it emotionally or in any other way. This will pass with time. It is best not to commit to him with anything, in my observations such things are not appropriate. Of course, you decide. But keep one thing in mind, don't trust so much, let time show.
Naive, but I don't want to despair. Success!
Many thanks to everyone who wrote to me and gave me advice. I am really very confused and do not know what to do.
Hello, a boy writes to you whose destiny somehow resembles yours, only that I was on the other side, namely. I had a long-term relationship with a girl of about 7 years, we were and lived together, until one sunny day she lit up the chats and met a Bulgarian working abroad and little by little like you have built a virtual relationship. And now she has been happily married to him abroad for almost 2 and a half years. I am writing to you with good feelings to give you the courage to act if you truly believe that He is the man with the capital letter. Although I was abandoned, I am very glad that a love story was born out of such a joke.
DEAR GIRL, LISTEN TO MY STORY, I MET A MAN FROM THE UNITED STATES ON THE NET. SHE CONSTANTLY CHEATED HIM WHILE THEY WERE MARRIED. WE TALKED TO HIM ALMOST 24 hours a day ON THE PHONE - DISCOUNT CARDS, EVEN HE PASSED A NUMBER WITH A CODE FROM MY CITY, SO THAT I COULD CALL HIM, AND HE WAS TALKING. I CHECKED- IT CAN BE SO. I FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM SO MUCH THAT I COULD SLEEP - I WAKE UP IN THE MORNING AFTER SEVERAL TROUBLED HOURS AND UNTIL HE CALLED I HAD A SENSE, I HAD THE SENSE. HE ASKED US TO GET MARRIED. I NATURALLY AGREED AND HE DECIDED TO RETURN. I FAILED TO SAY THAT HE HAS A CHILD WHO IS HERE, NOT IN AMERICA, BUT HE ASSURED ME, EVEN SWEARING THAT HE WOULD NOT HINDER US. I LOVED HIM SO MUCH THAT I WAS READY TO WATCH THE CHILD AS WELL. AND ONE SUNNY DAY HE RETURNED - I MET HIM AT THE AIRPORT. WE WENT TO US AND MADE ME IMPRESSED THAT THIS MAN WAS HELL NERVOUSLY AND EXCITED. HE SMOKED 2 BOXES OF CIGARETTES A DAY. HE COULDN'T SLEEP IN THE EVENING. I GAVE HIM TO ACCLIMATE, HE STILL COMES FROM THE UNITED STATES, AFTER ANOTHER SLEEPLESS NIGHT HE SUDDENLY DECIDED TO GO TO SEE THE CHILD, ONLY 4 DAYS AFTER. AND IT WAS 500 KM FROM MY CITY. AND AT THE SAME TIME HE HAD NOT CALLED HIM THAT HE WAS IN BULGARIA AND SO I TURNED OUT THINGS THAT I CAN'T GO, BECAUSE THERE IS NO PLACE. HE LEFT AFTER THOUSANDS OF PROMISES AND OATHS IN THE LIVING OF HIS CHILD THAT HE WOULD RETURN. IN THE BEGINNING HE WAS CALLING, BUT THEN HE STOPPED AND I LEARNED FROM HIS MOTHER THAT HE WAS GOING TO SPAIN, WHICH turned out to be another lie. I WAS CRAZY - I WAS ALWAYS CALLING HIS MOBILE CALL ON HIS CITY, TO HIS FRIENDS, EVEN IN THE UNITED STATES, WHERE HE LIVED IN VAIN. NOTHING - HE DIDN'T CALL THAT WAY. I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED SUCH PAIN. THIS MAN DESTROYED ME BECAUSE HE FEELED EVERY CHANGE IN MY VOICE ON THE PHONE AND WANTED TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AT EVERY MOMENT OF ME. AFTER 2 MONTHS THE MOST DISGUSTING IN MY LIFE, HE CALLED ME, WE EVEN SEE EACH OTHER AND WHAT DID IT TURN OUT - HE LEFT PLAYED FOR A WEEK WITH THE CHILD, WAS WRITTEN. AND THAT HE RUINED MY LIFE, HE WANTED AND SO HE CERTAINLY RETURNED TO THE USA, BECAUSE HE WAS WAITING TO BECOME A MERICAN. DON'T GET INVOLVED - THESE MEN ARE LOOKING FOR A COMPANY BECAUSE THEY ARE LONELY, BUT THEY MAINLY LOOK AT THEIR LIFE THERE. WHY ARE THEY NOT LOOKING FOR WOMEN FROM THERE? THEY CAN'T BE SO EASILY LIE, AND WE CAN, BECAUSE WE LONG FOR A BETTER LIFE THAN