I have been married for 14 years. I have 1 wonderful child of 12 years, I have a good job, nice appearance, normal family. I thought I was a happy person and wanted nothing more than life, but it turned out I was lying. 3 years ago everything collapsed suddenly. I have a brother and I have always felt that my parents have a preference for him. They have 2 houses and some time ago they transferred both to him, because he would take care of them, even though he does not live with them. My brother is very well off, he has his own business and yet everything was written to him. I experienced a lot of sorrow and pain not because of the material side, but because they divide us and everything became quiet, without having the dignity to stand in front of me and tell me what they decided, because it is their right and choice, but I learn by bystanders for the transfer of property. I stopped talking to them and my brother, but at one point I decided to forgive them despite what I had done, because they are the people closest to me and I forgave them, but my heart is made of stone and they are indifferent to me. From time to time we only meet on the road by chance or hear each other on the phone, but very rarely. In the meantime, I found that all these years, my husband had also lied to me and played part of his salary on poker machines, and he had lied to me all along that he was getting a lower salary. My life has been spent in lies only. I don't have any feelings. We live together because he asked me not to separate because of the child, and if I go out with the child, we have to live miserably, and the apartment we live in is now owned by my husband, inherited from his parents, but we got it empty. and we replaced all the windows, we have done heating and with joint efforts and a lot of savings we have furnished it, and now I have to leave it to him. I do not know what to do. He does not insult or rude me, but there is no trust between us and there is only tension. I don't know if I will continue to live with him until the child grows up. I feel very unhappy and nothing makes me happy. During my childhood I was unhappy - eternal lies and neglect, in 14 years of family life again only lies. Please give me some advice. I secretly hope to meet a person who will respect me and not lie to me, because most of all I hate lying and hypocrisy. I feel very unhappy and nothing makes me happy. During my childhood I was unhappy - eternal lies and neglect, in 14 years of family life again only lies. Please give me some advice. I secretly hope to meet a person who will respect me and not lie to me, because most of all I hate lying and hypocrisy. I feel very unhappy and nothing makes me happy. During my childhood I was unhappy - eternal lies and neglect, in 14 years of seed life again only lies. Please give me some advice. I secretly hope to meet a person who will respect me and not lie to me, because most of all I hate lying and hypocrisy.
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The strange thing is that you always talk about some material things - both in the relationship with your husband and in those with your parents. But attitude and respect are not just about the material. Think again and reassess the situation. After all, it's about your closest people. And despite your pain, you must find the strength to forgive them. You will see that you will be relieved. Success!
I don't want to be rude, but in the first lines of your story you read about a nice appearance and then about real estate, money ... All material benefits, you can't leave it so as not to live miserably. I think you, ma'am, you are not looking for someone who will respect you and not lie to you, you just want a SPONSOR !!! I may be wrong and if so excuse me, but from what is written it is nowhere clear that you are lonely and that you need love. Maybe I'm illiterate enough and that's why I don't understand you. Still, I wish you success and a huge luxury house to be happy in it !!!
The comments are harsh, but it's because you couldn't understand this woman's pain. I was facing the same problem, I hesitated for a long time and left the luxury house and many cars. Now I live in a flat in a big city, it's not easy for me, but I'm not complaining ... I chose it myself.
It is very clear that she is interested in the material side! We live in a material world! What are you doing to very innocent everyone. When it comes to money, you will very quickly forget your selfless outpourings. It is very easy to judge! But if you don't have two pennies in your pocket and your child is hungry and has nowhere to live, explain to me 1 and 2 how happy you will be and love life and people, etc. I don't have children, I'm married and I don't even try to have children until I am able to provide everything for them! And for men: he can take a quota, it is very clear that he will take it, they can't do anything else! And this part with the great love ends very quickly! Thanks!!!
Hello! Thanks to everyone for the answers! Now I understand what things look like from the side, but in reality they are not. Everyone has the right to their own opinion, so I am not angry with anyone for the opinion expressed. from the author
I don't think you're too materialistic, but rather you're realistic. Time will tell if your relationship with your husband has a chance.
Be sure to consult a lawyer about your parents' property! You may have the right to challenge some of them or there may be a clause to protect your rights. I'm not a lawyer and I can't say anything about it, but I've heard that there is a way to challenge the inheritance (possibly after the death of your parents). They have decided that since you live in your husband's house, they should leave everything to their son. But this is old, patriarchal thinking, everything happens in life and every heir must receive his share (that's why he is an heir), even if he is smaller, but still have justice. As for your husband, it's up to you two to make your life at least a little happier. So you're on your way. Life does not get better with complaining.
SEE IF YOU CAN UNDERSTAND YOURSELF, FIND THE CARDS, DON'T LOOK FOR ANOTHER BECAUSE THIS WILL BE THE BIG MISTAKE. I JUST KNOW IT ..... SUCCESS.
I understand your disappointment. But keep in mind that there are no sinless people. No way. I don't see poker as a betrayal. This is just a human weakness that we all have - one more visible, another not. Or maybe the person next to you is quite real ... This is not infidelity after all. And what about some lost (lost) funds. I think so. I wish I was useful! I wish you much, much happiness.