I have been engaged to a girl for 10 months. We have sex quite often but it can't always end. The point is that I have slept with a lot of girls and so far I have not had this problem! Give advice!
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She doesn't like something .. situation, I don't know about restraints, but something is wrong if that's the case ... ask her what she thinks about while having sex ....
Absolute nonsense! There are women who can't cum in principle, not because of the situation and the like.
To number 2. Yes, but until a certain age and until the moment when they or their partners do not understand how good it is for them. To the author - I have had a relationship for years without getting an orgasm. I had no experience and did not know exactly what to do (it was my first), he did not bother to even ask me why it never happens. Avoid this, try to find a way together. There are women who find it slower and over time. It's not like pushing a button and booming an orgasm. How old is the girl actually?
Without affecting your abilities as a lover, I think this is your first woman who does not simulate an orgasm. Women find it difficult to reach a climax, despite the efforts and abilities of the partner, and often pretend that they reach the top so as not to affect the male pride of their partner. Appreciate the honesty of your girl properly! Do not despair, try to understand what she needs, what she dreams about, understand her innermost sexual desires, have a dialogue with her, give her caresses and tenderness not only as an overture before intercourse, but constantly, arouse her without you get to the end, then leave her if she doesn't want sex ... and gradually things in bed will get better. Women are complex beings.
Don't you know that only about 20 percent of women reach orgasm, don't blame yourself.
Maybe she's not ready for what you want yet. I think something is bothering her. When I started having sex, I was very worried and I always thought I was doing something wrong. This prevented me from reaching orgasm. Things only changed when I got married and relaxed. Don't blame her, talk to her.
Try this recipe: - after drinking 300 - 500 g. Zaar mastic without appetizer, carefully observe yourself from time to time in the mirror and like your bloodshot eyes - hack boldly - there is nowhere to go not to end ....
Play with your finger down there while you do it! But it's best to talk to her about whether it's generally difficult to finish. I don't believe anyone can give you more useful information than she does.
And I've heard that many women just can't reach orgasm, but also many women simulate an orgasm just to make their partner feel better. What I can think of is that you can leave her in a "dry mode" for a long time, without sex. Then he did something like "striptease" - not literally. Flirt, but without sex. For so long, until you finally feel that she wants a lot. Then you can try, for example, to surprise her - when she least expects (but must feel that she wants to) to do so. I guess there will be a result.
To number 7: you're a complete idiot. As much as the problem is, haven't you thought about whether she likes what you do and sit down with her at all, maybe we like it, I know.
From the author to number 7: I've tried homemade brandy, but it still doesn't work. The point is, it's not the place. She says she is embarrassed when we are not alone, and it is rare to be alone.
You can try the position to be on top so she will be able to control the movements and thus reach orgasm.
Thank you very much everyone. She has not yet reached orgasm, but there is some hope! (from the author)
First, provide her with a place where she can rest so that no one will interrupt you. If you do it when someone stings around the house, it is very clear that it will not work. Or go to a disco as you dance and relax, it will happen. If you are in a hurry to drive her in two or three ... Ask her what she is worried about and you will understand.
There is no impotent man and no frigid woman. If you educate yourself a little more, you will understand that everything is a matter of individuality and psyche. This woman needs to relax, but also to know what exactly she needs, whether stimulation of the clitoris - French, whether more caressing and caressing, massage at specific points, more words, longer sexual intercourse - lengthening the act itself ??? ? Maybe she can't relax with you, talk to her, ask what her preferences are, turn on a vibrator / no woman can't finish it /, or other toys ...
To number 15: I think you need to be educated a lot. There was no impotent man and frigid woman ... I am a sexologist. Another issue is that this case is not about frigidity, but about anorgasm. Now number 15 to explain the concept.
Up to № 15. If you are a sexologist, you must be right, help the gentleman with advice, here everyone expresses an opinion, and everyone needs help or advice. No need for controversy in my opinion, I do not want to offend you just read your comment.
Hello, I have also had many women, but one happened to me that is very difficult to end and after she told me that many women only simulate, I took the trouble to talk to my ex-partners at least those with whom I am closer and it turned out that It's not like that, my opinion is that 20% of women have a hard time cumming and not the other way around, we've tried everything with it, it's hard to digest and that's it, we get to the end but it's very difficult. For me, everything comes from the woman after the man next to her tries naturally enough not to think only of herself. It is very important for the woman herself what everything thinks and is in her head, because my advice is for men to try and for women to relax !!!
Hi, I'm one of those 20% of women who can't cum! My friend does everything to make me finish, but I can't !!! I would like to know what the problem is?
