I went out in a company, and we got closer to some of the people, including a boy my age. We shared a lot, including about the love life and gave each other advice. Over time, things changed, there was an attraction between us. We wrote to each other for a few months, but not only as friends. In general, we were neither just friends nor boyfriends. I was angry with him several times because he didn't pay attention to me, and he was trying to make things right. Twice he invited me to a meeting and both times I refused simply because I felt insecure. He had invited me to a romantic place (a very beautiful park) near our city. I was afraid that I would push him away with something and lose him. After the second time I refused, he pulled away from me, and then it took me a while to regain his trust. I didn't explain to him that I felt insecure, I just sincerely apologized to him and promised him that when he returned, we would really see each other. He came home and asked me when we would go out on a date - to say when I was comfortable and where. I told him when I was free and asked him to tell me where the answer was, "I don't know," or, "We have to figure it out." What is there to invent? Why don't you invite me to the same place again and this time we'll go? I am embarrassed to raise the issue, because you go there by car, such was his proposal last time - to take me by car and go for a walk. I want our first meeting to be there, because I really think we'll both have the most fun there. In general, the city is small and there is no cinema, almost no readable cafe or restaurant and there is not much choice. Not to mention that the readers are full of gossip, who then gossip and curious and somehow I do not want to spread us, and he expressed this opinion before me. How can I tell him, why don't we go with your car to that park '' given that we are neither a couple nor do I want to command him. I'm uncomfortable. I'm waiting for him to remember, but it doesn't work. I'm sick and I can't figure out if he doesn't like me enough anymore, or am I mistaken somewhere?
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You're wrong because you've already played him and you don't understand that it's normal for him to be cautious now. Does the place matter? When you are with someone you want to be with, you can have a great time on a bench in front of a block. Offer him a walk in the city, offer him to go to that park, if he still wants, offer him to drink some bad coffee somewhere, but to be together and see each other. With this thinking, procrastination and whining, you will not get anywhere.
He offered you a meeting twice, you turned down twice, and now it's your fault that he didn't offer you a meeting at the same place. Female "logic". Tell him that you are confused and insane and that you would like to go out in the park again, but keep in mind that he may not want the park because it is already late autumn ...
Your last 3 sentences describe the way he felt when you cut him twice. He's probably trying to give it back to you now, and as far as I can see he's succeeding. These are the normal things in love. Since you both obviously like each other, I hope things work out. You're probably small and you don't know, but we men value openness. He can't read your mind and he doesn't know about the hurricane in your head and the real motives behind your failures. He perceived it as a lack of interest in him or as "making interesting" ... and hence his subsequent behavior.
Take a little initiative and you. You cut it twice, now you have to compensate. You can't just wait for him.