Everyone here will attack me for being a player and a womanizer, but this is not the case. I am a nice and romantic young man, 28 years old, Pisces, I can talk on many topics, I have more female friends, because in general I like their grace and personally I feel more malice than men and envy, so I prefer friendships with women. It's normal to glance at them, I'm a straight man after all, but I've never taken any of them (my girlfriends) off with the thought of sleeping with them. There are certain qualities that I look for in a woman and I generally pursue this type. I don't like sex overnight, but it just so happened. I have a girlfriend, I would call her my closest after my really best friend from school years yet. She is the sweetest, sweetest and most well-meaning creature. She's terribly emotional because she's a water sign like me, Cancer. I treat her like more than a sister and I love her. But it's no secret that she's liked me since we met. Many times I have shown her that she only has friendly feelings and she seems to be moving forward, but it is obvious that she wants me. There was no way I could back off, because I wanted to communicate with her too. So in September we were at a big party for the engagement of some friends, we drank a lot and went home together. She started pushing me, I was in euphoria and I responded and so we had great sex. After all, half a bottle of vodka that I drank + the fact that she is a very beautiful woman who knows how to arouse you (she has beautiful hazelnut hair, smooth skin with a nice complexion, a slightly tight body and large gray-green eyes). But in the morning, in addition to having a terrible hangover, I felt like the biggest garbage and scoundrel, and she was sweetly hugging me. I even vaguely remembered, but she clearly remembered everything. Since then, she thought she had a chance and behaved like a boyfriend, and I didn't know how to explain things to her without hurting her and arguing. In fact, I know I acted like shit, but she's not justified in taking advantage of my drunken state and now manipulating me for something I don't want. And why don't I want to Because although we have similar characters and interests, our views on life are very different. She wants to meet a good man to give her security, to start a family as soon as possible, she wants him to be stronger than her, because she is slightly unstable as a person. I'm blown away too, but I'm proud of that. I want a woman with an adventurous spirit, not a wife with whom we can have two children and live a typical life. I want to live for the moment, for the adventure. I can be very responsible, but I don't want to. If I go with her, she will want to sculpt me according to her ideal, and I will want her - according to mine. So no one will be happy and that's it. She has even started already, she hints at various things for a common union. But unless she changes, and I don't want that from her, there's no way anything can happen. I feel the worst from the fact that I want to sleep with her again, at least, I feel inhuman sexual attraction. We have already ruined the friendship everywhere. And I have to talk to her, because I haven't done it yet and she thinks of herself as my boyfriend, even though she knows exactly how things are inside her. What to do? Am I really big garbage? Please only without overly cynical and vulgar comments. But unless she changes, and I don't want that from her, there's no way anything can happen. I feel the worst from the fact that I want to sleep with her again, at least, I feel inhuman sexual attraction. We have already ruined the friendship everywhere. And I have to talk to her, because I haven't done it yet and she considers herself something like my boyfriend, even though inside she knows exactly how things are. What to do? Am I really big garbage? Please only without overly cynical and vulgar comments. But unless she changes, and I don't want that from her, there's no way anything can happen. I feel the worst from the fact that I want to sleep with her again, at least, I feel inhuman sexual attraction. We have already ruined the friendship everywhere. I also have to talk to her, because I haven't done it yet and she considers herself something like my boyfriend, even though she knows exactly how things are inside. What to do? Am I really big garbage? Please only without overly cynical and vulgar comments. although inside she also knows exactly how things stand. What to do? Am I really big garbage? Please only without overly cynical and vulgar comments. although inside she also knows exactly how things stand. What to do? Am I really big garbage? Please only without overly cynical and vulgar comments.
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You are very narcissistic. Complete selfish. You want sex with her, and you claim that you only like her as a friend. The problem is, you don't want to limit yourself to her. However, tomorrow you may meet Adriana Lima and be thrown around the neck. Then you will suddenly rethink your concept of life and decide that you want the right family. Deep behind your words, it's clear that you don't like her enough. And because you describe her as very sexy, she's either not pretty enough for your high scandals, or you're just bored. I bet on the latter. From the beginning, she was interested, and you weren't. Stop fooling yourself. You just don't like her enough. And since a sexy woman doesn't grab you, I imagine with her adventurous spirit what criteria she has to meet - at least a top model, at least a Harvard graduate, at least a crazy nymphomaniac, at least the soul of the company.
A "very beautiful woman" will not take her for an alpha male for a long time, but will put pressure on some disoriented person, who "I can be very responsible, but I don't want to" feels "inhuman sexual attraction", but is he furry with a relationship? Did the fiction about sleep sex write it? I hope you woke up already.
