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Isn't The Problem In Me?

By sayantanighosh0609 August 12, 2020 2 answers Last updated August 12, 2020

It can't be called a problem, but ... I'm 20, I live in one of the big cities, I study law so far. But I have been alone for all eternity! I had 2 relationships that were when I was little and of course frivolous. When I was in 9th grade, I liked a boy from another city (I think that's when it all started), but things didn't work out and we never saw each other again. I felt very sorry for him, I only thought about him for 1-2 years, but your childish work, the time came and my feelings for him disappeared. I didn't deal with anyone while I was in high school, because I'm from a small town and we all know each other. I pushed a lot of people away because I didn't care about boys during that period. This continued until the end of the 12th grade. However, I met one that we dealt with until March this year. He wasn't bad, but he had bad habits - he liked drugs a little. We weren't together, but people thought we were. We went out together, we had photos on Facebook. I had terrible feelings for him, I shed many tears, but in the end things did not end well with him, we can say that we do not even greet each other anymore. He was looking for reasons to quarrel and accused me of something very cruel. which I would never do. Anyway ... I thought I would never forget it. Well, the other day I saw him kissing one ... It didn't impress me, but I was dumb that he kept going and I was standing still. And this has been so for all eternity. Anyway, lately I've had sympathy for a boy, we write to each other. Well, he took that one too. Why doesn't it always work with me? I can not understand. I'm not a model, but I'm still not a backward dwarf with thick glasses. I'm not complaining about my appearance, I never did it because I think everything in me is normal. I'm not a repulsive annoyance either. Although I lived in a small town, my manners are good, I know where to behave. Whenever I have the opportunity, I try to help someone with something. I can't answer the question in that case why I'm alone. Why can't I impress anyone? After the last one I came to the conclusion that the problem is in me, but where exactly do I make a mistake?

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shadomor answered · August 12, 2020

   Изчетох историята ти и аз се чуствам по същия начин. Вече съм на 25 почти и все още съм нямал приятелка. Проблема заради това до някъде сигурно е във мен, защото съм притеснителен и не излизам по дискотеки или други обществени места, където мога евентуално да срещна някое момиче. А се опитвам по интернет, защото мога по свободно да разговарям и това притеснение, което го имам ако е на живо, когато се запознавам със някоя за първи път го няма ако се запознавам по интернет. По интернет мога да говоря много по свободно на всякакви теми, а не да съм някакъв скучен. Но най лошото е че когато си пиша със някакво известно време неми се дава шанс за да докажа сериозните си намарения, защото всичко може да се каже и обещае, но най важното е че трябва и да се докаже във даден момент. При мен как се получава повечето случай пиша си ъсс някое момиче известно време уж казва, че ме харесва и прочие и после спира да ми пише поради неясна причина за мен. Винаги съм гледал и гледам да се държа със уважение към всички така съм възпитан, но защо се получава така все още да съм без приятелка не знам. Коментара ми се получи малко като изповед, но със този коментар искам да ти кажа, че не си сама има много хора, който са във твоето полoжение. От историята ти, която изчетох не смятам че изцяло проблема е във теб най вероятно и ти като мен все още не си срещнала подходящия човек за себе си. Дано да съм бил полезен по някакъв начин със коментара ми и от сърце ти пожелавам да срещнеш по скоро подходящия човек за теб:) Просто трябва да имаш Вяра, Надежда, и много търпение. Защото във наши дни да срещнеш подходящия, който да е със тебе заради самата теб е много трудно и заради това съм обеден, че проблема както си мислиш, че се дължи изцяло на теб не е така:)

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da4_fildan answered · August 12, 2020

   Your self-description and a few questions about what's wrong with me lead me to ask you how you are in the chest area. Of course, this is not decisive and may not be the only reason for your condition, but it is certainly a factor when you have to choose between two women. I may be unlucky, I don't know. You keep throwing the line, because your fish is somewhere out there and it's not good when you come to despair and "you don't like men". USA