I completely confused my life. I didn't see where things were going at all or I could see, but I didn't know what was going on and how to change something. I don't even know where to start. In general, I am at or below zero in all areas and I am increasingly desperate. I plan for the future and not to stay in this situation forever. I am 30 years old and I work as a dishwasher for BGN 450 and I live with my mother, who screams at me every day, insults me very badly, last summer she touched me, made fun of me and has me as a geek, like all other people. . I have no friends, I have never had a boyfriend, nor have I had an intimate relationship. I have a high school education, I do not speak languages. I have another problem, healthy, I am seriously obese, 175 kg. I am and no one wants to communicate with me. It depresses me terribly that I live with my mother at that age and she treats me that way. I want to learn something but it's very difficult for me to find my way around and I don't know if I'll be able to handle the tuition and fees and expenses. I want to study something abroad, I have heard that in some countries it is free, I can also find a job there. I want to start a new life, but I don't know how and sometimes I think it doesn't make sense, because I'm already these years old and by the time I'm done, I'll be 35-36 and I don't know what I'm going to do anymore, but to stay in that position I am very scared. I don't know if studying abroad isn't too much for me and if I'm not deluding myself. I don't know at all what to do, where to start changing my life so that it can really change. but I don't know how and sometimes I think it doesn't make sense, because I'm already at that age and by the time I graduate, I'll be 35-36 and I don't know what I'm going to do anymore, but I'm very afraid to stay in this position. I don't know if studying abroad isn't too much for me and if I'm not deluding myself. I don't know at all what to do, where to start changing my life so that it can really change. but I don't know how and sometimes I think it doesn't make sense, because I'm already these years old and by the time I graduate, I'll be 35-36 and I don't know what I'm going to do anymore, but I'm very afraid to stay in this position. I don't know if studying abroad isn't too much for me and if I'm not deluding myself. I don't know at all what to do, where to start changing my life so that it can really change.
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You can do it, but you are discouraged, and it is very difficult to follow your plans. I understand you because it's hard when someone so close to you doesn't believe in you, but it's really important that you unsubscribe. Personally, I'm not sure he needs to be abroad, but if you want to. The important thing is to take action to see what you need to do, looking for information at the moment, without it you can not. It is never too late, abroad it is normal for 30-40 people to retrain or develop even more, master's degree, etc. Do you have connections outside Bulgaria, acquaintances, otherwise it is difficult to determine, it is not impossible, but the information is good to be first person. For the physical condition, start training - fitness. No need to become a rambo, training always helps you feel better, especially when you see after a while, that there really are results. Start training this week, if not fitness, run first, so you will start to pursue a goal. Good start. Success!
First, start exercising and eating right. This will radically change your life. Start little by little, for example by running every night for 10 minutes, then increase to 20 minutes. Give up harmful foods - jam, soda, chips, etc. Then you can start lifting weights in the gym. Second - I would sit in your place to learn a programming language - there are so many free resources on the Internet. My view on things is that programming is learned the fastest and there is a very high demand on the labor market, plus salaries start from BGN 2,000 and up to 5-7 thousand I have met in jobs. bg. In one year of hard study and sports, combined with proper nutrition, you can turn your life 360 degrees. Just imagine it - you take 2 vouchers salary, rent an apartment and live on your own. You have lost a lot of weight separately and you feel good. You choose, there are ways, or you work, or you don't complain. Good luck.
Take a risk, go ahead! You have nothing to lose.
