Is There Virtual Love?

   I don't accept that, I don't understand it somehow ?! How do I fall in love with someone I haven't seen? My ... it's not normal. To sit and write to someone with various nonsense where it is not clear what is true and what is not, empty talk and a waste of time! I am from this generation that we keep in touch. Eva

   There is! Virtually speaking ...

   Well, in principle, you have never seen the person "real" until you live 2-3 years with him. That you saw his appearance, that you heard his voice, and that you smelled him, and so on. it doesn't mean you really know him at all. From this point of view, the "virtual" is just another deeper degree of blurring of reality than the "real" acquaintance. And where there is blurring, there is room for illusions and for "inventing" the other. So the "virtual" relationship is much more illusory than the "real" one, which in turn is much more illusory than the relationship after several years of living together ... And accordingly, the illusions are much more likely to diverge from the real reality. , than in "real" acquaintance, and than in real cohabitation. Accordingly, the probability of disappointment is much higher. However, this certainly does NOT mean 2 things: 1) that the rabbit of your life could not "jump out of virtual acquaintance"; 2) if in the transition from virtual to "real" acquaintance there is a disappointment, then the other is to blame for it, and not because you decorated it with your illusions ... Inexperienced people therefore throw themselves into virtual relationships like "heavenly manna". because everything there can be deeply illusory, imaginary, "ideal," and all their own illusions and fantasies about the other can flourish, often deeply erroneous and unrealistic. Everyone decides for themselves! :) When we finally live in the Matrix, there will be no other connections, except virtual ones. Everyone will be able to "tune" their appearance as they wish, to change my gender, etc. And yet there will be people who will be able to "coexist" - it will be pleasant and useful "together", and others who still can not stand, despite their chic appearance ... Ray

   There is there. We have been together for 5 months now and that's exactly how we fell in love !!!!

   Yes. You can have very real feelings for a virtual person. How much soil they have is another question. It is possible for virtual love to be transferred to real life. Or maybe nothing will happen.

   I think it can! Eva, doesn't it matter that you haven't seen each other - after all, not everything is appearance, right? Until it is clear how true his words are - yes, but if he is honest and true, why not fall in love? Otherwise, it is true that very rarely such love can have a future. Personally, I didn't fall in love that way, but the best possible friend I had and loved with all my heart was someone I met online. I've never seen him, but it didn't matter. He was so close to me, and I hadn't even seen him. Ah, I started a relationship like that once, but it didn't last long ... Meg *

   To some extent there is a dent or call it the liking of a person you have created in your head. Perfect, smart, beautiful, etc. A live meeting in most cases sends everything to hell :) * Syndrome

   Yes there is! One such love connected me with the man I have been with for 10 years, we have created a home, a family, we love each other, we are in love ... it's as if not a day has passed. We met at IRC, a month later we met, 2 years later we lived together. Our case may be an exception, although I have heard of many similar and similar denouements. The important thing for us was that even hidden behind the convenient anonymity of the Internet, we were honest with each other and there were no unpleasant surprises. (which, incidentally, exist in real life)

   Meg, you're right that not everything is an appearance, but there is something else that is easier for many people to write than to say out loud, it's easier to express your feelings, but. ...... what feelings for god, towards someone I haven't seen ?! I don't understand it. I have to look him in the eyes :) they are the mirror of the soul Eva

   How can I be sure that there is a man opposite me who I can fall in love with, but if she is a woman or an acquaintance of mine and talks to me, let her see how smart I am. And tell me where?

   There may be virtual love, but it is too "insecure", so to speak. That is, you never know what kind of person you will have in front of you, how old he is, what his views are / because it is no wonder that he lives in a role completely different from his true self /. To a large extent, this is true in real life, but I personally have never felt anything serious about a virtual person. Sometimes there is sympathy, warmth in the relationship, but until I see the person, I am in no hurry to draw conclusions about him, much less can we talk about love. I agree with Eva. :)

   I do not believe in such LOVE Meg..you really shock me ... how it will be truly sincere perfect, honest ..... from a distance ... And then you did not see it and did not make a "CONNECTION" WITHOUT IT YOU ARE WAITING..You are hiding your years and I think you will stay OLD GIRL ... you have great pretensions to the male class as you are so competent ... why don't you have a family? rosiros

   There are, but there can be very terrible consequences. I recently watched a show about it and it just shocked me! If you speak English find it, it says "20/20 on abc." It just scared me to what extent a person can get carried away and what kind of people there are.

