M25, I have been alone for 2 years, and 2 and a half years ago I found my first girlfriend, she was the first one I slept with. Until I was 23, I was alone. I've never been successful, and when I walk ... well, I still find them some strange (for example, mental problems mostly), but they do not work. I live in a small town (60-70 thousand), due to coincidences, I will be here for a long time. The girls ... aren't much my age or younger because there's no uni here. I know that when he mentions writing on Facebook, he condemns me, but I should also write down the events. Mostly .... they don't answer me.
They are not required, but in 99% of cases with a normally written "Hello, how are you?" Or similar but well written - I have always been greeted with ignorance, just read it and that's it. Even the girls I thought were around my bar. There were roads, when I experimented and I was more direct and I wrote to slightly overweight girls - zero effect. In general, I've always liked skinny girls, but they never paid attention to me. I'm not talking about models and athletes, just a normal weight ... I've never been with one before. On the other hand, girls who weighed many times over the norm wrote to me. But even if I use violence, I don't like it. It's just that I don't attract normal girls with anything, loneliness eats me up, and my self-esteem is gone. I've been going to the gym for a few years, I have a body I want and I don't have it yet, and I may not have it for years. But even in the gym I could not meet anyone.
They all come with their friends. Well, the reason is not only in self-confidence - the vision is still seen first. I will now describe myself. 164cm, 61-63kg. I don't have a body because for many years I was overweight and I, after losing weight, go to the gym to tighten up, but as I said - the result is slow. The body I want will take years + chemistry to achieve it, and until then I no longer want to be alone. I can't define myself as ugly, but to be greeted with such mass ignorance, as if everyone had agreed to do it, I'm obviously not very handsome. Apart from fitness, photography is also my hobby, I have had conversations ... but with people much younger than me. True, most little girls respond, but I can't be with them. The difference is too big over the years. I was totally desperate, and I don't know where the way out is. I can't define myself as ugly, but to be greeted with such mass ignorance, as if everyone had agreed to do it, I'm obviously not very handsome. Apart from fitness, photography is also my hobby, I have had conversations ... but with people much younger than me.
True, most little girls respond, but I can't be with them. The difference is too big over the years. I was totally desperate, and I don't know where the way out is. I can't define myself as ugly, but to be greeted with such mass ignorance, as if everyone has agreed to do it, I'm obviously not very handsome. Apart from fitness, photography is also my hobby, I have had conversations ... but with people much younger than me. True, most little girls respond, but I can't be with them. The difference is too big over the years. I was totally desperate, and I don't know where the way out is.
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The Bulgarian man is a strange thing. So, as you described yourself, author, you yourself are overweight or you have overcome this to some extent, but you are far from the dream body, very short, and obviously you are not handsome in your opinion. But you couldn't force yourself to like women with such an appearance, but you want a girl who isn't quite a model, but weak. Appearance is not everything, but you should always attract the girl with something, and you yourself reduce your interests to fitness and photography and obviously you do not impress with intellect, since only girls much younger than you answered you.
