Hello. I would like to share my fears of possibly sharing an opinion because I am extremely confused. I'm 21 years old. For almost 2 months I have been in a relationship with a girl who is 18 and still goes to school. I even think that a relationship is strongly said because I have the feeling that it does not perceive our relationship as a relationship. During my teenage years, I don't know how to explain it in the most vivid way, but I was a covered, typical bison and I was often the object of ridicule for everything, which more or less affected my self-esteem, and from there I totally shut up, like I avoided contact with girls. After I finished and changed the environment, fortunately I managed to get out of this state and I think I'm getting on track. So 2 months ago I met her and fell in love for a second. Needless to say, it was my first, and I had no idea what to do with it. In fact, she met me, then again she supported the initiative for a while. I managed to shake off relatively quickly and took matters into my own hands, but I feel like I'm already in the background for her. After she writes to her sometimes at noon, I don't get an answer until the evening, I see her in Messenger, but she doesn't read my messages. It is very rare to meet in the evening and be able to have a normal chat. It always happens before going to bed and the pleasure for me does not last more than 10-15 minutes before going to bed. Before that we exchange a message, but I almost always wait 1 hour to respond. I mean, it's like I'm in the background, by the way. She doesn't even hide it, she says "I'm with a friend" or "I'm watching a movie". This makes me feel extremely ridiculous. I'm so in love with her, that as soon as I receive a message I am in seventh heaven and I leave everything, and while I am waiting for an answer, I stand like an idiot waiting for him to answer me, and so every night for almost 2 months. Ah, she prefers to watch the movie, and only then, if she doesn't feel like sleeping, she takes 10-15 minutes for me, during which time in half an hour she writes something - she doesn't. Not to mention that as we write to each other, without saying a word, he suddenly disappears and I stand and wait ... And even when he decides to give me 15 minutes, he says almost nothing. He answers YES or NO and that's it. Otherwise, he constantly sends me a heart and tells me that he loves me. I do not know what to think anymore. I'm so in love that it breaks my heart to do that to me. Please tell, am I by the way or are any girls like that? Is this normal? I stand like an idiot all over waiting to answer me and so every night for almost 2 months. Ah, she prefers to watch the movie, and only then, if she doesn't feel like sleeping, she takes 10-15 minutes for me, during which time in half an hour she writes something - she doesn't. Not to mention that as we write to each other, without saying a word, he suddenly disappears and I stand and wait ... And even when he decides to give me 15 minutes, he says almost nothing. He answers YES or NO and that's it. Otherwise, he constantly sends me a heart and tells me that he loves me. I do not know what to think anymore. I'm so in love that it breaks my heart to do that to me. Please tell, am I by the way or are any girls like that? Is this normal? I stand like an idiot all over waiting to answer me and so every night for almost 2 months. Ah, she prefers to watch the movie, and only then, if she doesn't feel like sleeping, she takes 10-15 minutes for me, during which time in half an hour she writes something - she doesn't. Not to mention that as we write to each other, without saying a word, he suddenly disappears and I stand and wait ... And even when he decides to give me 15 minutes, he says almost nothing. He answers YES or NO and that's it. Otherwise, he constantly sends me a heart and tells me that he loves me. I do not know what to think anymore. I'm so in love that it breaks my heart to do that to me. Please tell, am I by the way or are any girls like that? Is this normal? during this time in half an hour he wrote something - not her. Not to mention that as we write to each other, without saying a word, he suddenly disappears and I stand and wait ... And even when he decides to give me 15 minutes, he says almost nothing. He answers YES or NO and that's it. Otherwise, he constantly sends me a heart and tells me that he loves me. I do not know what to think anymore. I'm so in love that it breaks my heart to do that to me. Please tell, am I by the way or are any girls like that? Is this normal? during this time in half an hour he wrote something - not her. Not to mention that as we write to each other, without saying a word, he suddenly disappears and I stand and wait ... And even when he decides to give me 15 minutes, he says almost nothing. He answers YES or NO and that's it. Otherwise, he constantly sends me a heart and tells me that he loves me. I do not know what to think anymore. I'm so in love that it breaks my heart to do that to me. Please tell, am I by the way or are any girls like that? Is this normal? that my heart breaks when he does that to me. Please tell, am I by the way or are any girls like that? Is this normal? that my heart breaks when he does that to me. Please tell, am I by the way or are any girls like that? Is this normal?
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Stop looking for her for a while, let her miss you ... I think she took you for granted and doesn't make any effort to keep your relationship going :-)
She's just trying to crush you because you look good and decent, and you're interested in her. Stop looking for her, stop writing to her. Man, I was like you and I still am to some extent - believe me, you will suffer a lot like that. Stop thinking only about when it will write, do something else, because otherwise it will crush you like a cockroach and you will suffer a lot.
It is difficult to understand exactly what your relationship is, you have given very little information and only how you write. Is it only in chats that you drive it? Don't you go out, don't you kiss, have you had sex? In order to have a normal relationship, the least requirement is to see each other live. To have closeness, to feel your presence. It is normal to be more in love, she may be smaller, but she has more experience. Start spending more time with her (live) and then tell her how things are going.
You're 21, boy ... and you're acting like a 14-year-old. I am an 18-year-old girl and I advise you to leave the virtual world and start living in the real world. GO OUT with girls - leave the chats as a start. Only calls and Real meetings - face to face. And this girl left him - catch a serious friend. Good luck.
This girl pretends to be very important or just doesn't love you. Don't worry and ask her directly how long the movies will be more important to her than her boyfriend and whether she wants a serious relationship, not just wasting your time. You don't deserve this and don't be disappointed in us women with your first relationship.
Hello again. In fact, I was afraid to ask her. She said that before she met me she was actively looking for a serious friend, but she had already stopped doing so and smiled, doing everything she needed to know that it was me. Because you asked, I will answer you - we have not kissed, and this implies that we have not had sex. We don't even see each other often. At first she was very insistent that we do it, but I really didn't have the opportunity because I was absent from the city. Then I became very insistent, and she started to have no time, and at that moment she kept saying how busy she was and I didn't even bother to invite her. I really don't think things can go on like this, but I'm so in love :( and I can't stop thinking about her and waiting for her to think of me.