   Oooh, Rossiros, you are far from the truth .. It is too early for me to think whether I will remain an old girl or not, and I can think about family in 2-3 years at least. And where did you come to the conclusion that I have big claims against men ?! You don't trust these contacts, but you seem to be trying to judge me without us seeing each other? As for the topic: Haven't you ever thought that sometimes it's much easier to trust someone you haven't even seen, someone very far from you ... and not so much for something else as to have someone to you share someone with whom you can just TALK on all sorts of topics and exchange advice. It is not always difficult to judge what a person is without having seen him. At least he was quite far from my city and that predisposed me even more to trust and share him. After all, you can't trust anyone around you completely ... Meg *

   Hi meg I was sure you wouldn't like my comment. On the topic: I can't judge a person without seeing him .... When I talk to an individual .... I look at a look, a reaction, whether he is embarrassed, worried, whether he is lying, whether he is sincere, I fall a little "militiaman", a little PSYCHOLOGIST. I HOPE I ENCOURAGED YOU A LITTLE ... I'm not a bad person ...... My friend at the beginning of our acquaintance was amazed, shocked in the full sense of the word ... how can I judge people just by seeing them for a while without to contact them. He couldn't do that ... he had to get to know them and then judge them. And I, without having contact with them ... judge them .... After long debates and examples ... at most he finally realized that this was a whole science. And I'm right ... a person can be recognized by gestures either with his hands or with his face ... I then gave him an example in this line of thought, that even if you contact a person .... and you think you know him ... you are still mistaken .... False everywhere. Finally he agreed with me .. he saw that I am not mistaken in my assessment of people .. .But ... I have to see them ... to watch their REACTION .... GESTURES .... I hate to write, I express myself better orally, I had shared this fact with you somewhere and I was not understood about it. I wish I was CLEAR little by little now. Sorry if I hurt you. Regards: Rosiros

   Yes, you are right that a person knows best by gestures, there really is such a science ... sometimes you just have to look into a person's eyes and understand what he is and what he thinks. Everyone gets to know people in a different way, and in turn one allows them to be known in one way, another in a completely different way. It all depends on the person who is against you - be it face to face or on the Internet. Everything in life is strictly individual. I know you're not a bad person, I even like your comments, I like how you think, but I don't always like how you express yourself, so there are often conflicts, not just with me. Meg *

   Yes, I can definitely say that there is virtual love. It was in cyberspace that I met the love of my life. Whatever happens from now on, it will remain in my heart forever.

   I completely agree with number 18 - I lost weight from such love - the virtual and the real thank God I overlapped and - there is no perfect world and yet

   Ooo there! Over time, when you write to a person, you may feel some feelings for him. The same thing happened to me .. my friend and I met and for 4 months we drove him only for a chat, but then everything became real and now I am very happy with him :))

   I got married and I'm not sorry

   Amii, something similar happened to me - I have an internet friend with whom I have been corresponding for 3 years. I've heard of all his girlfriends, how his brother proposed to his boyfriend, the wedding, how they live in Australia and how he wants to go there ... how his bouillon died and how soon he will get another one. In general, it's like I have a very talkative friend who also gives good advice: D It's cool to talk to him, not stressful. And now I found love on the net. we wrote to each other on skype for about 2 days and on the 3-4th we went out on a first date, so to speak. I wanted to kiss him at the first moment. Now let me tell you, I'm melting into this man's hands. It's good that there is internet, because the social contacts I can have during the day are only of a working nature and with people with iQ on cooked pasta. I love my baby, I hope you are as lucky as me;)

   It all started with a search on the net. I liked the pictures of one man. I found a lot of interesting things in its appearance, I know all their details. I will not hide, for me he is the only one. And so much. Only pictures. There is no opportunity to know each other, much less a chance for a real relationship, which fills me with sadness and despair.

   There is all kinds of love. Imagine that you are confined to a wheelchair and spend your whole life with your only friend = computer and through the network you touch many people in an unusual way. You share everything that excites you and there is someone who responds to your string. Every day, at a certain time, he is on line for you to ask how you are, what interests you right now and tells you about himself. Somehow you imperceptibly love this person, he gives meaning to the colorless everyday life and the world becomes a more attractive place ... as if by a miracle !!!

