Hello! A 22-year-old girl is writing to you, hoping that my story will find a place and a point of view. My story in brief: 1 year ago I met a boy. Gradually things got worse, at least for me. Everything was going well until the day he just backed away and didn't call me for a month. Two months later, he called me again, spoke his beautiful words to me, and I fell into his trap once again. Things got deeper. We started having an intimate relationship, without commitment. Just sex. After each of our meetings, I fell in love more and more. I can't say the same for him. The worst thing is that he looks for me whenever he wants, and I can't refuse him because I want him terribly. His beautiful words are a screen through which he easily manages to entice me to be with him again. Many times I tried to erase it from my thoughts and heart, but I couldn't. It has become a habit of mine - a very harmful habit. I don't want to give it up. Not at this stage. I try everything, but my ideas run out, and I still really want to continue my meetings with him. I would be happy if any of you were in a similar situation to share an opinion and give me some advice. Thanks to everyone in advance. Jezebel
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Dear girl, you have to sit down and talk in private, if he doesn't love you, there's no point in letting him go, I know it's hard for you, if he still has any feelings for you, he will come back in time and he will look for you if you do not move forward, you will meet someone who deserves you, life is in front of you.
It is very convenient for him to have you as a substitute for boredom and for some entertainment there. so you waste your time, because you sink, he withdraws and when they do not give him elsewhere, to come to you again. He may not ask you for more intimacy than that, a relationship, etc. But don't put yourself in the situation of waiting, hoping, changing him or his views. You say it is your bad habit. If you like your attitude, why don't you continue to please him, obviously that's not the only thing that suits you. I would understand you if you want to erase him from your thoughts because he is with another or he underestimates and insults you, but if everything else is fine, you can try to spend more time together.
I was in this situation: for 6 months he literally manipulated me, and I fell in love. He was also looking for me only for sex, he didn't even take me out for coffee. The moment I told myself I was done, he seemed to read my mind from a distance. Suddenly there were feelings for me, and very strong ones. At one point he just couldn't do without me, he became incredibly kind, caring and even jealous. A crazy love started, we lived together and our relationship lasted for years. I dare say it was the love of my life. Unfortunately, something did not work out, it did not lead to a wedding and children. From all the work I can't even say what the conclusion is. But I will tell you that if he does not like this situation and you want either love or nothing, then you have to step back a little, to show him some indifference. Don't meet every time he asks - say you already have plans, do not answer every call. But in no case do not cut it with teary eyes and words like "I do not want to see you anymore." He just has to think that there is competition that may be better than him. If something in it speaks, you will notice it and then you will think of it (or you will write here again).
Look now, if you don't tell him how you feel better, it won't happen.
Hello! I recommend you to listen to Melanie Fiona feat. B. o. B - Change the Record. You need to know that it will be difficult at first. To lose it. You will want it even more. But once it's over, you'll see that this is the best thing you can do for yourself. Respect yourself more. Don't let anyone guide your nose. What does this man give you? Sex. Ok. And the rest. Don't waste time with him. As you overcome this, you will begin to see men more soberly, who is for you and who will grab his rags and wash himself. I wish you success and to meet someone decent who cares and respects you! Manny is the current one. ;)
Wedge-wedge erupts! Well, usually the second one stays! Find someone else, even if it's just for sex, or at least in the beginning, later it may turn out to be much more than that and .... to be two-way. I want to say, let there be another presence in your life, someone who is pleasant to you, when he calls you "magnificent", tell him that you already have an appointment and you can't. Several times like this and in the end either you will cut it off completely (the other presence will distract you at least from this one) Or he will stop looking for you when you are not served with a pepper in his mouth and a lemon in his mouth. Because ... you serve yourself, she treats you like that, because she can, because you allow that.
Jezebel hahaha here if you hadn't gathered snakes only life is life as it is written it will hardly happen and you will be very compliant with the comments none of the wounded ladies can give you a precise direction these are your relationships maybe number one for the fact that you have to talk but not to attack him with your crumb in his face is ugly and sweaty alas, I leave you here until the feelings are gone, goodbye; (
Thanks for understanding! :)
Be strong and tell him that if he's not serious it doesn't suit you. I was in the same situation, but with the difference that I didn't let him go. He rarely called me when it was convenient or boring. He took down other women. He was a womanizer. He started talking to me about some serious relationship. He pretended to be angry because it wasn't his. He seemed to be in love with me, but he quickly fell out of love with me. I rightly do not trust people like him, because these are people who are not reliable because they do not know what they want. It's hard for me, but if I had a non-committal relationship with him, it would hurt me more. So I decided to leave the ball in it. He quickly forgot about me, which means it wasn't worth it.
I was in the same situation and now I wish someone had been next to me and slapped me 2 times! Find another one is the only solution to the problem. It happened to me that I slept with 1 boy on the first date and I have been with him for 1 year now and I am madly in love. And the gentleman in question "just friend" tried to look for me several times, but without success!