Author, you are a player and a womanizer, in fact - unconscious, but such. Talk seriously with the girl about what you want. If she is so in love with you, she may enter your adventurous framework. Otherwise, set your conditions quite clearly and so on. If you do not want a serious relationship, and she expects such a thing after sex - forget to sleep with her again. And most importantly - stop holding her on a leash, because nonsense like "I could not back off, because I want to communicate with her." Are the reason you're in this hall. In real life, there is no such thing as a friendship between a man and a woman if one side has an interest. You screw up her chances of finding someone else to appreciate her, instead of scratching her own ego. Stop.
What can I tell you, man. And it happened to me with my best friend, she was 23, I was 17 then. We have been together for ten years, and the result of the relationship - our three-year-old daughter, is currently sleeping next to me, she has caught the virus :)). I wouldn't trade her for anything, wonderful child, but the woman and I are very different. As some things have brought us together, so now they divide us a lot. For example, she can't relax, it's nice to be responsible, but hers is too much. As for me, even though I don't cheat on her, have something to eat, etc., I'm not someone who thinks about how she will build an empire, or how I will spend my life alone with her. In a sense, not that I'm going to leave her, but I need time for myself, time for friends, etc. Let's say I'm more windy and adventurous, like you. There will always be one ... Anyway, I'm saying this above to tell you, that nothing is known. You may have a little man without whom you can't imagine life, and now you don't even think about it. She may be the woman for you, who knows. And life is not what you imagine it to be, especially if you compromise.
Very nasty situation. In a similar way, I broke off a long friendship with sex. It turned out that during all our years of friendship, he was in love with me. He and everyone else told me, but I laughed at such "suspicions" I was sure we were friends, almost like my brother was. In a moment of emotional weakness after severe stress for personal reasons, we both drank alcohol, and neither of us drank otherwise and it happened. I made the mistake of "listening" and waiting for myself to remember that there is no connection, there is no connection, that there was a mistake. Well, it didn't happen that way. He really suffers so much and long enough because of my fear of just sitting down and talking to him (with my silence I was obviously hoping for hope) that he changed the city at last, despite the fact that he settled in ours. Talk to her openly and categorically! Leave her no room for doubt or hope! This will hurt her in the moment and time after that, but she will accept the truth much better and faster and will continue her life without unnecessary illusions and pain after every resistance on your part. Your friendship is already fucked up. Don't count on it as before. Keep at least some time apart. It's been a long time since my case with my boyfriend, we're both in a long relationship, but his current one knows about me and doesn't even last me virtually. I tried at one time to see if we could regain our friendship, and we even grew up together. I made a big mistake, I obviously stayed as a "thrill" she can talk to me until the morning while she sleeps in the other room. After two such cases, I simply cut off all contact for his own good. but he will accept the truth much better and faster and will continue his life without unnecessary illusions and pain after every resistance on your part. Your friendship is already fucked up. Don't count on it as before. Keep at least some time apart. It's been a long time since my case with my friend, we're both in a long relationship, but his current one knows about me and doesn't even last me virtually. I tried at one time to see if we could regain our friendship, and we even grew up together. I made a big mistake, I obviously stayed as a "thrill" she can talk to me until the morning while she sleeps in the other room. After two such cases, I simply cut off all contact for his own good. but he will accept the truth much better and faster and will continue his life without unnecessary illusions and pain after every resistance on your part. Your friendship is already fucked up. Don't count on it as before. Keep at least some time apart. It's been a long time since my case with my friend, we're both in a long relationship, but his current one knows about me and doesn't even last me virtually. I tried at one time to see if we could regain our friendship, and we even grew up together. I made a big mistake, I obviously stayed as a "thrill" she can talk to me until the morning while she sleeps in the other room. After two such cases, I simply cut off all contact for his own good. It's been a long time since my case with my friend, we're both in a long relationship, but his current one knows about me and doesn't even last me virtually. I tried at one time to see if we could regain our friendship, and we even grew up together. I made a big mistake, I obviously stayed as a "thrill" she can talk to me until the morning while she sleeps in the other room. After two such cases, I simply cut off all contact for his own good. It's been a long time since my case with my friend, we're both in a long relationship, but his current one knows about me and doesn't even last me virtually. I tried at one time to see if we could regain our friendship, and we even grew up together. I made a big mistake, I obviously stayed as a "thrill" she can talk to me until the morning while she sleeps in the other room. After two such cases, I simply cut off all contact for his own good.
