This year I was in a new class with new people. At first I liked the whole class without one girl. I looked like a blonde aunt, very dark brown eyes, short, with the face of a child and the body of a fitness maniac. Then I talked to her. She was such a jerk, she was filming a lot, she laughed at nonsense, she was terribly stupid and frivolous, at times inadequate. Over time, she turned out to be the most decent person in her class, and I was very dumb that everyone hated her for being from another city, but for months she became one of the most popular. Rumor has it that rumors were circulating. She received low grades, smoked and ran away from classes, lied to her parents and teachers, swore. I thought it was rubbish. One day I had problems without knowing me, she realized I had something, she listened to me without asking questions and judging me, gave me advice on how to proceed and helped me deal with the other part of the problem. She was unique. It turned out that she is very smart and understands everything that has poor grades, it's just done because people expect her to be. He smokes so that he can be with his friends and control them so that they do not overdo it with cigarettes. He has been practicing dance for 12 years and martial arts for 4 years and goes to the gym every day. She runs away from class because her friends from her city have problems and she fixes them. It turned out that there are 2 incurable diseases, but it works. She has a lot of problems and no matter how happy she seems, she's not. She doesn't share them. People take advantage of it, and it gives everything for everyone. It's like a child - nothing will ever deny you. She said it's because it's hard for anyone to deal with her character. When she finds friends, she does everything she can to keep them. They use it, because she is too good with them. Her happiness is in making her friends happy. One boy liked her, she liked him. One girl in the class said she liked it and our girl went to collect them so the others could be happy. She sacrifices her happiness for others. I don't want her to be so naive, what can I tell her?
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Dude, this girl isn't naive, she's a very advanced soul. It is naive for others to think that by taking advantage of someone and thinking only of themselves, they will achieve spiritual progress. Stay close to her as close as possible, think about how she manages to do all this, despite her problems. You can learn a lot from her - if she can you can too! She has turned her back on human influence. What is actually naive ?!
Hey, bro, this is what a girl writes to you. And I'm actually like her at heart, and I'm really very happy when the people I love are happy. In principle, no one understands me, everyone says that I am the strangest person they know, which makes me feel different. They always avoid me, I have a few friends who don't sleep for me at all and just look at how good they are and they don't think about how I feel and despite everything I look at how and with what to make them smile, because just when you make someone to smile, to be happy .. you feel special and the reason for this smile ... My best friend is a boy and only he thinks how I feel. Only he is kind to me and only he understands me and calms me down when I feel very, very bad !!! Before I met him, I was worse than I am now. Then I literally surrendered to fate and my shades were not the same, and the relationship with parents and relatives, in general ... but when he appeared, everything changed. Well, I still keep helping everyone, but what can I do, I can't look at people unhappy ... just when I see the smiles on people's faces, their faces glowing with joy ... it gives me strength for more before, I feel special that the reason for this joy is me and I am convinced that if she reads my comment she will understand me. I am sure that if we knew each other we would be the best fr. As she sacrifices herself for the happiness of others, so do I. Especially for the person who supports me and came at the right time, the most difficult moment in life, the person who gives me the strength to continue my life, to change both him and myself. As he sacrificed his happiness for mine, so do I for his and will always help him, despite everything and everyone, even if he does not want .... because he is my best friend, the only person who truly loves me and gives me strength and faith, although that he is a boy and is a few years older than me. He is like my older brother !!! He ... at least a little, but he changed me, changed my life .... I want to tell you not to abandon and isolate her. Love her like a Frenchman, be by her side, give her advice, and gain her trust. We girls are very strangely arranged human beings and, in general, we quickly become attached to people. We are naive and keep our word (well, at least most of them). We love people who love and respect us. Calmly share with her, tell her that she is very good or beautiful! Believe her! Have tactics and somehow change her life, make her not sacrifice so much for others, make her feel valuable and special !!!