I would also like your opinion. I have a relationship with a much younger man than me. At first I was scrupulous about such a relationship, but then I decided to try and now I regret not because he is younger, but because of his attitude towards me. Initially, everything was very nice / as in most cases / - it gave me the caresses I needed so much. A month passed and he started talking to me about parting. And I got hysterical - I cried uncontrollably and he told me that he felt sorry for me and that's why he stays with me. But this story began to be repeated many times (for a year now). Here we say to ourselves that we don't want each other anymore and then we look for each other again. He is married and I did not expect anything more from him than to respect me and be nice when we are together. But he is obviously jealous of me and constantly raises scandals when I don't pick up my phone right away. When he gets drunk sometimes, he starts calling me in the middle of the night and insulting me, he even came to us once and scared me to death that he might if he decided to mutilate me. After this case, I told him that I no longer wanted to see him, although I will still miss him terribly, but he started texting me about how special I was to him and how much he cared about me. I didn't answer him, but one day he started calling me and I forgave him again. But apparently when he sees that he has won me over again, he starts harassing him with his hints that I see other men or behaves coldly. He had promised me today that we would go out together, but he had been reserved since yesterday, and today he told me that we could not go out because of his wife, with whom he was to return home from work. I told him that this time I didn't want him to look for me anymore and we were done. He also confirmed that he will not call me again, but this is for some time and I am sure that after a while he will start looking for me again. What do you think this looks like to you Why does he keep coming back to me and then making me cry? I spoke to a babysitter who told me that young men were more sincere in their feelings than older ones. I told him that he was pursuing some interests, but in the interest of the truth, I could not give him anything other than that when he came to me I had cooked for him and made him feel at home with me. But I don't want him as much as I used to, and I can't tell him once and for all. I'm obviously a masochist, and although most of the time it makes me nervous and makes me cry sometimes, I can't imagine that we won't see each other again. I know it's not about sex, which is no longer the same as before, but when a few days pass and he doesn't call I forget about everything he hurt me with and I miss him a lot. I know that this way I will not be able to find a man more suitable for me, but this is the situation with me for now.
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My story is exactly the same, the only difference is that my man is not married. It will be nice to talk to you.
Why do you deal with married people? Well, look for something that will suit you! You shouldn't have gone to a fortune teller, you should have gone to a psychotherapist. Don't you feel like a mop? I managed to get rid of one and live my life. My feeling of freedom is amazing, and I thought I would feel lonely. Now I go out with friends and have fun, laughing at men, especially those married under a slipper. This is how they look in the pub! They just roll their eyes and don't dare to breathe so that their wife doesn't bite them. Great joke!
Number one, give me contact information to contact you. Number two, you're right, but I live in a country town and I don't go out there. And I don't have suitable girlfriends to go out with, and I'm not interested in anything anymore. I lost my child a few years ago, and maybe that's why I clung to this torturer. Last night he texted me again that he can't do without me, but I don't trust him anymore and I wrote to him. He promised not to look for me anymore, but I don't know how long
In my opinion, you should be adamant and cut it off after doing so to you. You need to respect each other and be nice, nice and calm, not to be harassed and afraid. When I started my divorce from my husband, he started threatening me, insulting me and behaving terribly badly. I warned him to leave me alone, but when things happened again, I filed a complaint with the police. Be brave and don't let yourself be harassed.
Well, people, don't you have another job to do nonsense.
I think you have to be firm and if you decide not to be with him, just don't be. And if you really can't do so much without him, you have found out what you have to do, always be reserved no matter how much you don't want him and he will always be nice. But my advice is to run away from this man. If he really loves you, he will not allow you to cry and suffer for him, let alone cause you so much misery. My problem is similar and I know how much it hurts I, like you, can't say no and it drives me crazy.
You will always stay the other! He will torment you and want you, but he will not leave his wife for you! I'm sorry, but this is the reality!
Something similar happens to me. We have been together for 6 years, we do not live together. He is not married. He seems to love me, he is madly jealous of me, and when he doesn't like me, my opinion offends me. Oedipus syndrome is obvious. I don't know what to think anymore. And so...