According to my friend, I feel a strong mad jealousy and he felt suffocated. Do you think so We both live outside the country 450 km apart. We met on the net more than a year ago. We saw each other and fell in love. I am 9 years older and have 2 children. He is a student. He is surrounded by numerous girlfriends, most of whom are his former classmates and the other neighbors. He communicates with them constantly. I get annoyed by this sometimes but I just throw in some things. Without making scandals or dramas or behaving hysterically or forbidding him anything. We talk about it often and in our last conversation he told me that my strong jealousy suffocates him to take the initiative to meet one of his girlfriends because is afraid of my "reaction". We live 450 km from each other, so he has 100% freedom to walk and be seen to communicate either by phone or online with anyone. What exactly makes him feel suffocated and I do not understand ... He wants me to trust him. Yes, I agree that this is the most important thing in a relationship like ours, but especially in a relationship like ours, 100% trust is a bit difficult. I don't know the girls personally, but only from what he told me. When I'm with him, he doesn't meet me to introduce me and his girlfriends to be my girlfriends. Write me your opinion, I will take it into account if you think it's my fault. Thanks! Yes, I agree that this is the most important thing in a relationship like ours, but especially in a relationship like ours, 100% trust is a bit difficult. I don't know the girls personally, but only from what he told me. When I'm with him, he doesn't meet me to introduce me and his girlfriends to be my girlfriends. Write me your opinion, I will take it into account if you think it's my fault. Thanks! Yes, I agree that this is the most important thing in a relationship like ours, but especially in a relationship like ours, 100% trust is a bit difficult. I don't know the girls personally, but only from what he told me. When I'm with him, he doesn't meet me to introduce me and his girlfriends to be my girlfriends. Write me your opinion, I will take it into account if you think it's my fault. Thanks!
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I think it is not jealousy, but fear that you will be left alone abroad!
Hello! I read your letter carefully. I start with the fact that I am also a single mother with 2 children. I've been dating a man recently, but the feeling at first was very unpleasant - I think children would be a problem. I started to cram it in and it was as if we were getting a little cold to each other. The difference in your years is big, but it is not insurmountable, as is the distance. I fully understand how you feel, but I'm sure it's caused by the fact that you're far from each other - you're hardly so jealous, rather - you lack contact between you and compensate with information that he accepts as interrogation and surveillance . Talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel and you will see how he will react then. After all, love has brought you together, you should not be separated by such secondary feelings. I wish you success!
Honey, I don't think you have a future with this man. Or maybe he wants to end the relationship, and he's looking for a reason. Maybe he is afraid to take responsibility for 2 children, or he has met a woman with a smaller age difference. Do not suffer, but find a person worthy of you and your children, and do not adopt another child at home. Because years will pass, he will leave you again to start a family, and then you will be angry that you did not organize your life when you were younger. Spring is coming, the season of love, I wish you to find the right person for you.
I think the age difference doesn't matter. I know 2 such families - they are ideal, in one the woman is 15 years older and has 2 children. In the other case, the woman is 8 years older and has one child. The problem here, in my opinion, is the children and the distance. And he must be cheating on you, not to be mad to be alone. It is difficult for a man to accept other people's children, then their fathers do not look at them. Just look around for someone closer.
He doesn't love you. It seems that he has no serious intentions towards you. And how will he introduce you to his girlfriends when he cheats on you with some of them and of course he doesn't want to be known. Run away from this man, it's not worth it.