Hello, I was wondering nowadays is there still a real friendship between people? I'm talking about this friendship that you can just share something with someone and they will understand you without making fun of you or judging you if you made a mistake. For this friendship, if you get stuck in the car at 2 in the morning, the person is ready to go immediately to walk hundreds of kilometers to come to your aid. I have the feeling that nowadays people have become so selfish that if you find yourself in such a situation and you have a brother, he will not run at night hundreds of kilometers to help you, but will tell you to call for roadside assistance. I even doubt he'll pick up the phone at night. For several years I have noticed that people are not loyal to you, but to the services you do for them, when the services run out, the loyalty ends. In general, I am quite a responsive person, even to complete strangers I have given hours of my time to help them, but I do not get the same in return. People who I think are my friends, I call him purely and just to go through us to say something. She says yes, I will come tomorrow, and not only does she not come, but she does not call and says that she will not come. And to the same person in the most difficult moment only I was there to help him. A man who lives below me and I also thought of him as a friend wakes me up at 6 in the morning to pour out his soul that there are any problems I am immediately on hand, then I ask him if we can climb in us another day a sofa which I think to buy. He pretended to be on a hoe, not knowing when he would be in them if he was unemployed. It often happened to me to leave my things to help the so-called,, friends,,, but it was clearly a mistake. Now I'm thinking of placing myself only somewhere where I have a quay, where I don't have a small train passing like an international train and everyone escapes individually. Obviously, in my opinion, those times of true friendship are long gone.
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It is very rare, but yes, it exists! However, you have to be very careful and choose people carefully! Start those who are only looking for services to cut them. It is obvious who the hypocrites are at one point. True friends are usually a little too. Remember that a real one is better than a hundred fakes! Julian
Change friends. Don't expect anything from someone because you would do it for them. If you do a favor, let it be without expecting it to be returned to you. Put yourself first. If you don't do it, others won't do it for you. I had the same question marks, I started with the things written above. Now I have many acquaintances, few friends - but I know who is real and who I can count on. Good luck. PS Find how to have fun so that you do not have negative thoughts - they do not lead to anything good. Even if at the moment the people next to you are not real - to be alive and healthy. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the suprise.
I had almost written off my best friend recently. Since I moved, I now live at least 60 minutes away by public transport and we rarely saw each other. We are colleagues, but it is normal in the workplace not to be able to separate from the team and share life dramas. Anyway, about two weeks ago I had big problems with my head and he was the first person to hug me and offer to go out. Until then, we had started discussing only general things. He listens to me, he has nothing to do to help me, but if nothing else, at least he motivates me to find a way to fix the situation. And he noticed that I wasn't feeling well. Yesterday, in no time, I went out in the middle of a party I had gone to because he had problems with his head and at one point he did not know what to do. Okay, I packed my things and left. One sees who is his friend when he needs someone. This man missed lectures to help me move furniture. Because of him, I explained myself as a sinful priest and blamed myself for some nonsense so that they would not understand his secret. We have known each other for many years, we follow almost the same path, we work in the same field of work and over the years we have come together in many places ... there have been various rumors, there has been dislike of one of us, we have kept back without anything intimate in our relationship. He knows my boyfriend, I know his girlfriend, even these two are more likely to be jealous of the strength of our friendship than to think that there is something between us. Pure relationships. I believe that there is friendship. Author, you are proof that there are good friends, once you are ready to start the car at 2 in the morning, drive 100 km and help. It remains to find someone who is like you. It sounds simpler in words, I am aware, friendship is not built in a day, but believe me, you will find such a person.
