Who hasn't been jealous at least once in their life? ... whether it's from a man, a woman, a friend or even a pet ... it's jealousy. For me, the case is that I'm jealous of a person I've never met / seen (not to mention Facebook). The girl in question is considered a good friend of my boyfriend. They are such good friends that she calls him in the middle of the night to talk about their relationships. To share my sex life with him in detail. At first I didn't pay attention until he started hiding from me. After each writing or speaking, he rubbed everything. I began to doubt everything he was doing. I sat down and talked to him, but he came up with the excuse "I won't dump my friends." Should I deduct from his friends? To me, she is a naive girl who wants to have a relationship with him. And he is so deluded, that he does not see how much these things harm our relationship. For him, this is right and would not change him. He went on vacation on February 12 last month. At 13 I asked him if you had any plans for tomorrow (I didn't mention it was 14 because I thought he knew) he told me no. He came in the evening and gave me a ring. The next day (February 14) he felt obviously upset and just called to apologize. Anyway, things got better in the evening, I went out with friends and he went with his. He didn't just mention to me that the girl in question would be with him. He did not mention the fact that they sat in the car for 3 hours and "talked". And then they talked on the phone for about an hour. My question is: Should I be jealous of her? The fact that I am deepening bothers me and does not bring me peace, but I do not want to be lied to again. I ask for advice because at the moment I feel like a bomb that will explode at any moment! Thanks for your time and for any comments left! (-;
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Your friend is the same as mine. For me, the story is almost identical with a few exceptions. Well, they don't hear that regularly, but the girl definitely doesn't have any sympathy for me, for the simple reason that she's jealous of him (yes, that's right, he's jealous of his own girlfriend). And I'm very curious what advice someone will give. I don't want to tell him who he's friends with and who he's not, and I would never do that. I just want him to be more careful and less naive. I wish the same to your friend. However, if I find out that he shares intimate details about our relationship with this snake, I will definitely cut off his head.
My advice is to understand (somehow) what they are talking about. This will give you clarity. If she knows about you (that he has a girlfriend) and he complains about you in one way or another in front of her - this would give you cause for concern. however, if they talk casually and he only gives her advice, it shouldn't be a problem. I have a girlfriend we have known for 6 years. She never took me sexually, and I never took her. But when we go out we talk for hours. However, my girlfriend became jealous of her and I stopped keeping in touch. We hear each other, but not as before. My advice is to get to know her. Ask to meet you. If he has no second thoughts he will introduce you. but do it carelessly, not on the pretext that you are jealous. Don't be hostile to her - at least not in the beginning. This way you will have a common theme with your friend and you will know what he is calling about. If he decides to tell you. good luck
I think your friend falls for her. She definitely turned his head, his attention and his interest. The more you sulk and shake, the more he will hide and look for her, and you will create an additional topic of conversation for them. My advice is to take a shower, take your self-confidence on hand and stop looking for it. Avoid him and even hint at separation. If she agrees and immediately runs out with her, you better not humiliate yourself with this one. Relationships like theirs are very strong and not friendly at all, they are no longer friendly. There is a difference between friends and theirs. No one neglects his wife for the sake of a friend, especially for the sake of a girlfriend. My relationship started like this and we have been inseparable for years and we are a family. There are no culprits. It just happens that you meet love at the most inopportune moment and there are hurt. It's a pity, that he is not honest with you, but it is different with men. You will see that he will easily let you go, and they will reunite with the new girl very soon. He's just not your man. You will find the right one in time. Take this as an experience and stay friends. It hurts a little, but it hardens the character.
It is foolish to be jealous for no reason and too late when there is one.
There's something wrong here, but you can't make him not keep in touch with her.