Hi, I'm 23, girl. In general, I can't get an idea of what you wrote here, what you look like. For starters you are short. I don't know if this is your complex, but it's definitely true. I myself am 1, 60 and consider myself a little lower, but in general for girls it is normal. It's not enough for boys. In terms of kg, they are not much considering your height, but you may look a little fuller, especially if you are relaxed. But this is already specific, it also depends on your body. And despite everything I've written, over the years I've come to realize that appearance in general matters almost nothing. I believe that you have seen many examples of how people with not so perfect appearance have halves, etc. By that I mean that maybe your problem is elsewhere. As long as you continue to lack self-confidence, to be timid and insecure, to worry, etc., you can't get things done, no matter what you look like or what body you have. I tell you from a woman's point of view that we feel these things. I look relatively good. They say I'm beautiful, I'd rather call myself beautiful. I have, as you put it, a normal body, I'm about 50 kg, I'm not skinny, but I don't think I have anything superfluous about myself. And of course, I don't lack male attention, but trust me, no matter how a boy looks, the lack of any confidence will definitely repel me. Work on your self-esteem. Good luck :) that I have something superfluous about myself. And of course, I don't lack male attention, but trust me, no matter how a boy looks, the lack of any confidence will definitely repel me. Work on your self-esteem. Good luck :) that I have something superfluous about myself. And of course, I don't lack male attention, but trust me, no matter what a boy looks like, the lack of any confidence will definitely repel me. Work on your self-esteem. Good luck :)
First, you write on Facebook to some girls you don't know. You don't know if they are free, if they are looking for a relationship, if they perceive Facebook as a place for dating. It is normal that most do not suit you. Second, there is a huge choice in the face, and the appearance is the first and sifting feature. You are quite short and in my opinion with ten kilos on top. To most women, you are what those fat people who write to you are to you. For a nice, normal body, you don't need years and supplements. You just need a good diet and a lot of perseverance. As you say, I don't know how often you walk, but you have to go somewhere five times a week. If you think that when you inflate your muscles, all women will suddenly notice you, disappointment awaits you. You need to develop your social skills, talk to women boldly and with confidence, not walk their bagpipes. This will help you a lot more. It is clear that you do not have self-confidence, but in the beginning you will have to pretend simply. Finally, everyone has a limit. You may not be able to attract what you want in your best form. And here comes the moment of choice. Do you want to be alone or with someone who does not meet your desires. It may seem unfair to you to have to make such a compromise, but remember that you are also a compromise for many people, perhaps just for those you like. So, the choice is yours. It may seem unfair to you to have to make such a compromise, but remember that you are also a compromise for many people, perhaps just for those you like. So, the choice is yours. It may seem unfair to you to have to make such a compromise, but remember that you are also a compromise for many people, perhaps just for those you like. So, the choice is yours.
My "normal girls" like normal boys. I couldn't be attracted to a 63-pound man, just as you're not attracted to the fatter ones. And to be honest, you're short. I tell you this directly because you sift the girls by appearance and you should know that they do the same. All the pretty girls get loads of messages. How and with what do you stand out. Besides knowing what you are looking for - what can you offer? For the record - I'm a normal girl. At 22, 165cm, 58kg.
Each chick is told "100 people a day" "Hello, how are you". It's like those who go home to advertise and sell you things. At one point you stop opening them and if you need something you go to get it from the store. In general, you have to make them come to you. If you so want online dating download Tinder I have a lot of acquaintances with boyfriends from there. Otherwise for your vision - you are not very attractive. I don't want to complicate you, but 90% of girls will find you too short. You will have to compensate with some other qualities such as self-confidence, physique, humor, money or some other qualities that some girls like. Sign up for a gym, supplements are not so important and keep shooting. Make your Instagram make your Facebook page, become good at what you do.
Why do you think it's okay for women to meet strangers? Alpha, w. 30 years
From the Author to Number 7, if you read the story again, you will see that the exact opposite is not the case.
Be original. You know that the definition of insanity is to do the same thing and expect a different result. I never respond to messages like, "Hello, how are you?" This leads me to think that the boy did not even bother to write something that would intrigue me. Rather, I would think that he sends 100 such messages a day in the hope that someone (any) will tie him.
You are very short, even for a short woman. 99% of women like tall men, strong, who can, defend her, build ... such associations. If it is normal for a woman to be short, it is incomplete for a man to be short.
Your first problem is that you don't know women at all. We all have mental disorders. If your little ones pay attention to you, why don't you focus on them? As long as they're over 18, right. You yourself are still immature and innocent and you will fit.
It's bad to be in love and no one to understand you, but it's even worse to be drunk and no one to take you home. So don't despair.
Number 10, again this height is represented as if a person is to blame for it. It's not like the weight and the body to recover, with this you are born and with this you die. 99% also sounds exaggerated to me. But most of all, that a short man cannot defend any. Maybe, maybe.
Up to # 13, Unfortunately, whether something can change or not does not affect in any way how much it is liked.
