Hello, As, perhaps, it is clear from the title - I do not want to go to team building. I look at my job as a job and no activities outside the office and my working hours concern me. I have no problems with my colleagues - they are literate, do not gossip, do not grieve or slander. It happens that someone makes a mistake, does not do something right, but this is discussed, understanding is shown and we move on. My personal approach is not to get emotionally involved, to accept work just as a job - experience, experience and money. Nothing more. This way I keep my nerves and good relations. If I start to strain, drive, get nervous and take everything personally, I will go crazy.
The problem is with our boss, who always wants us to do different things outside of working hours - to go to the escape room, to another city on weekends, to bars, etc. He brings out the classic banal nonsense about forming a united team, cohesion, a bright future together, five years and all sorts of nonsense sucked out of the fingers. I find it ridiculous, because 80% of the problems we have as a company are due to its solutions and behavior in critical moments - from absolute disappearance for a week, through extremely false promises to us and to customers to unilaterally taking huge amounts. work that he then throws at us. He behaves like a typical Ganyo, who wants to get milk from a chicken without providing resources, time, etc. Then he wonders what happened. It is now our regular practice to do things without telling him to save one-hour tirades, explanations and taking orders with which he is late or, as I said above, just turns off his phone and is gone. Otherwise, he is always busy with "something".
We get along with our colleagues and work very well without his "help". It's just that most of the time it interferes and complicates the situation a lot. This, of course, is discussed with him, but he persists or kills him for some joke that he is just a stupid man and not to quarrel with him so much? !? This whole tirade was to say why I don't want to waste my valuable personal time with teambuilding.
The problem is not in the colleagues but in him. If he doesn't change his approach, we can go to the moon, but that won't help. We will just get stuck somewhere and for 4 hours we will listen to spectacular plans for success and big profits. Absolutely, which he talks about during working hours. I have more interesting and useful things to do. So is there any element of obligation to attend such events? I don't have a clause in the contract that mentions that I have to go. Can he do anything to force me - a written order, a fine? I plan to persist like an absolute donkey, but I'm the only one of them, although it's clear to them. Thanks!
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As far as I know, it's not necessary, but I don't know what your boss will think of. Doesn't life make you sad that you don't want to walk?
Hello author! Why do you use coupe words? We have Bulgarian words - "banquet" and "room of mysteries"! And the boss is not correct as long as he saves on materials, and he takes care of all of you if you make a mistake, given that it is his fault!
If you have nothing in the contract, there are none. The problem comes from HR. Even if you don't have such a department, your boss is definitely irradiated. The work of HR is to protect the company from its employees, making the boss feel good, trying to prescribe all sorts of merits. I had some ladybugs who claimed that free pizza and "weekend bars" raised productivity, but I still insist that productivity had risen because the weekend bar on Friday was from 8 a.m. and stood in the office from 4:30 to 8 p.m. : 00 received "free drinks", so watch how 23-4 year old carp were hunted, and then lied to go and on Saturday, where "for a short time", they worked for another 4-5 hours. Perfect way not to pay overtime - after all, they work for themselves, right? Otherwise - reasons! I'm telling you straight - find your reasons. On Monday and Wednesday you are dancing, on Tuesday you and your son watch the NFL league (no one in Bulgaria watches the NFL league, I don't even know if there is a show on Tuesday, but no one asks), on Thursday you are in a pottery course with your wife and on Friday night, you meet your brother and your whole family. Say you have Jewish roots and you can't work on Saturdays and you're golden! Come on success! And if they put you in some fucking escape room ("The room of mysteries ... ahAHAHHAHAha ... ahhhhh :) ....), you take a" wait "and groan that you're hurt, then say you're a lot stressed by the social tension you are subjected to (the same politically correct prostitutes they apply) and will quickly give up, at least to deal with you. on Tuesday you watch the NFL league with your son (no one in Bulgaria watches the NFL league, I don't even know if there is a show on Tuesday, but no one asks), on Thursday you and your wife take a pottery course, and on Friday night you meet with his brother and his whole family. Say you have Jewish roots and you can't work on Saturdays and you're golden! Come on success! And if they put you in some fucking escape room ("The room of mysteries ... ahAHAHHAHAha ... ahhhhh :) ....), you take a" wait "and groan that you're hurt, then say you're a lot stressed by the social tension you are subjected to (the same politically correct prostitutes they apply) and will quickly give up, at least to deal with you. on Tuesday you watch the NFL league with your son (no one in Bulgaria watches the NFL league, I don't even know if there is a show on Tuesday, but no one asks), on Thursday you and your wife take a pottery course, and on Friday night you meet with his brother and his whole family. Say you have Jewish roots and you can't work on Saturdays and you're golden! Come on success! And if they put you in some fucking escape room ("The room of mysteries ... ahAHAHHAHAha ... ahhhhh :) ....), you take a" wait "and groan that you're hurt, then say you're a lot stressed by the social tension you are subjected to (the same politically correct prostitutes they apply) and will quickly give up, at least to deal with you. Well, that's it - Good luck! but no one asks), on Thursday you and your wife take a pottery course, and on Friday night, you meet your brother and your whole family. Say you have Jewish roots and you can't work on Saturdays and you're golden! Come on success! And if they put you in some fucking escape room ("The room of mysteries ... ahAHAHHAHAha ... ahhhhh :) ....), you take a" wait "and groan that you're hurt, then say you're a lot stressed by the social tension you are subjected to (the same politically correct prostitutes they apply) and will quickly give up, at least to deal with you. but no one asks), on Thursday you and your wife take a pottery course, and on Friday night, you meet your brother and your whole family. Say you have Jewish roots and you can't work on Saturdays and you're golden! Come on success! And if they put you in some fucking escape room ("The room of mysteries ... ahAHAHHAHAha ... ahhhhh :) ....), you take a" wait "and groan that you're hurt, then say you're a lot stressed by the social tension you are subjected to (the same politically correct prostitutes they apply) and will quickly give up, at least to deal with you.
Number 3 made it up well :) In my former company we were also regularly guided by team building and other social activities. The bosses kept saying that attendance was not mandatory, but optional, but in a tone that suggested it was mandatory. Several times I got away with different excuses. Most colleagues didn't care that I didn't go, but there was a group that got angry and asked, "Why didn't you come?", "Aren't you nice?" And slandered the others. I decided not to create headaches and just "wanted" to be present. I completely understand you. Good luck getting out!