   29-year-old woman: I completely share the opinion of № 8. So am I. Although with not so much family experience, but so do we - kindred spirits were found by an unusual method. The important thing is that they were discovered. We were completely honest with each other without seeing each other for 7 months. I didn't even realize that he was married, that he was about to divorce, but after it was all over, before we met, he fully shared. I am distrustful. According to the data presented by him, I examined him: in his hometown, in his student years, among former and current colleagues, among his friends, among relatives and acquaintances of his ex-wife. It turned out that she was a crazy nymphomaniac, and he was an exceptional person. Only then did I meet him and ... We now live extremely happily, in full sync. Virtuality is up to date. There must come a time to meet in reality, as it may disappoint you. When, you decide. Success!

   To numbers 8 and 25 ... after you have met in this way, don't you have at least a little worry that your husbands or even yourself may be tempted by someone from the net, even just for variety ...

   Yes, there is ... only a person who has not experienced it can say that it is not and that is complete nonsense. There is and sometimes it is quite painful especially when you are not from one city, but there are still :)

   In my opinion, it depends on a person's attitude and how emotional he is. It has happened to me that I can't get away from the computer because of such a connection with a person on the other side of the world (USA) and it lasted for a while, you just feel a very strong emotion inside, even though your only contact is a camera. -microphone :) It was very nice and I improved my English;) PM

   Everyone with luck! That's how I met my partner. We have been living together for 4 years now and we are still madly in love. If it wasn't for the internet, I couldn't find it and we're both from different cities. But we found a way and now we are preparing for a wedding :)

   And if you correspond with a person for more than a year and a half, you hear each other not only on Skype, but also on the phone, you want to see each other, you seem to love each other, you trust each other, but still something is similar and you can't see each other?

   This does not necessarily mean that things will not happen. And we had not seen each other for 2-3 years, but then it seemed that everything was fine :)

   In my opinion, this is for sick brains where they can't catch real love, in short, it's a complex job. Otherwise virtual love, but it is virtual :–))) Safe from psychics :–)

   32 you are very extreme. That's how I met my husband. I haven't hung on the computer for 24 hours, looking for a man, so I'm 29. It happened quite by accident, he was looking for a girlfriend with a similar Skype name, it became clear that I'm not that girlfriend, we struck up a conversation. Eventually, I found myself in a hurry to get home and secretly hoping to catch him on the line. The sleepless nights started, conversations on Skype, phone, finally we met and in two years we are a family. Whenever we see the woman in question who confused me, we laugh at that. And as for that, "walking on Skype" and I very, very much do not understand it, I do not deny that there are many psychopaths that you can come across. The point was not to deny something you had not experienced, because it is not impossible.

   I have been following for a long time what are the topics on this site, I am always wondering whether to write or not to write? And here is the topic. Here, most of you people are great, you realize what you have done .. Here I am .. I have been writing with him for 5 years now, you will say crazy! And when you find out how far we are you will say this is not can be is possible! I'm 16, he's almost 19 .. I'm against well, I was against at first, we just wrote nothing more after years, but I became attached, I loved .. I didn't know how to say it, let alone show it .. it's all so good. Now listen .. we have been writing for 5 years and we heard from each other for the first time this year .. I was so scared I shout it will get worse I don't want to go deeper but here I fell in love for the second time .. We are both like two drops of water and we tell each other that I have doubts we are small, but inside I am dying for it I feel it! When we talk I forget that he is on the other end he is next to me .. We talk like crazy on the phone, but I still haven't told him I love you we say there is time, but every day I love him more and more nothing that I am 98% that I will not I'm scared ... But I don't doubt it for a minute! Yes, you will tell today's young people on the net, yes, no, it is not so different. I hope you understood me ... I want to say that there is! Even if it doesn't work out, I will have the best memories, I will know that everything was worth it.

   This is only for sick brains or at least for complexes

   We may be crazy, but love is madness, isn't it, so be brave, maybe it's worth it, here I fell madly in love with Skype on my boyfriend and now we have to see each other, we are from different cities, but for love has no limits or obstacles. Try it, but be careful, there is still nothing certain, but if you don't try, you will always wonder what would happen and is it real, and don't you see yourself on camera, how come it's just a picture? See you and he told me that I captured him the first time, and he captured me (: It was like love at first sight, only on the monitor, ha, ha-from the first time and my knees softened, some of my friends They tell me, be careful, to know that there is a risk, but I can't stop thinking about him or changing my feelings, and when we start writing to each other, that good feeling and these vibrations, and he doesn't want us to stop. we chat

   From number 36 to 23 - how come only photos, don't you write, but a camera?