Friendship between a man and a woman does NOT exist !!! Understand it at last. It is not good to forbid or restrict him, but if something bothers you and he clings to you, he is obliged to ignore the "something" or "someone" in question. I don't see how you can stand a woman telling her boyfriend's sex life at all. What nonsense? !? Why don't you share it with a friend of yours? And how will he feel in your place, ask him this question. Remove this woman from your relationship, a relationship is being built between 2 people, there is no room for 3 people. If he objects - an ultimatum. If he chooses her, he doesn't deserve you. Be bold and naughty, enough with today's nonsense about "friends" and the like. The friendship between a man and a woman in 99% of cases grows into something else, which I will not name now.
I would be jealous. I'm a girl of 16 and my ex broke up for the simple reason that for the first 2-3 months he treated me like a princess, and then it was like we weren't together. He came to me enough to wash away the number that we were together. Every day he chased the corridors of the school with one girl, sharing absolutely everything with another. One day he told me he was kissing my best friend. I was devastated. I was forced to forgive him because I loved him infinitely. But one day, as I was standing on the terrace, I saw him passing by a girl, and he had told me that he was going to work with his father. I called him and told him that what I saw was more than enough for me and that I no longer wanted to be with him ... So we parted. My thought was that I was in a similar situation to yours, and he shared with others and went out with them.
If that's how you feel, then there's something. And as you describe things, I don't know how you are still so calm ??? I wouldn't leave things like that at all.
NUMBER 7, you're not well. I will tell you that FRIENDSHIP between a man and a woman exists, and you are a limited person. In this case, there may be something, but to make such cardinal conclusions is ridiculous! One woman
No, sweet girl. My advice is to take a shower, put on make-up, pretend and don't give up on her - everything. Let this shushumiga look after his work. Accept that this kukundrela does not exist. Take your friend back. If you want it. Let this goat seek its fortune elsewhere. We should not give in to such shushumigi. Show that you are above her, that you deserve more - not with words, but with actions and behavior. With gifts, respect, attitude. Don't give in to her. This manipulative animal is trying to play retail, you are above it, remember it because you did not steal it from anyone. This is not love, darling, theirs, this is not love, this is not friendship, this is a female manipulation. And don't let their friendship turn into sex, as 7. says. And from there they wonder if it's friendship with sex, what it is ... Everyone regrets later, but don't give them a chance. And as long as we justify the idiots and manipulators with these ... We shouldn't! Just as I've had many opportunities to get stuck somewhere and create problems, but I haven't, so this one has a choice. And if she had at least a little friendship with him, really, she would have beaten the jester herself on the first dump or attempt.
One of my best friends is a man I was intimate with years ago. He currently has a girlfriend, but we keep in touch. She is naturally jealous and has something to do with it ... and to this day we have almost done something wrong, and the toss-ups are daily. My advice is not to be jealous ... the more you push him, the more you push him towards her. The best option is to meet spontaneously and if you're really a dude to start going out together ... to enjoy the three of you. If the girl had back thoughts 100% will withdraw immediately.
As you describe him - he is a partner with her, and he is a roommate with you. So it's not about jealousy, it's about a natural end to this joke called a relationship. I mean your relationship, not theirs. He told you in plain text that he would not sacrifice her. So you.
I do not know under which number I am, but I add in connection with the fact that a quality self-sufficient woman would never stand in the way of others. I have many acquaintances and female friends, worthy women, some of them aged 28-29, who keep to themselves and do not look at a committed man. Until at the same time I notice the trend of 20-25 year olds, as well as about 33-35, who only think about it. They mix porridge, lie, smear, mess. They have no self-esteem, not you. It is obviously also a question of PIN, set, and harvest. Whatever their problem, they are less likely to push each other. Let their fierce defenders be silent. Today they are in his car, tomorrow they are positioned in yours.
"The best option is to meet spontaneously and if you're really a dude to start going out together the three of you ... enjoy the three of you. If the girl had back thoughts 100% will back off right away." I support 12 - no scandal quarrels. !! She will withdraw on her own if she has no hidden intentions. If he cares about you more than she does, you'll start dating. She knows about you that you are her boyfriend's boyfriend, but just don't be in a hurry to want to kiss him in front of her for the first time. Let it go 2-3 times until you show her that you are his boyfriend! Good luck girl thumbs up. Write what happened - it will be useful what helped.
