Hello everyone! A girl just over 20 is writing to you. All my life I've been limited in appearance. It's not that I have something that I don't look good on, but from clothes, cosmetics, make-up and manicures - things that girls can't do without today. I will start from the beginning to understand everything. When I was little, I wore a lot of my brother's clothes - it's about kindergarten. And from then on, the harassment of me began. You are very ugly, you wear men's clothes, your hair is like a boy's, and I am a child of 4 to 5. I had both psychological and physical harassment - they pulled my hair, bit my hands, slapped me when there were lice in the group, my name was always mentioned as a contagion. Now that I think about it, they are childish normal things, but my psyche didn't perceive them that way. I couldn't wait for kindergarten to end. Shortly before I started 1st grade, my mother lost her job. And only my father worked and fed us - me, my brother and my mother. All the children from my street bragged about new clothes for 1st grade, only I hadn't bought anything yet. My backpack arrived a few days before the start of the school year because it was a gift from my cousin. She knew what situation we were in, so she sent it to me, along with two or three notebooks. My birthday falls days before the start and ours wanted to take my clothes for the first day. We went to two or three stores and I was supposed to like something. They couldn't afford what I wanted and they took a green suit from me, which wasn't good at all, but I'm small, what could I do I rummaged before putting it on and left. In addition to my older cousin, I have another one who is one year older. Theirs are wealthy and they used to throw something once or twice, but they had offered me some of her clothes so that I would have something to wear, because the clothes I wore to kindergarten were very childish, and part of them from my brother. But in order not to be underestimated, they gave me her clothes, which were very funny. Both hop and class started with insults. Exactly in 2nd grade, two of my classmates started systematically bullying me. One of them was in my group in dg and he knew that I was harassed there a lot and he had told this one and it all started. From 2nd to 5th grade inclusive in this class I was systematically harassed - insults, swearing, beatings, we made to drink the dirty water from the paint brush. They carried knives threatening me with death, showed me fists every hour that they would beat me, tried to strangle me with weights, and so on. I decided to move to another class. I went where I knew some of the girls, but it started there from day one. Get out of here, go to your class, we don't want ugly people like you here. The next day in the break they called me if they were in your class, we are even worse here. They pulled my ears because they protruded and when I tied my tail they protruded very badly and I looked like a monkey. And they started making fun of me for them, pulling them for me. To be strangled with my hands, fighting with backpacks, one of the boys with a basketball was constantly hitting my head until it started to hurt. I was being treated for the pain. And the teachers in both the previous class and this one didn't believe me, but thought I was mentally ill. And the classmate always thought I was imagining and laughed. The other girls were already wearing make-up, I couldn't dream about it, because neither did ours, nor did I have the opportunity to buy various make-up or dresses and nice jeans. I had one anzung and two trousers from the wide ones, because the fashion of tight dark trousers had started to enter. They dressed fashionably, did their hair, and I didn't even have a press to do my hair. After 8th grade I went to high school and there, unfortunately, hell continued, because with some of them I fell into one class again. But I was no longer physically harassed, only insulted that I was Quasimodo, a menace, no one like me. I was not allowed to put on make-up, or to shave, or to put on a bra. And I was constantly ridiculed for underarm hair during the warmer months, so I was ashamed to wear short sleeves and wore long-sleeved blouses. In 9th grade, I started getting a scholarship and I decided to start setting aside to buy some clothes because I had almost no new ones, and only what my mother took from some second-hand or from my old ones I wore. The boys insulted me for not wearing a bra, and when I cried in 11th grade, my mother finally decided to buy me one. And with each scholarship I took something I needed - clothes, shoes, underwear. For the first time I was made up at the ball and I didn't like myself at all because somehow they didn't make me. I didn't like the dress either, but I had no choice, our people paid, they chose. And it was all hellishly nasty. During my university years, I bought some other clothes from scholarships, but they are not the modern ones that the girls wear. I have no opportunity for the press, nor do I have the right to get eyebrows or go to a beautician to make me up. From this failure I never learned to put on make-up. I look at the others, even small ones, some beautiful, beautiful, I usually go to lectures - without make-up, without hairstyles, etc. And of course the men don't look at me or anything. I have never had a boyfriend, firstly because they threaten me that if I find myself not coming home to us anymore, and the other thing, which is just a piece of sex these days. I fell in love last year for 1 time and I thought he was the same for me. But over time, I realized that he just felt sorry for me, he spoke to me with irony, perhaps to give me confidence, but he didn't like me or anything. I'm ashamed to send my photos or upload them anywhere, because I'm not pretty, I don't put on make-up and I always go out scary. Now they both work for us, but when they teach me something else, I can't think of anything else. My colleagues and I have been blabbering on about why you're not talking, but I'm saying I'm not that kind of girl, just so I don't regret it, because I'm tired of it. I wrote this to you, not to feel sorry for me, but to get advice.
