Hello, everyone. I am writing here to express my indignation about a man who has recently entered my life. Personally for me, this behavior is extreme and I cannot accept it. Alas, however, most of those with whom I shared criticized me and wondered in what century I lived. It's about my girlfriend's mother's behavior. I will try to explain clearly what we are talking about. The woman is in her late 40s, the mother of three children and the grandmother of one grandchild. However, her behavior is more appropriate for a teenager in her early 20s, but not for a woman her age, but I still hope you don't tell me if I'm wrong or really not normal. Her husband works a lucrative job abroad, and he provides everything she needs for years, and that's why she's in the "housewife" column, but that's very strongly said, because 2/3 of the time he spends outside the home. She is not at home all day, hanging mostly in cafes. He even comes home very often at dawn, and I have no idea where he goes. For Fridays and Saturdays I know it's a must for a disco, but for the rest of the day I have no idea. For years, her daily life has been cyclical. It is most logical that she has a lover and is with him all day, but this is excluded as an option, because, excluding her behavior, her appearance is also shocking. He is constantly experimenting with all sorts of crazy hairstyles, artificial eyelashes, extensions and what not. For the last 2 years she has covered half of her body with tattoos, and her style of dress is like a slut. I just don't know who will bond with her and who would spend time with her. At the same time, two of the children still live with her. She doesn't cook for them and they take her to ready meals from the culinary shops or they eat in the restaurants. The issue of housework is the same. It's as if they swapped roles, their children are their mother and she is their teenager. The most shocking thing is that one of her daughters totally supports her. Although she is 14 years old, with her mother's permission and approval, she lives as a settled woman. From the 6th grade she started smoking in front of her mother, she started with tattoos at the same time, and the most shocking thing is that her mother ordered hard alcohol when they went out somewhere ... I just don't know ... Just for me Is this not normal. And why can one of her daughters be a total copy and the other not seem to be from this family? her children are also their mother and she is their teenager. The most shocking thing is that one of her daughters totally supports her. Although she is 14 years old, with her mother's permission and approval, she lives as a settled woman. From the 6th grade she started smoking in front of her mother, she started with tattoos at the same time, and the most shocking thing is that her mother ordered hard alcohol when they went out somewhere ... I just don't know ... Just for me Is this not normal. And why can one of her daughters be a total copy and the other not seem to be from this family? her children are also their mother and she is their teenager. The most shocking thing is that one of her daughters totally supports her. Although she is 14 years old, with her mother's permission and approval, she lives as a settled woman. From the 6th grade she started smoking in front of her mother, she started with tattoos at the same time, and the most shocking thing is that her mother ordered hard alcohol when they went out somewhere ... I just don't know ... Just for me Is this not normal. And why can one of her daughters be a total copy and the other not seem to be from this family? and the most shocking thing is that her mother orders hard alcohol when they go out somewhere ... I just don't know ... Isn't that normal for me? And why can one of her daughters be a total copy and the other not seem to be from this family? and the most shocking thing is that her mother orders hard alcohol when they go out somewhere ... I just don't know ... Isn't that normal for me? And why can one of her daughters be a total copy and the other not seem to be from this family?
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For me, her behavior is unworthy, but still everyone decides for themselves what to do and bears the consequences. So I am poorly warmed by how people spend their daily lives.
I don't see what your problem is with you personally? She is neither your mother nor do you have anything to do with her, look after your life and do not interfere in other people's, your wife has her head on her shoulders ...
I'm 39. When I say that's not normal, most of my acquaintances call me congested. I am divorced but I give it more restrained. They think I'm crazy. Now I had to make up for the past youthful years I spent raising two children alone. And because I still have a little left (a little !? - in BG a woman of 39 has already taken - she has obviously given) I had to break up from parties and with .... s. My children like me. Most importantly, don't be ashamed of me. How else would I look my son in the eye: (....!? I don't think that's your problem. Don't let them make you doubt your values. I hope you're with the right daughter.
