PAIN WITH LOVE HELLO, I am 19 years old and for the first time I love a man who is 34 years old. It all started a year ago. We met on the Internet, saw each other and started to keep in touch, I liked him very much, he is intelligent, educated, good, polite, not very accurate, but correct and tolerant, and a very understanding person. In the beginning we saw each other more often, we heard each other every day on Skype and talked all day, then I was out of work, and he can't find a job as we know him, he has high demands on work and he is still unemployed, and I'm already working. Lately, our relationship is not going well, and I don't know how to react. We started seeing each other less often, but we were together quite often on Skype, I didn't insist on seeing each other, I understood that he was nervous and I gave him time, I understand him and all the time we never once quarreled, there must be compromises in a relationship .... but I'm tired of only me understanding and no one understands me ... We hear less often, he says he's nervous, we haven't seen each other in two weeks, I love him infinitely, but I haven't received a single kind word from him, so I miss his tenderness and attention, I feel so close and at the same time a hell of a stranger, I need him, I am happy only when I hear him, and when I see him I want to hug him and he is like a tree - he lacks all warmth and tenderness, he does not hug me, he does not kiss me. What to do, how to keep my relationship, I want to be with him, I'm happy with him, I really love him but I don't know how to react to keep my relationship with this person, I am looking for advice from someone more experienced than me and I will be very happy if I get advice from men as well! Thanks!
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You know, I think you're wasting your love on someone you don't deserve, I advise you to let time show if there's real love between you and you'll see that I'm right, I'm experiencing a real love right now that I didn't think could exist , but she is here between us and starts burning when there are two, the world is not so big, you will see that you will find a soulmate, believe me, I already know it from experience !!!
How will you be happy with him? Don't be fooled, you are very unhappy. What do you need it for? You say that he is not very accurate, he is too lazy to work, yes, he had claims about the work, and who supports him? Will you carry this one on your back? And you haven't heard a single kind word? On top of everything, he's a jerk. I'm a woman, but I really hate them. My own brother is like that and he ruined his wife's life. Think about what awaits you, even though I don't think he wants you anymore.
If you love him, tell him what you are feeling, be more intimate, share it, so that there is a future for a relationship, you must share it. If you love him, tell him what your intentions are. He may be more mature, but he will understand you.
Very old topic. Already an author, this is probably a past period of your life..You already have a new life. BUT I still want to tell you that love hurts .... !! And this person you described 6 years, he did not love you and did not have any serious intentions. I hope you found something better ..