THE AUTHOR: Thank you for the advice. I found something useful in each post. Since I'm not a brawler, I decided to clarify with him. He talked to me at length, explained to me how they had met, told me what kind of person he was. He began by feeling that I doubted him. He hadn't picked up her phone in weeks, but she kept texting him to call her. Talk to her in my presence ... and explain that he is overwhelmed with work and if he finds time, that time is set for me. He talked about her friend and he asked her if he knew about her actions (they were both former classmates). Eventually she met to tell him that "I" was not a woman to him .... he deserved more. He was very angry. Then put it in "incoming calls" (an option that immediately sends the call to voicemail). He said, that he had never expected such malice from her. I hope this girl understands her position and understands soon that her actions say something completely different. I can't say for sure if I trust him, but I can't complain about his candor. He was annoyed by the fact that before I asked him, I "got acquainted" with the facts myself. I hope we have closed this page, because there will be no second conversation on this topic. My experience (before that I have 2 long-term relationships, one 3 years and one 5 years) has taught me that if there is no trust in a relationship, then this relationship will not last long. I don't know if I'm in a position to give advice, but I would say to all lovers "in a relationship, try to be a little" loving "so that you don't suffer more in the end" Thank you ... (-; I hope this girl understands her position and understands soon that her actions say something completely different. I can't say for sure if I trust him, but I can't complain about his candor. He was annoyed by the fact that before I asked him, I "got acquainted" with the facts myself. I hope we have closed this page, because there will be no second conversation on this topic. My experience (before that I have 2 long-term relationships, one 3 years and one 5 years) has taught me that if there is no trust in a relationship, then this relationship will not last long. I don't know if I'm in a position to give advice, but I would say to all lovers "in a relationship, try to be a little" loving "so that you don't suffer more in the end"
Thank you ... (-; I hope this girl understands her position and understands soon that her actions say something completely different. I can't say for sure if I trust him, but I can't complain about his candor. He was annoyed by the fact that before I asked him, I "got acquainted" with the facts myself. I hope we have closed this page, because there will be no second conversation on this topic. My experience (before that I have 2 long-term relationships, one 3 years and one 5 years) has taught me that if there is no trust in a relationship, then this relationship will not last long. I don't know if I'm in a position to give advice, but I would say to all lovers "in a relationship, try to be a little" loving "so that you don't suffer more in the end" Thank you ... (-; but I can't complain about his candor. He was annoyed by the fact that before I asked him, I "got acquainted" with the facts myself. I hope we have closed this page, because there will be no second conversation on this topic. My experience (before that I have 2 long-term relationships, one 3 years and one 5 years) has taught me that if there is no trust in a relationship, then this relationship will not last long. I don't know if I'm in a position to give advice, but I would say to all lovers "in a relationship, try to be a little" loving "so that you don't suffer more in the end" Thank you ... (-; but I can't complain about his candor. He was annoyed by the fact that before I asked him, I "got acquainted" with the facts myself. I hope we have closed this page, because there will be no second conversation on this topic. My experience (before him I have 2 long-term relationships, one 3 years and one 5 years) has taught me that if there is no trust in a relationship, then this relationship will not last long. I don't know if I'm in a position to give advice, but I would say to all lovers "in a relationship, try to be a little" loving "so that you don't suffer more in the end" Thank you ... (-; My experience (before that I have 2 long-term relationships, one 3 years and one 5 years) has taught me that if there is no trust in a relationship, then this relationship will not last long. I don't know if I'm in a position to give advice, but I would say to all lovers "in a relationship, try to be a little" loving "so that you don't suffer more in the end" Thank you ... (-; My experience (before that I have 2 long-term relationships, one 3 years and one 5 years) has taught me that if there is no trust in a relationship, then this relationship will not last long. I don't know if I'm in a position to give advice, but I would say to all lovers "in a relationship, try to be a little" loving "so that you don't suffer more in the end" Thank you ... (-;