Hello! I have a problem! I am Turkish. I have a boyfriend and I've never had sex before. It just doesn't grip me. When we push each other, we make love - he constantly tells me that I am very good and have experience. But the problem is not there! I've been dreaming of doing it for a long time, but I still can't handle it and it drives me crazy. I live only in a world of dreams. When we push ourselves, I imagine we are doing it and I get excited like hell. I can not take it anymore!!! And our biggest problem is that he is a goatherd! And as you know, the Turks do not like them very much. I'm not a racist! My mother does not approve of my relationship with him and that makes me very sad. Even when I tell her sometimes that my stomach hurts and I'm sick, she immediately thinks of the worst. I'm not sure I'm ready for the set, but on the other hand I want it very much. How can I overcome this fear What advice would you give me?
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Do it only if you want it, someone will give you advice on this difficult thing! It depends only on you and your partner!
Look ... drink a glass of whiskey before you relax. Never get drunk. Do not take the first time under such attention is nothing special. It's like getting on a plane for the first time or bungee jumping for the first time. ;)
Don't do it for the first time with a sledgehammer! Then you will regret it. I am a Christian, but I know the psychology of Shiites and Sunnis well. I know what the Turks think of the Kazalbashi. And if you marry him, at most in 1 year you will be a jerk, and your parents will not overcome it.
I don't think this "ethnic barrier" should play an important role in your relationship (even if it's sexual). If you both want it, why not do it ?! But I also think that it will be very difficult for your parents to accept the fact that you slept with a sledgehammer, and not that they will easily get used to the idea that their innocent girl has committed a "sin" :) USPEHHH !!!