Hello! I'm a girl of 22 and I've been dating a man for a while who really hurts me while we have sex. It's not about any whips and acrobatics of the type 50 shades, we have normal sex, but somewhere after the fifth minute he starts some super sharp and strong thrusts that bring me to orgasm quickly, and then (as he continues) I start to I feel severe pain as if in my very abdomen and in my vagina. It also hurts a hell of a lot when I get my penis out. And it's not just that - he likes to bite me, leave me sucking and holding my hands. In theory, it may not sound bad, but it hurts me and I tell him, and he promises to be careful, but next time it's the same. I have bruises and sucks all over my body. Is it possible that I am too "tender", and if so, what should I do?
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Try not to upset him and everything will be fine.
Look what, everyone has certain sexual preferences and it's not your fault! When you don't want something, no one has the right to force you to do it! I would never allow a man to treat me like that, for example, I keep sex always gentle and romantic, which he does not like - I do not force him to stay with me. You have to stomp your foot and tell him what you do NOT want and what you want if he does not agree, his right path. You are currently raping yourself in practice.
I completely agree with number 2 and add that if in sex he promises you some things and then does not fulfill them, it is very likely that in other areas he will do the same. Without knowing the person, it seems to me from what you have written that he thinks mainly of himself and belittles your preferences. Be tougher and if he ignores you again, think about whether you want to be with him so much.
Use a lubricant. The pain comes from not having enough secretion in you. 30% of women have less well-developed glands, and during very prolonged intercourse ... In addition, before menstruation, from stress and dehydration you do not have enough secretion - drink more fluids, lubricant and saliva and sleep peacefully. It still hurts because you are lucky that the man is "gifted" and reaches the cervix, which is very unpleasant at first. In a few months, however, your body will adjust and there will be no pain. It's not because of the intensity of the thrusts - it just pushes a lot inward. It is no coincidence that there is a saying that very good is not good, but this is temporary - I guarantee you. Your man's penis is probably over 16 cm - 17-18, for which he is not guilty of anything, and the female body is made to be able to adapt to this. And another thing will help - have sex in positions where the penetration is not so deep you have control. such poses are the "rider", "dog", "spoon" poses. Forget about missionary work, at least for now, and when you're done, why don't you do fellatio when it hurts?
Honey, mine is the same ... it bites, pulls, sucks .. And I'm all blue, he loves my legs and accordingly they are blue too ... Really don't make him angry and tell him more often that it hurts, yes is felt. At first I was also shocked and it hurt during sex, but now I seem to get used to it. Because he doesn't stop with these things, I started like him from time to time and accordingly realized that it is not a pleasure but rather an unpleasant feeling of because of which I do not want to have sex and stopped
In sex, in my opinion, one is always dominant and the other submassive. As you describe it, there are inclinations towards a sadomasochistic master. If he keeps your arms curled behind your back or holds your hair while you're in the back, I definitely think so. Here No4 is somewhat right, I reach the bottom (although I am 15 cm) and I think it is the result of humiliation. I had a friend who squirmed and was always super wet, and no matter how deep I went, she never complained. And the others, with whom I reached the bottom, hurt a little, but not much, they just pushed me a little. Tell him to prolong the love game at the beginning until you get nicely aroused ... I can advise you that. The most important thing is NOT to take the position of a victim - either you are his slave in bed and you like it or throw it away