HERE. NOTHING - HE DIDN'T CALL THAT WAY. I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED SUCH PAIN. THIS MAN DESTROYED ME BECAUSE HE FEELED EVERY CHANGE IN MY VOICE ON THE PHONE AND WANTED TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AT EVERY MOMENT OF ME. AFTER 2 MONTHS THE MOST DISGUSTING IN MY LIFE, HE CALLED ME, WE EVEN SEE EACH OTHER AND WHAT DID IT TURN OUT - HE LEFT PLAYED FOR A WEEK WITH THE CHILD, WAS WRITTEN. AND THAT HE RUINED MY LIFE, HE WAS PITYING AND SO HE CERTAINLY RETURNED TO THE USA, BECAUSE HE WAS WAITING TO BECOME A MERICAN. DON'T GET INVOLVED - THESE MEN ARE LOOKING FOR A COMPANY BECAUSE THEY ARE LONELY, BUT THEY MAINLY LOOK AT THEIR LIFE THERE. WHY ARE THEY NOT LOOKING FOR WOMEN FROM THERE? THEY CAN'T BE SO EASILY LIE, AND WE CAN, BECAUSE WE LOOK FOR A BETTER LIFE THAN HERE. NOTHING - HE DIDN'T CALL THAT WAY. I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED SUCH PAIN. THIS MAN DESTROYED ME BECAUSE HE FEELED EVERY CHANGE IN MY VOICE ON THE PHONE AND WANTED TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AT EVERY MOMENT OF ME. AFTER 2 MONTHS THE MOST DISGUSTING IN MY LIFE, HE CALLED ME, WE EVEN SEE EACH OTHER AND WHAT DID IT TURN OUT - HE LEFT PLAYED FOR A WEEK WITH THE CHILD, WAS WRITTEN. AND THAT HE RUINED MY LIFE, HE WANTED AND SO HE CERTAINLY RETURNED TO THE USA, BECAUSE HE WAS WAITING TO BECOME A MERICAN. DON'T GET INVOLVED - THESE MEN ARE LOOKING FOR A COMPANY BECAUSE THEY ARE LONELY, BUT THEY MAINLY LOOK AT THEIR LIFE THERE. WHY ARE THEY NOT LOOKING FOR WOMEN FROM THERE? THEY CAN'T BE SO EASILY LIE, AND WE CAN, BECAUSE WE LOOK FOR A BETTER LIFE THAN HERE. BECAUSE HE FEELED EVERY CHANGE IN MY VOICE ON THE PHONE AND WANTED TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AT EVERY ONE MOMENT OF MY LIFE, AND HE DROPPED ME THAT WAY. AFTER 2 MONTHS THE MOST DISGUSTING IN MY LIFE, HE CALLED ME, WE EVEN SEE EACH OTHER AND WHAT DID IT TURN OUT - HE LEFT PLAYED FOR A WEEK WITH THE CHILD, WAS WRITTEN. AND THAT HE RUINED MY LIFE, HE WAS PITYING AND SO HE CERTAINLY RETURNED TO THE USA, BECAUSE HE WAS WAITING TO BECOME A MERICAN. DON'T GET INVOLVED - THESE MEN ARE LOOKING FOR A COMPANY BECAUSE THEY ARE LONELY, BUT THEY MAINLY LOOK AT THEIR LIFE THERE. WHY ARE THEY NOT LOOKING FOR WOMEN FROM THERE? THEY CAN'T BE SO EASILY LIE, AND WE CAN, BECAUSE WE LONG FOR A BETTER LIFE THAN HERE. BECAUSE HE FEELED EVERY CHANGE IN MY VOICE ON THE PHONE AND WANTED TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AT EVERY ONE MOMENT OF MY LIFE, AND HE DROPPED ME THAT WAY. AFTER 2 MONTHS THE MOST DISGUSTING IN MY LIFE, HE CALLED ME, WE EVEN SEE EACH OTHER AND WHAT DID IT TURN OUT - HE LEFT PLAYED FOR A WEEK WITH THE CHILD, WAS WRITTEN. AND THAT HE RUINED MY LIFE, HE WAS PITYING AND SO HE CERTAINLY RETURNED TO THE USA, BECAUSE HE WAS WAITING TO BECOME A MERICAN. DON'T GET INVOLVED - THESE MEN ARE LOOKING FOR A COMPANY BECAUSE THEY ARE LONELY, BUT THEY MAINLY LOOK AT THEIR LIFE THERE. WHY ARE THEY NOT LOOKING FOR WOMEN FROM THERE? THEY CAN'T BE SO EASILY LIE, AND WE CAN, BECAUSE WE LOOK FOR A BETTER LIFE THAN HERE. WE EVEN SEE EACH OTHER AND WHAT DID IT TURN OUT - HE LEFT PLAYED FOR A WEEK WITH THE CHILD, HE WAS TIRED AND WENT TO ANOTHER TOWN WITH RELATIVES. AND THAT HE RUINED MY LIFE, HE WANTED AND SO HE CERTAINLY RETURNED TO THE USA, BECAUSE HE WAS WAITING TO BECOME A MERICAN. DON'T GET INVOLVED - THESE MEN ARE LOOKING FOR A COMPANY BECAUSE THEY ARE LONELY, BUT THEY MAINLY LOOK AT THEIR LIFE THERE. WHY ARE THEY NOT LOOKING FOR WOMEN FROM THERE? THEY