I've always wondered how men do this - sex without feelings. As a woman, I have tried, but it doesn't work - once, twice and let's go in love-lost. I understand that you are attracted, but if you are really a man on the spot, tell her what she can and cannot get from you - sex and adventure - yes, stability, family and children - no. It may be rude, but at least it's fair, and it's better to know it now, not in a few months when there's really no going back for her. However, it is possible that she hopes that sex will make you fall in love with her and, for example, agree to be friends with privileges - at least for the first time. Then you will really be fucked. In general, you are quite stuck and there is no easy way out. But still, it's better to be honest and say things the way you think.
No, Author, you're not rubbish and there's nothing to bother about ... OK, you've been drunk, you've pushed yourself, you've fucked well ... There's nothing wrong with that - you both wanted it ... A compliment for a sober description of the situation! It is well known that practically all problems in a relationship start from the fact that one tries to change / model the other in his own view / way. You realize this, which shows me mental maturity! You have the following options: - You talk to her as openly as with us here in the forum. You can easily forget about sex with her after that. - you invite her to see, hug and fuck her regularly without saying anything specific, without making a "commitment", as they say. This can take a very long time, I know from personal experience. Well, at some point she'll push you directly, wanting to hear how things are from your point of view ... With a skilful slip, you can hold her like that for a long time. Listen to your heart, do not compromise for the sake of others. M48
Spit out the stone and tell yourself everything. From experience I will say that a broken heart is better once and for all than wasted time and worn out nerves. Nobody deserves it.
Well, you seem to look like yourself and want to. What are you complaining about, I don't understand? In my opinion, you have a vision of a woman next to you and you do not want to look at what is really happening.
Look, I don't want it to sound like an attack or an insult, but you're characterless. Tell her that you need to talk and explain to her in RIGHT TEXT how things are. Don't feel sorry for her, don't feel sorry for your friendship - she should understand you best of all women of the world (you say it yourself!). She is currently manipulating you and demanding something from you that you cannot give her. This is anything but friendship. As for the fact that you still want to sleep with her again - don't! You will find yourself in the same situation that you want to avoid, with the difference that in this case it will be completely intentional. And yes, it will not be a man's act, but not at all!
You don't get angry, in general you say how things are clear, without worrying about the fact that you will hurt her in two words: You change the way I want to be together or we just stay friends and what happened was by chance the two of you we have guilt but I want to forget it and that's it
You sit at 1 table and tell her what you wrote to us. It will hurt her less now than if things get worse and then you shake her.
Yes, I will advise you as the previous commenters - explain everything, say your point of view. If she agrees to continue having sex after listening to you - I do not understand what your problem is. Knowing the truth, she has to do the math herself. Not only will I not spit on you, but I will honestly tell you that I like men like you - to be aware of their feelings and to be direct in their relationships. I really appreciate honesty in human relationships. Tell her everything she wrote here and there for her to decide.
True friendship between a man and a woman is only when they have been intimate with each other ....
Safe from adventurers, scouts, ghost hunters ... hello, this crazy woman you are looking for is located at Karlukovo or 4th kilometer. I came across two rats, poor people, I hate them. I hope they burn in the hottest circle of hell. Now they live with ugly women, one a slut who takes selfies with dirty pigs, the other a crazy alcoholic. And they are adventurers like you. They don't even have enough. Hey, such users deserve to be left alone as dogs that pretend to be very cunning and agile. I learned my lesson not to lower my level with such. There are still men with class. They are rare, but as an educated and beautiful woman I will find myself. Until then, I will not allow myself to be used as a handkerchief. I have no nerves to deal with.
Being different is no obstacle to a successful and lasting relationship. On the contrary, if you are the same, you will soon get bored. I say that because you make some arguments against a possible connection with her. These rational arguments in love are great nonsense, which always harms and destroys everything. Many people think that reason is more important than feelings, but this is not the case. Let time decide things. If she tempts you, and has already seduced you, then the probable Eve is for you - she has also tempted Adam. This is love and marriage, in essence. All other philosophies and tales are wind work. Maybe now, when you push her away and you will feel relief, but then you may regret it. To catch up with someone who will only create worries and problems for you with your "adventurous" adventurous character. A man and just about everyone should remember that in addition to adventure, there is a duty in life. Yes, now this debt scares you, but sooner or later you have to realize it and follow. Well, it's better early than late, believe me.
She will not stop hoping. Although I can't imagine how you will cut it off. If he starts to scandalize you or get upset, you will fall into absolute chess. If you don't want a woman to model you, forget about her. Crabs are like that, you know. In turn, I am in love with a very similar to you. What do I have to be to win you over? Tell me a little :) Alpha, g. 27
You are for each other. DON'T LOSE HER !!!!