Unfortunately you are right. From my personal experience I have come to the same conclusions and the same things have happened to me - I give myself away, and when I need something they are gone. I went when they called me urgently to do them a favor, but for me no one did it, as he said, they pretend to be beaten and busy and find 1 million excuses not to help you even for something simple. For me, friendship is having good moments with these people, but also helping each other. Well, I personally have not met people to help. One day I thought that apart from drinking coffee with these people and forever giving myself away and listening to their problems and complaints every single day. So I slowly lost them and I don't miss them, at least I saved myself unnecessary running around on other people's problems, and I solve mine on my own as it was when I had "friends". Even once I had a movie ticket and called a friend to come with me, I would give it to her for free, but she got bored. He was even too lazy to lift his ass for something nice. And after 1 week she went to watch the same movie I asked her to go to so she wouldn't burn her movie ticket. Well, what can I tell you, I don't care if I had to call them and ask them for something in the middle of the night. Personally, I no longer have illusions about myself, I have acquaintances, but I no longer waste any imaginary friendships and now I look only at my own interest. I don't care if I had to call them and ask them for something in the middle of the night. Personally, I no longer have illusions about myself, I have acquaintances, but I no longer waste any imaginary friendships and now I look only at my own interest. I don't care if I had to call them and ask them for something in the middle of the night. Personally, I no longer have illusions about myself, I have acquaintances, but I no longer waste any imaginary friendships and now I look only at my own interest.
Number 2, I can't agree with you that if I do a favor, I shouldn't expect it to be returned to me. There is an Eastern saying :, In order to receive, you must first give,, and I believe that of these two processes,, giving,, and,, receiving,, there is every living organism on this planet. If one of these processes is interrupted,, giving,, or,, receiving,, the other process will inevitably be interrupted and this organism will quickly perish. Even if you look at all human relationships, whether between a worker and an employer or between a man and a woman in a relationship as a couple, there is always,, giving,, and,, receiving,, that is, if you take your time and energy to help someone, you can't help but expect the same from the other side. Otherwise it is an event. That is why the wise Bulgarian people said :,, Clean bills good friends,,,, No free lunch,, and I can list a bunch of other sayings that support the thesis of,, giving,,, and,, receiving,, I am a person of principles, and if someone gives me the time and energy to help me, I automatically feel obliged to returned the service and not just one. And second and third to seek my help, I would help him. Otherwise, if you want people to do something for you, and you are not ready to respond with the same, I call him,, tarikatlak,,, which comes from the word,, tarikat,,, and the wise Bulgarian people, you know what he said about the tarikats :,, Tarikat boy, and his father lied,, that is to be,, tarikat,, does not speak well of you. The author I automatically feel obligated to return the favor and not just one. And second and third to seek my help, I would help him. Otherwise, if you want people to do something for you, and you are not ready to respond with the same, I call him,, tarikatlak,,, which comes from the word,, tarikat,,, and the wise Bulgarian people, you know what he said about the tarikats :,, Tarikat boy, and his father lied,, that is to be,, tarikat,, does not speak well of you. The author I automatically feel obligated to return the favor and not just one. And second and third to seek my help, I would help him. Otherwise, if you want people to do something for you, and you are not ready to respond with the same, I call him,, tarikatlak,,, which comes from the word,, tarikat,,, and the wise Bulgarian people, you know what he said about the tarikats :,, Tarikat boy, and his father lied,, that is to be,, tarikat,, does not speak well of you. The author
Um, author, a very interesting topic, which I had to think about quite actively in the last few years. I say I had to because the people I thought I could count on the most and with whom we had been together since we were children, just evaporated like smoke. I never imagined that such a thing could happen, but it is a fact. I had only heard of such cases before, but I thought they were very far from me. Like I said, I spent a lot of time thinking about the reasons for all this, and I eventually came to the conclusion that they were just always users. The signs were there, I was the one who didn't realize them. I've often wondered how I feel and honestly - I don't know. I hate that we were so close, and now we can barely greet each other on the street. I remember how sick I was and when I needed them the most, and they were gone. On the other hand, I now feel somehow liberated. There are people around me that I can count on. I have no bad feelings for anyone, I try to help when I can and with what I can. If I see that someone is trying to use me, I just stop contacting them. There is certainly true friendship, you just have to be more reasonable in your choice. They are often confused with friends, people who go to discos, cafes and more. similar. They are often confused with friends, people they go to discos, cafes and more. similar. They are often confused with friends, people who go to discos, cafes and more. similar.