I am a man of 28 / Sofia. Ever since I released the topic, I've been wondering whether to write a comment or not, but looking at the other comments, I just can't. They focus en masse on your height. The fact is that you are short for a man, but even if you could change that will not help. I am 185 cm, I have a thick duck, my body is tight, but I have no relief. I only love branded clothes and I use branded cosmetics, I know how to behave, I'm funny, but I'm not slimy. I stick to it. Quite often I receive compliments for my appearance from both sexes. I also maintain quite high hygiene. All this is good, but difficult with the girls. I could barely find a girlfriend with months of searching and going on dates. When I was 18, I couldn't take a book and a car right away. At first I couldn't see why I was so unwanted. I took the car and the book, and as it was a desert, as if a waterfall had appeared. The car looked shinier, so they thought I had money. You have no idea how many suggestions were made to me to see each other or to teach them to drive, ride them, etc. Change 180 degrees in seconds. The magic depended on the condition of the car. But thanks to her, a lot of girls showed interest in me, with some I was for a short time, others for a longer time. However, I must say that all were of certain years - up to 23 at most. This is the key. Until the age of 21, if she is a girl, you can only drive by car, but then you start to build a house. I had about 50 colleagues at the university in my specialty. In the 4th year half pregnant already. Even those who had interrupted. Each had found some with a house, a car and a job (BGN 2,000. salary) and even before they graduated they began to give birth to them. What all their friends had in common was age - 30 years and older. They hid the age of their friends. They avoided the topic, did not upload photos with them, only 5-6 were not bothered by it. That's why it's normal not to have a girlfriend now. At the age of 25, you can't compete with some 10-year-olds. It is normal for this person to have more. BUT you compete with him for the same women. I forgot to say that en masse these people with whom my colleagues went out were low - up to 170. BUT they had more to offer than me. So height is not the problem. The problem is that at the moment you have nothing to offer them. It is clear without saying it. If you had a home (alone) and a car (personal) you would not write the topic, they would look for you themselves. Now it is true that you have not focused on any kisses or to have high expectations. But a woman gets so many offers a day without even looking for them that you have no idea. That's why they allow themselves to require us to have a home and a car. Literally everyone I know has found someone with a home and a car to give birth to. I don't even have any acquaintances who can rent with the chick or rent a house together. All of the men waited, searched for one, and found it. It took them different times, but the result was the same. If you're wondering what happens if you can't find a way to get a house and a car, you die alone. If you succeed at a much later age, you can take someone with a child who will give birth to you. But even she will not take you without housing, car and salary. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation. But a woman gets so many offers a day without even looking for them that you have no idea. That's why they allow themselves to require us to have a home and a car. Literally everyone I know has found someone with a home and a car to give birth to. I don't even have any acquaintances who can live with the chick or rent a house together. All of the men waited, searched for one, and found it. It took them different times, but the result was the same. If you're wondering what happens if you can't find a way to get a house and a car, you die alone. If you succeed at a much later age, you can take someone with a child who will give birth to you. But even she will not take you without housing, car and salary. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation. But a woman gets so many offers a day without even looking for them that you have no idea. That's why they allow themselves to require us to have a home and a car. Literally everyone I know has found someone with a home and a car to give birth to. I don't even have any acquaintances who can rent with the chick or rent a house together. All of the men waited, searched for one, and found it. It took them different times, but the result was the same. If you're wondering what happens if you can't find a way to get a house and a car, you die alone. If you succeed at a much later age, you can take someone with a child who will give birth to you. But even she will not take you without housing, car and salary. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation. That's why they allow themselves to require us to have a home and a car. Literally everyone I know has found someone with a home and a car to give birth to. I don't even have any acquaintances who can live with the chick or rent a house together. All of the men waited, searched for one, and found it. It took them different times, but the result was the same. If you're wondering what happens if you can't find a way to get a house and a car, you die alone. If you succeed at a much later age, you can take someone with a child who will give birth to you. But even she will not take you without housing, car and salary. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation. That's why they allow themselves to require us to have a home and a car. Literally everyone I know has found someone with a home and a car to give birth to. I don't even have any acquaintances who can live with the chick or rent a house together. All of the men waited, searched for one, and found it. It took them different times, but the result was the same. If you're wondering what happens if you can't find a way to get a house and a car, you die alone. If you succeed at a much later age, you can take someone with a child who will give birth to you. But even she will not take you without housing, car and salary. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation. I don't even have any acquaintances who can live with the chick or rent a house together. All of the men waited, searched for one, and found it. It took them different times, but the result was the same. If you're wondering what happens if you can't find a way to get a house and a car, you die alone. If you succeed at a much later age, you can take someone with a child who will give birth to you. But even she will not take you without housing, car and salary. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation. I don't even have any acquaintances who can rent with the chick or rent a house together. All of the men waited, searched for one, and found it. It took them different times, but the result was the same. If you're wondering what happens if you can't find a way to get a house and a car, you die alone. If you succeed at a much later age, you can take someone with a child who will give birth to you. But even she will not take you without housing, car and salary. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation. Such is the game. Like it or not - this is the situation.