If I'm in her husband's shoes and I'm abroad, I'll expect her to spend more time with the kids and make sure they live clean and eat healthily. I'm sure she sleeps with other men. This is usually the case with this family model. I don't think it's normal either, but people condemn you because it's not your job to criticize it. Just learn to accept people as they are and if you don't like them, try not to be like them.
Give as it is in the late 40s to dress and behave like a pensioner? !! I think your thinking is really rigid! ;) Ж30
No wonder! There are always a few such eccentric ladies in every city who refuse to grow old. Probably adopted early, all her life devoted to children you at her age should not be worse!
If he was 70 it would be strange, but some people even at 40 are the same young people and at 20. Even most people I know at 30-40 go to discos, some have children, others do not. If that doesn't bother you personally, I don't think there's much to think about - a woman is just like that. If your peace of mind is disturbed, talk and solve the problem. Accept that there are all kinds of people. There are 19-year-olds who are like pensioners, they have no goals, they don't go out anywhere, they always grumble, but there are older people who are the opposite. And again, 40 is not old age. It's normal for her to go out with friends, that's her job. If that doesn't bother you in any way, I don't see a problem.
You think very retired. The woman is having fun, the man doesn't mind. Her behavior is really funny and probably made fun of in discos, but that's not your job. She decided to make a living that much. You are still young, don't start putting your gag in other people's business from now on, like a matchmaker. Grandpa Torbalan
Although I do not have the courage, talent or self-confidence to do as the described lady, and I am 40, I think it is normal. Her children are raised, she has the right to do whatever she wants as long as she doesn't disturb others, and as far as I understand she doesn't bother anyone. If she has a 40-year-old grandson, she got married quite young and is now experiencing a "second youth". Her children are fed and clothed, old enough to walk on their own, I don't understand what you want from her? She was a "housewife" and did not work, but let's try to raise 3 children alone and we will work to see you. They agreed with her husband that he should work and not take on any other family responsibilities, that she should take care of the family and home and not work and cope. Their daughters are already big looking and well-behaved when you conservative young lady consider one of her daughters a friend. As for her relationship with her little daughter, you just didn't have teenage children, so you're shocked by forbidding your daughter to smoke to have tattoos, do you think she'll be a "good mother"? Will the daughter listen to her? I will tell you one thing when children are already 14, and by 14 they have not realized that smoking is harmful for them, after 14 you can not force them to stop, and the only correct approach is to allow them to smoke in front of you with the idea at least little to be able to control how much they smoke, and to have a close relationship with them so that they do not go further with drugs, etc. Because when you are the parent of a teenager with a more unstable character, it is better to be his friend than to you trample him with scandals or worse slaps and thus push him to substances more dangerous to his health.
Just to ask you do you have a personal life?
How she will live her life, this woman is entirely her business, and neither you nor anyone else has the right to take care of her! Would you be happy for someone to discuss you like that? Look in your bowl and don't mess around where you don't care!
"There are 19 year olds who are like pensioners, they have no goals, they don't go out anywhere" I don't know what the goals have to do with going out and retirement. Would you explain to me?
What exactly is your problem? Don't communicate with this woman. Keep in mind that daughters repeat their mothers.
Look now, everyone has their head on their shoulders and decides for themselves how to live their lives. Not to mention that you're practically nothing to this woman. Yes, she was a daughter - I understand that you are indignant, ashamed, etc., but you are not. Then what do you care where she goes, how she dresses, whether she cooks, etc. Watch your life and leave the woman alone! No one has forced you to befriend her or go to bars with her. And please, finally stop with this mentality from the small town, to give a reason, because it's really funny. This is her life and she bears the responsibility. Will you tell her whether to cook or whether to make 1 more tattoo? So I advise you to focus on your life and make it more exciting, instead of filling your time commenting on the lives of others.
Number 12, I want to say that most retirees are more homemakers, and they are not like young people to have that energy, their thoughts are different. For an 80-year-old, everything is usually experienced and the only thing he would like is a peaceful old age and to know that his relatives are well. Otherwise, my grandmother is 70 and very cool! It comes out, but of course it doesn't have that energy when it's younger.