CAN'T BE SO EASILY LIE, AND WE CAN, BECAUSE WE LOOK FOR A BETTER LIFE THAN HERE. WE EVEN SEE EACH OTHER AND WHAT DID IT TURN OUT - HE LEFT PLAYED FOR A WEEK WITH THE CHILD, HE WAS TIRED AND WENT TO ANOTHER TOWN WITH RELATIVES. AND THAT HE RUINED MY LIFE, HE WANTED AND SO HE CERTAINLY RETURNED TO THE USA, BECAUSE HE WAS WAITING TO BECOME A MERICAN. DON'T GET INVOLVED - THESE MEN ARE LOOKING FOR A COMPANY BECAUSE THEY ARE LONELY, BUT THEY MAINLY LOOK AT THEIR LIFE THERE. WHY ARE THEY NOT LOOKING FOR WOMEN FROM THERE? THEY CAN'T BE SO EASILY LIE, AND WE CAN, BECAUSE WE LOOK FOR A BETTER LIFE THAN HERE.
What are these "plans for the future and family" .. given that you haven't even seen each other ?! Hey, some women are terribly naive ... how do you even know that when you see each other, you'll like it? That sex will be right? That there will be attraction? That there aren't 101 things in it that irritate you and get on your nerves, it's unlikely that the guy has been sitting for 1 year without sleeping with different women there. So, go find someone close to you and as long as you go crazy
Cute, find a real man, not even from dating sites and enjoy each other. Enroll in dance classes, go out with friends - in a word - engage your mind and do not think about this element. He lives his own life there, and you have lost yours here, subordinating him to a chimera. And if you have your own life with your own goals, you will be more desirable than others. Do you think that if he really loved you, he would not have come to Bulgaria several times? Enough with stupid apologies - both he and you! If he loves you - there is no force to stop him from being with you! At least that's how real men are, one of whom is my husband. As I read your letter, you become very dear to me, and you are probably a very valuable person, so just drop it. He will definitely keep telling you nice stories, but "You will recognize them by their deeds"! That's what the Bible says, and this is a very wise book. I wish you success and tighten up! This is definitely not the love of your life! Trust me! Number 11 is very right. Don't miss your chances by slapping someone who definitely doesn't deserve you! understand - YOU are building your destiny! Don't waste your time on nonsense!
I met my loved one on a website. We saw each other very quickly, maybe because we are sane middle-aged people. However, is this virtual friend of yours a boy or a pensioner, do you know for sure? And are you the only one he's in serious contact with? Hardly, given his chic. And isn't he married and just having fun on the sites? What kind of family with someone who may have sent you other people's photos? You may not even like seeing each other at all. It has happened to me - I see a cool serious man, but no attraction and things end with 1 coffee. Or I see some disgust, unclean and greasy, and in the photos he sent - a mannequin. Think sober !!!
Hello! When you truly love someone, you must not allow any thoughts to make you give up love! Like you, I met a girl, accidentally in the chat, it was a joke, but after two years I loved her to such an extent that I can not imagine that I can live without her! She is everything to me! And a best friend and a woman I'm in love with! Every day we either write or hear each other. So far we have not seen each other live, although we live 10 minutes walk from each other! But that doesn't stop me from thinking about her day and night! I love her very much and I want you to continue to love him too! Good luck