To number 15 from the author. I have a car, but I recently picked up the book a few months ago. Well, as you expect, my car is not shiny, it's old, if you're wondering, it's a Volvo C40 2002 109 horsepower. The previous owner hadn't guarded the car at all, so it's not much for a photo on Instagram, but it's six points in terms of engine and chassis. In principle, there is a need to replace the front and rear bumper because of gaps and because of a large "wound" on the rear bumper, but otherwise it works. You are not right about housing either, at least in part. I am about to buy an apartment, if I am lucky it will be a new construction, if I don't have it it will be a panel or an old brick, because the agencies are currently brutally inflating the prices, by as much as BGN 10k from half a year ago. I pay in cash. But if I have to admit, this money fell to me due to bad circumstances, so it was not made. But at least I won't have a loan. Otherwise, I live alone in the home of ours for less than 5 years, the trick is that it is a studio apartment. And for a shiny car, I don't think it ever crossed my mind to buy a second-hand luxury car for about 50-60 thousand levs, although really good cars start from 100 upwards. BUT, then I would push it, and the new and bigger home is more important. I have a house and a car, and soon a bigger house. But that hasn't helped me so far. But we come to the most important thing at the moment, the salary. You study higher, but I did not study and I am limited in what I can do and therefore the money. In my city with or without higher labor you can take 2000 BGN, not to say impossible. But for now, I'm settled here. that it is a studio apartment. And for a shiny car, I don't think it ever crossed my mind to buy a second-hand luxury car for about 50-60 thousand levs, although really good cars start from 100 upwards. BUT, then I would push it, and the new and bigger home is more important. I have a house and a car, and soon a bigger house. But that hasn't helped me so far. But we come to the most important thing at the moment, the salary. You study higher, but I did not study and I am limited in what I can do and therefore the money. In my city with or without higher labor you can take 2000 BGN, not to say impossible. But for now, I'm settled here. that it is a studio apartment. And for a shiny car, I don't think it ever crossed my mind to buy a second-hand luxury car for about 50-60 thousand levs, although really good cars start from 100 upwards. BUT, then I would push it, and the new and bigger home is more important. I have a house and a car, and soon a bigger house. But that hasn't helped me so far. But we come to the most important thing at the moment, the salary. You study higher, but I did not study and I am limited in what I can do and therefore the money. In my city with or without higher labor you can take 2000 BGN, not to say impossible. But for now, I'm settled here. then I would push her, and a new and bigger home was more important. I have a house and a car, and soon a bigger house. But that hasn't helped me so far. But we come to the most important thing at the moment, the salary. You study higher, but I did not study and I am limited in what I can do and therefore the money. In my city with or without higher labor you can take 2000 BGN, not to say impossible. But for now, I'm settled here. then I would push her, and a new and bigger home was more important. I have a house and a car, and soon a bigger house. But that hasn't helped me so far. But we come to the most important thing at the moment, the salary. You study higher, but I did not study and I am limited in what I can do and therefore the money. In my city with or without higher labor you can take 2000 BGN, not to say impossible. But for now, I'm settled here.