I go directly to the problem. I gave birth soon. Emergency section, having previously suffered all the pain from the contractions, for three whole days, and in the end they were inhuman because I was on oxytocin for 6 hours. So nothing happened and I was cut. My husband is wonderful. Patient, gentle, kind, loving, but things with sex do not work for us. It hurts ... a lot. He kisses me, caresses me, hugs me, speaks to me gently and kindly and when it comes to penetration, I die. It's like being cut with a knife down there. I was at the doctor. There is no reason for this. The uterus has healed. Everything is fine. I want it, but this pain freezes me and just the thought of experiencing it again ... I put up with the horror. Anyone with a similar problem after giving birth?
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Sex is not just physics, but above all psyche. It's all in the brain. You can't hurt before you had sex with your husband and it was nice, now. You don't have stitches underneath, nor have you become narrower, and your husband has grown bigger when a gynecologist told you you were OK, the reason is in your psyche. It blocks and you do not relax and moisturize enough, you can only try clitoral stimulation, without penetration, masturbate yourself if you want and see if you can have fun. Or do French to each other, use lubricant, maybe anal sex, while overcoming mental inhibitions. But also go to a sexologist.
I think it's good to wait with sex after giving birth. I had a similar problem after an abortion - after 5 months it passed.
You don't say how long ago you gave birth? The first two or three months can happen. If there are more, go to another gynecologist, ask them to do a microbiology to see if you have any bacteria. Buy multivitamins, now the reserves in the body will be severely depleted. Take them for a few months. Sometimes very small things can cause us serious problems.
Seek a second and third medical opinion - you can not have such acute symptoms for no reason, especially since you did not have them before birth. Maybe something has healed at an angle, is shortened, is sewn not so correctly - the reason will always come out. It is not a job to be in such pain all your life and to ruin your sex life - if there is pain, there is a reason, do not give up until you find it and until you are offered an adequate solution!
"I want it, but this pain freezes me and just at the thought of experiencing it again ... I put up with the horror." - the pain is in the head, not in the vagina.