You really have a problem. I think there is only one. The weight. I know it's going to be a hell of a lot harder, but it's not impossible. For many employers, your weight is staggering. You can't find a well-paid job from there. Education is a factor, but many people have an average and earn about BGN 1,000. Further on. Your mother is in a state that she does not see how the "child" and can not be realized. She panicked that you would continue this way. It's not too late to start losing weight. When you get nervous. After work or just when you decide, go out. Spend more. Then try to run. Somehow he lost that weight, man! When I spot a full and big man on the street, I pull away. I also have full friends like you but at 130-140 kg. One even lives with his mother and father but is 35. He works in a French company for over BGN 900. The bad thing about him is that he pours money into a very expensive hobby and waits for his mother to wash and cook for him. Reduce food. Walk more. Lose weight. You will feel the difference yourself. I don't climb much above 75. But I have also reached 85. At 85 I find it very difficult and difficult. I climbed the stairs to the 3rd floor without any problems. At 85, I could barely breathe as I did so. I reduced my efficiency. Everything was difficult for me. I stopped eating at lunch. Now I only have dinner and keep 75. I'm 40 and if I go up, I'll sit down to rest and they'll fire me from there. Press your will and you will see for yourself. At 85, it becomes very difficult and difficult. I climbed the stairs to the 3rd floor without any problems. At 85, I could barely breathe as I did so. I reduced my efficiency. Everything was difficult for me. I stopped eating at lunch. Now I only have dinner and keep 75. I'm 40 and if I go up, I'll just sit down to rest and from there I'll be fired. Press your will and you will see for yourself. At 85, it becomes very difficult and difficult. I climbed the stairs to the 3rd floor without any problems. At 85, I could barely breathe as I did so. I reduced my efficiency. Everything was difficult for me. I stopped eating at lunch. Now I only have dinner and keep 75. I'm 40 and if I go up, I'll sit down to rest and they'll fire me from there. Press your will and you will see for yourself.
First, look for a higher-paying job so that you have the financial ability to move out, enroll in a university degree and take a language course. Then enroll in a language course, finally take various tests and get a certificate. I think that knowing a language is the first step, far easier than higher education. This will give you the opportunity to work in a call center, where the pay is not small, and the work is good. Write in absentia, I recommend you to be in Bulgaria, because it will be too stressful to go abroad. Your dream is good, you would succeed, because you will have a goal, but maybe it is not right to be overloaded with worries, nerves and to be completely alone in a foreign land. Yes, it will take you a while to finish. But you are a great man, sensible, you will manage. Better 30 years than 40, right? It's not scary to go on your way now, it's scary not to do it. In a few years, you will be completely crushed if you fail to do something. The most convenient solution is always not to step out of our comfort zone, not to take steps towards development, to leave things as they are. Convenient solutions are also a double-edged sword. As you continue in the same way, so it turns out that you have reached a bottom and continued to dig down. Do something. Toxic people, low self-esteem, lack of confidence that you will cope ... these are all things you have to let go. As you continue in the same way, so it turns out that you have reached a bottom and continued to dig down. Do something. Toxic people, low self-esteem, lack of confidence that you will cope ... these are all things you have to let go. As you continue in the same way, so it turns out that you have reached a bottom and continued to dig down. Do something. Toxic people, low self-esteem, lack of confidence that you will cope ... these are all things you have to let go.
It's never too late for anything. If you can't set aside some money, you still don't pay for accommodation. Even small amounts every month. Take a look at the specialties in BG, see how much the semester fees are and set aside an amount for at least one or two semesters. In the future, you can also receive a scholarship if you have excellent success. It is a bit complicated abroad, you will need more money and if you do not know the language, how will you enroll in higher education there. This is absurd. Why not look for another job now, maybe in another city with more opportunities, if you are from a small town. Things will not happen suddenly, but with small steps it is possible. For sex, try a prostitute so you don't feel like a virgin. For weight, you know that you need to lose weight, look for a suitable way and with more will you will succeed. Just work on your problems.
I'm not the author, but I mean, thank you for the adequate comments and that I didn't start with the insults. Author, start running and forget what bread is. Then load yourself with 2 jobs (not to go home to your mother) and you can write in absentia in parallel. Good luck.
I enrolled in higher education at 43 and lost 15 kg in one year. so far, and my goal is to lose another 5-6 and gain 75 kg. with the plates of the abdomen, etc.
Friend, rejoice that you are alive and well and everything comes from your hands .. thank God for giving you strength every day and motivate yourself with sports .. there is no one to give you more motivation than this in such a situation, listen to the guys wrote over me!
Take a course for a programmer
Thanks to everyone for the comments. I forgot to add that I take an antidepressant because I have very severe depression. The bad thing is that it looks awful to me, lately it seems like I can't recognize myself in the mirror. My face is somehow distorted and I look like a weak-minded and hellishly inadequate and people are terribly rude and look at me very badly everywhere. I don't know where and how to start even next week. After work I am beaten. My mother always humiliated and beat me from an early age and repeated that when I grew up I would sweep the streets because I was useless.