1. For number 7 you are a total idiot 2. # 19 darling and I was so don't worry ... I'm 21 and I had an orgasm for the first time at 19. To be honest I had started to think I was frigid. To my relief, it turned out I wasn't. Even when I got up for the first time I was a little shocked. And I'm definitely not one to have sex less than 3-4 times a week. One thing you can really do is talk but it doesn't work 100%. If she needs to relax yes, then you will know what to do, but if she just didn't finish and doesn't know why she just didn't and that's it. So she just either can't or she's like me and # 19 ends hard. Try French, so I haven't heard a woman can't finish. At least that will answer a lot of questions, namely whether it can culminate at all. Regarding these 20%, unfortunately there are some critical 20% and I belong to them, I have girlfriends who end up between 5-9 times on 1 sexual intercourse ... but they are like that. I like my 1 but quality. And to say that there are some critical 20% of men who take women for a piece of meat and are on the principle of cursing the quota ... I guess # 7 belongs to them ...
20, you ... 7 the advice of 7 is not so bad. Two or three glasses of red wine can relax quite a woman who has worries. To people like 19 I can say, first learn to reach a clitoral orgasm through masturbation. Use some lubricant in doing so. Train often and when it happens, show your discovery to your partner. And SPOKO - frigid is not the woman who can not cum, but the one who does not feel pleasure and pleasure from sex and does not want to do it. If you like to have sex with your boyfriend, feel him inside you and enjoy being close to him at all - you are not frigid! And I can cum many times in a row when I'm ovulating, before menstruation, immediately after it, etc., but I have about 5 days in the cycle during which I can not cum and still need sex with my friend.
One of the most important things in a relationship is sex!
How much can a woman do? For example to spray?
Hi 21 years old I have a serious friend I would even say a man because we are engaged we are together for a long time and we often have sex but I can't finish can you help me any pills or in some other way please help me I will wait for your answer thank you in advance
Sleep with someone else and you will forget the problem; ): D
To the Author: Don't worry not all girls can have orgasms. It's not from you or the situation. If you think it's something like that, try to arouse her to the max in any way. If it doesn't happen anyway, be sure that she just can't help but blame herself! I did it with two and with one there were several unsuccessful attempts, but I can proudly praise my current partner that I get orgasms with every act. Depends on many things. So don't blame yourself!
Try another. Before you get married.
Maybe the other girls you've been with have simulated and you think the problem is in her. How long does the act last, is there a love game? What is your relationship outside of bed, do you fight often, does she feel secure in your relationship? Stop making us frigid and dissatisfied! Do not think that the problems are always with us.
So, the topic is from years ago, but I still address all the boys in the position of the author: The problem is not in you, but in her. You can be sure of that, I'm telling you as a girl. The only thing you can do is predispose her, but she must overcome psychological barriers and relax.
Insert it in the ass and massage her clit Works flawlessly;)
I only read the first two comments and I do not agree with Number 2. I think there are women who do not finish because they do not get what their brain and body wants the most and feels the most pleasure. In order to reach orgasm, do not start with the end, that is, directly to burst or directly just touch it and give. I have read and not only know from personal experience. that both his wife and husband like not getting what they want right away. !! - Stroke her hair / neck. 2 - Caress her face and kiss her as you see fit. 3 - Optionally lick / kiss ears. 4 - Kiss / lick your neck while stroking your hands. 5 - Slowly go down and around the nipples move your hands to the outside of the thighs at the knee and slowly go up. 6 - Go around the nipples before kissing them and licking, but not for long and go down this will leave her happy. Move your arms in the middle of the inner and outer thighs. 7 - Closer to the abdomen, slowly go down the navel, moving the hands to the inside. 8 - Start kissing / licking the inside of the thighs approaching the vagina. 9 - When you reach the vagina, lick it gently several times and then start on the clitoris and watch what she likes most about her moaning! She does what you hear, and you see that she likes it. From there, it's up to you to decide what you like best. But pre-play is important. It also applies to kisses. 17 year old boy :) 9 - When you reach the vagina, lick it gently several times and then start on the clitoris and watch what she likes most about her moaning! She does what you hear, and you see that she likes it. From there, it's up to you to decide what you like best. But pre-play is important. It also applies to kisses. 17 year old boy :) 9 - When you reach the vagina, lick it gently several times and then start on the clitoris and watch what she likes most about her moaning! She does what you hear, and you see that she likes it. From there, it's up to you to decide what you like best. But pre-play is important. It also applies to kisses. 17 year old boy :)
lick it between your legs, stimulate it manually. if that doesn't happen ... I don't know, slap her on the chicken.
I read all the comments and if I am in the place of the author I will not listen, no one will share what mv worries and that I do not feel well and we will have an intimate conversation to share with me what is there and whether I am to blame