   A TRUE FAIRY TALE ABOUT FALSE THINGS - Why are fairytale princesses always unhappy at the beginning of a story? The little girl asked her mother. - Because in life sometimes the beginning is difficult and not as colorful as we want, but there always comes a moment of happiness. Said his mother, though she knew it was half-true. “On a hot June afternoon on the beach, in the pleasant shade of an umbrella, I remembered this conversation from my childhood. Princesses, Cinderellas or simply girls who grow up with tales of love, happiness and dignity. How many are left today? Are the Princesses gone or have the Princes long since disappeared? We call ourselves more and more descriptive: funny, beautiful, smart, athletic, sexy, Christian, Muslim, democratic, patriarchal ... and less and less we accept ourselves as PEOPLE. We are on the Internet, we have a Facebook profile, we have our friends with whom we have not spent 2 minutes in reality, we have our phones, Skype address, email and all other similar technological advances, but we have less and less the real selves in reality. And so, under the pleasant rays of the not so scorching June sun, I think of my childhood and my mother, who tells me that good always comes. I wonder if the lost slipper is not Cinderella, it is no longer the half-forgotten profile of a half-Princess, whether the Prince is not just the parallel dream of a lonely man. When the smile turned from a benevolent and open gesture of friendship into a sign of: and a bracket after them, the kiss became more real as a sound in front of the camera, not as a real feeling ... Technological progress helps us, there is no dispute about that, but do we gain more than we lose .... . . If I had my childhood conversation today, it would probably sound like this: "Why are the Princess Wings at the beginning of their profile story? Princesses are not happy? - Because not always in virtual reality all frogs turn out to be princes. - it is ours and it is as we feel it

   yes 35 and I think so until it happens to me. It was absurd for me how I would sit like that and waste my time with someone I didn't know. I know what it is, what other thoughts it has, but it happens. And believe me, I'm not a complexist at all, nor is he.

   To number 30. Like me, bro. Should we write to each other with the same? Write where he is from? Not that I don't believe in virtual love, but I'm already desperate. I love her only I know how much, but some can not claim that she loves you and after endless hours of phone calls and chat, not wanting to see you for a coffee. I can no longer, when someone wants something, work miracles to get it, and when he doesn't want it, he looks for a reason. Good luck

   Virtual love is like buying something online without even seeing it. It is very misleading and most often you do not see the person on the other side, and everything happens because of despair for some emotion.

   To those who are skeptical about Internet love, I can only say that the same things apply to it as, say, going to the library and meeting the great love. And here the same things apply, and they are: luck, good chance, and why not even fate. Orpheus

   There may be someone to tell you. My first boyfriend was on the net because I thought I was crazy and I didn't deserve anything else. The second too. The first was a mega jerk, the second a mega ass! Now I found the boy I was always looking for, but we met next to our mutual friend :)

   They may have, they may even have a future. But I suffered a lot this way, so I will no longer try to keep in touch with people I have met on the Internet.

   To number 40. Have you ever actually invited her somewhere? Did you invite her to see you and she refused? You say that "only you know how much you love her", but when will she know that you really love her? It is not enough just for you to know ... Show it to her, prove it with deeds, not only in words. Invite her somewhere and if she refuses, then she plays games and doesn't want anything serious, she just has fun! :) GOOD LUCK!!! I think that there is virtual love, as there was before and telephone love in the old days. :))) And in the even older ones they wrote letters to each other and sent them to each other. Love has to start somewhere, right? Does it matter where exactly? The Internet, the neighborhood store, the same school, ... there are no limits to love and it is not something one can control. :)

   There is, but it is very painful.

   It is painful for me because it is hopeless, we are at a great distance, neither he will leave his job, the environment, friends, relatives to go to a distant, unknown city, nor me. We don't have cars, it's many hours by train. If there is a meeting, it will be incidental - it's desperate. And there is attraction. Unhappy love is for me this and yet I am grateful that it happened to me, because love is the best in the world. forms to appear