Hello, I have a friend who I love and he loves me. He is older than me and had 1 previous boyfriend and several other girls he slept with. I haven't slept with boys and he's my first. This is where the problem comes from. I'm jealous of his ex, whom I don't know, and he hasn't been in a relationship with her in years. I keep asking things like what kind of sex did you do, how did you do it and so on. I'm interested to hear his answer, but then I die of jealousy and I die. I constantly argue with him about sleeping with others and I tease him, but he is silent. I'm really going crazy. And the following comes to my mind: I can't be a virgin, and he has done more things than me in sex. Please give me some advice. I can't understand what's happening to me
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Um, find a balance, if he had 3 4 for sex, nothing prevents you from trying someone else. Then you will eat each other and be jealous :) Mero.
The poor boy ...
I am in the same way ... but I am strengthened by the thought that if I continue to be jealous of him so much from past things, he will withdraw from me and prefer another woman or will cheat on me in the worst case. I'm constantly jealous of him and I wonder .. what is he doing now, is he talking to someone or is he looking at women on the way to work .. and the hardest question is does anyone look the way they look at me .. these thoughts just kill me. Sometimes I think I'm crazy. I do not know I will wait and I answered on this topic.
Go get treated!
Immediately stop being interested in what he did, and go to a psychologist. This is a job for a specialist and not to be underestimated. And the boy will leave you at some point. You have no right to at least hold him accountable!
When will you realize that a man should not be jealous of him. What do you raise his shares, let him not be more than you. So you look pathetic in his eyes and will beat your ass soon. We are to blame, and I was jealous of him, and what did I achieve? Now he takes me for granted and thinks that everything is allowed to him. Don't make these mistakes, have self-confidence and make sure you're okay.
From the Author: I can't understand where these negative comments come from Haha, I'm interested to see other opinions.
From the Author Again out of curiosity I ask him various more intimate questions and I get quite detailed answers and from these answers various pictures emerge.
I know that pathological jealousy is actually caused by insecurity and lack of self-respect, mixed with fear of losing the other person. Just say to yourself "what if he cheats on me", in the end everyone has the right to be happy, if someone cheats on you, then he is hardly the right person for you, if you understand me. Learn to be happy with yourself, even without a partner, you are important, it doesn't matter if with Bai Ivan for example or without him, right? Work on your self-esteem, it should not be determined by who you are with. Consult a psychologist to help you, you are torturing yourself, not him. And if he gets bored at some point and leaves, you are left to live with yourself and you have to build yourself as a person, think about it.
He may be your first, but he will not be your last. And I'm a woman, I'm not going to pretend to be a saint and I've happened to be jealous of my husband - I'm married. But I have never, absolutely never been jealous of the women he was with before we got married. I don't even care. That was before he knew me. I don't know how jealous and perverted you have to be to be jealous of your partner's past. It may sound absolutely incredible, but a familiar girl with a very unenviable fame - it was said that she was a prostitute abroad, and here there were many "feats" to marry an educated, stable man. He said that whatever it was, it remained in the past. And you know, they live pretty well, and they have a child. She doesn't dig into her friend's past, the important thing is that she's with you now, although as you drove her I think she'll run away from you soon.
I was expecting more normal comments ... what is this "go get treated" or "poor boy" but have you heard about love by chance? Jealousy is the fear of losing the person next to you. It's just that in some cases it's too strong ... the person himself can make you jealous of him. And number 11. believe me, if the love is real, he won't even be able to think "what if he cheats on me". You're just writing nonsense ... you obviously haven't met the kindred person. To the author: I have also been fighting my jealousy for a very long time. I think try to boost your self-esteem and don't show him that you're jealous of him. If he likes to be jealous of him and deliberately provokes you, just try his tactics ... make him jealous of you (to see what he is). I apologize if at times I did not express myself correctly.
And why do you interrogate him and dig into his past, when he has nothing to do with you? And then she died :-) And why are you causing it, didn't you ask yourself? This is a pure inferiority complex, you can't accept that you can be worse than the previous one and you are constantly digging for details. Leave the boy alone and fight his own insecurities. She's your problem, not that he was 3-4. Then find a virgin friend and everything will be 6.
Lol: D if he's with you right now does it matter what he had before with the other girls -. - and he is a normal person, he didn't do anything abnormal to react like that, God, the poor person ...
Another suffering from a frantic desire for control.
From the Author I forgot to mention that I am 15 and he is 27
M-57 Out of pure curiosity: In the state where I live, the legal age for "consent" for sexual intercourse is 16 years. Under this age it is considered a "Statutory Rape" (legal rape) and is punishable by 10-20 years in prison. Is there a legal age in Bulgaria and what is it?
I understand you somewhat. You've been inexperienced and you're worried about that. However, he has a basis for comparison with others, and you do not. You get into movies precisely because you have no experience and you wonder if it was better with another. But knowing it or not will not help you. It just puts pictures in your head that may not even be true. Men often lie about their sexual experience and how good one is or not. He may exaggerate so as not to hurt you, or to make himself more desirable. But still don't believe him. It's nice to ask if he wants to try this or that. But just relax and enjoy. Watch his reactions in bed, and in time you will learn. But you're not for a psychiatrist or pills. You're just worried because you're inexperienced.
That explains a lot
People, the girl is not crazy, she is just a teenager and her hormones are raging. The more important question is why she actually has a relationship with such a big man.
From the Author I absolutely feel like number 19
From 13 to the author: Seriously .. when I left with my friend I was also 15 and he was 27 .. now I am 19 and he is 31. Before the difference we were no longer worried .. so calmly everything will lined up over time .. In the beginning I was much more jealous than now. And one more thing, don't let him lie to you and underestimate you :)
I am also very jealous. I keep thinking that my friend writes to others that he will leave me for another ..... the truth is that if I hold on like this he will really leave me. If he likes a picture of a girl I think he likes it. I even notice that he is already cooler to me than before, and we have been together for 1 year. If any of you want to share something, we can email something
From the Author He does not lie quite conscientious, except for these answers to my questions
Up to 24 - Don't worry, I've been through these things for a long time ... you just give your passwords and remove all the likes and you're done haha. Another 1 year and he won't even enter his face anymore, at least that's what happened to me.
Look now, if the person next to you gave you a reason for jealousy, I would understand you, but he does not give you. Therefore, you need to think a lot about why your jealousy arises in your head. Uncertainty in your childhood, insecure style of attachment, who knows. It probably comes from your childhood, some emotional trauma you don't realize. Your insecurity and feelings of inferiority are a symptom, not a cause. But if you keep it up, you'll screw up your relationship. It is best if you can find a good psychologist.
M45 My wife and I are over 17 years old. She's terribly cool, but also terribly jealous, and lately I've been wanting to pack up and leave. It has all my passwords, monitors my face and messenger, looks at what I liked or commented on. If a colleague likes a photo secretly and removes the follow-up from my profile and a bunch of accusations against me follow !!! And, if I like a photo of an acquaintance, it is multiplied by 2 :) She thinks that I dress and keep well, because of another / them. I've stopped using Facebook and other nonsense, and she thinks I don't know how to dig through my settings and discredit me. I also stated in plain text that this is emotional terror and I almost don't care if I cheat on her.