Hello everyone. I just don't know where to start, I'm worried that if I share more detailed, I'll shift your focus from the problem I'm mainly interested in, but I'll try. I hope to come across intelligent people to help me. I am 27 years old, already married to a man who has a divorce and a child behind him. This is not a problem for me or my loved ones, because he is an amazing person, but that is not what I want to comment on. Before we got married, we talked a lot and we both want a child, but here comes the problem, he wants everything in our lives to work out, almost to raise millions, to secure our lives for years to come and only then to think about a child. .. for two years. I don't think there is such an animal, there will always be something missing and if we have to wait to settle down, make big money and "live happily", as in fairy tales I think there will be much to wait for. The truth is that in these two years we have changed two countries where we were to work and make money. I write as if I am in dire need and I don't have enough money, which is not the case. We live well, we make money, it's hard for us, but who doesn't I'm very confused, I don't know what to do. We love each other a lot, but this situation weighs on me. Please advise me something, am I exaggerating ...
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Money doesn't matter. However, they are not the most important thing and if you really love each other, I don't think they can stop you from having a child. If there is a desire, everything is possible, if we do not want, we are looking for an excuse. Money, at least for me, is a means, not a way of life. I give you my opinion most frankly :) But still children are a great responsibility and there must be a desire on both sides, you still have to listen to your friend's opinion, but it is best to tell him frankly how you feel and what you think . And lastly - to have complete happiness and money is not the means to it, the question is to seek the hidden truth, there are no perfect things, the world is a mirror image of our hearts!
I think he is right. Through perseverance and perseverance, a lot is achieved, give him a chance to realize and achieve his goals. The child will not run away from you, but why are you in a hurry. Don't you want your child to have everything he needs, to have nice clothes, nice things, to enroll him in a good school, to buy him the dream gifts, and not to suffer that others have what he does not have. Darling, look around, it's all money, it's a pity, but it's a fact of life and to ensure good living conditions for the child you have to wait, work hard and collect savings, do not forget that this will be best for the child.
You do not give much information but according to what you wrote. No, you are not exaggerating, he has been scalded by the fact that if a woman gives birth, her love is concentrated on the child and he needs your love and does not want to lose it. That's why he's looking for reasons. And if you don't want to, there are always reasons.
Your husband is right! You will need a lot of money to raise a child. I know how great your desire for a child is, but think about him, about HIS life. Collect money from here - that's where things will be sorted out!
Absolute happiness definitely doesn't exist, or at least not for long. It is good when you start a family to be well financially, but this is not the most important thing, because even if your child is born when you have "millions" it is not known whether in 2 years this same money will not go away and you you can barely connect the two ends. Or they may have multiplied ... You can get pregnant when you have BGN 2 in your pocket, and when the child is born you have BGN 20,000 ... Who knows where life will take you and what will happen to you? You want a child, nice. Talk to him, tell him your wish, discuss the matter thoroughly, show him that you hold on to it. What can we tell you? I wish you success! And you talk to your husband ...
thank you all from the bottom of my heart. number 2 sometimes and I think that now that we are both all attention and love is directed to each other. everyone looks after the other well, takes care of him and all the attention is focused on one person and I thought that if the child appears the focus will shift more or less. other times I think that on the contrary the appearance of a child will bring us even closer, will make our relationship even stronger and so I wander in my thoughts. I will ask the question directly and I will understand. thank you very much dear people! I wish you all the best. love one another and be much loved. Good health to all!