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Girl, you have a misconception about what is beautiful. Straightened hair looks awful, like being licked by a cow. What you watch on TV and chalgarki - heavy makeup, beauticians and I do not know what you are also not aesthetically as wonderful as you suggested. In order for a woman to be pleasant, whether she is naturally beautiful or not, some basic things are needed - good hygiene in particular, clean hair, weak or normal body. Everything unnecessary is not pleasant. The face smeared with make-up and ointments is not an example of a pleasant appearance. You need to bathe regularly, clean, with clean skin and clean soft hair. Bathing in summer twice a day, in winter you can only once in the morning before going out. That is, you do not need anything from shower gel and soap. Needless to say, if you're full you have to go on a strict diet, which means no jam and pasta or fried. Weak ones are not attractive, so be willing if you have problems with a lot of weight. But you don't have to be a stick like a drug addict. Once you have ensured the cleanliness of your body and shaped your eyebrows, you need to buy an epilator and epilate regularly. No hair under the arms and on the legs or arms. And you should also use deodorant or roll. And a light perfume. That's it. Regarding make-up, you don't need anything other than a light lip gloss and maybe a little light shadows and powder so that your skin doesn't look oily. You don't need anything else. Clean hair is clean when. If you have protruding ears, consult a cosmetic surgeon or just accept yourself as you are. This is not a drama. I hope you have a mind and achieve good intellectual development,
Hey, this kid, where his mother won't let him get hair and make-up, didn't stop! Excessive, how many more topics will you write, are you annoying? !!
Well, it's good, I've never done make-up or a make-up, but I've still had connections. Your problem is low self-esteem, not clothing. Shake off your bad childhood and everything will be fine. There are many things that make a woman attractive, not just the rags and the matting.
Sorry for the question by no means I want to sound rude, but why don't you find a job? According to you, I understand that you are a big, mature girl, and only your parents work
Hi, I've also had a lot of childhood traumas and I know what you're talking about. Be grateful to your parents, but many times they did not do well, I'm not talking about the financial situation. My advice is, when you have the opportunity to work, even if you stay with them, help with the budget, but don't let them take your money. If you move out, you will pay a lot for accommodation. With the help of money, buy better clothes, not branded, start playing sports, running in the park, abdominal presses and gymnastics (you almost don't need money) - for good health, self-confidence and appearance, start pampering yourself with cinema, theater etc. If you decide, when you graduate, go to work in another city or abroad. With a normal amount of money, you will feel better. Separately, even if you are ugly, every woman has something nice and sexy, I'm sure there will be someone who wants to be with you! Take me as an example, almost like you were. I won't lie to you, I'm not 100% ok, but now I have a normal income and I can afford sports, shopping, paid love, I also had a 10-year relationship and a child. Fight for! M33
Well, darling, you've been a student for over 20 years, find a job. Oppose yours, yet you are old enough. What advice do you expect us to open a donation account in your name? I'm sorry that I'm so rude, but I'm also a student, I study and live in Sofia, I work and I support myself completely on my own, it's not impossible as long as you want. Good luck though :)
Number 2: I'm not the kid I wrote that topic. I'm a woman over 20. To number 1: I'm not fat, I'm thin and short. I'm aware of hygiene, but men definitely like make-up girls. No matter how much the natural is repeated, they continue to like them.
Dear girl, I am a woman of 32 years. I don't wear make-up, I don't do my hair, I'm not influenced by fashion. But am I always clean? My hair is well combed and smells good, my face is fresh and I am smiling. I've always had a lot of men around me. It's all about radiance and self-respect. As for your childhood - your parents are idiots! I can't imagine that someone will harass my child and I won't interfere! It's absurd! Get away from them, they are to blame for your low self-esteem and your troubles! I can't understand why they didn't take your bra! They are unclean people to me!
Hello! I do not know why I get involved in this topic, but I decided to write to you. I am a man of 25 and I, like you, as a child received what our people decided to buy me. Well, of course, I've always had a choice, but in the end the bill he pays sets the rules to a great extent. I was also ridiculed for some things, but I vowed to change and I did. I don't have a girlfriend, but I've really changed a lot visually and the women look at me a lot, not to mention take me down. What kind of women do I like? I like naturally naturally beautiful and modest girls. I have acquaintances who put on so much makeup that I even hate to look at them up close, it's just obvious how much makeup they put on just to look beautiful. Your problem, as they said, is low self-esteem. You're a big woman now. You can't listen to your parents. It is imperative that you do not listen to them. Just from one moment on, if you do not oppose yours, the situation becomes very difficult. My mother and I fought for years until she realized that I was already independent and couldn't tell me what to do. So it's all in your hands. Find a job, stop taking money from yours and spend it on what you want. Making your own money gives you a great incentive. There is no way men can look at you if you don't like yourself. I personally do not like desperate people without visible problems. And the only problem with you is the lack of self-confidence. I'm sorry to say this, but no matter how ugly or ugly you feel, there is always something to change for the better. Make every effort. Forget your childhood and see what you can do about it now. Just from one moment on you do not oppose your situation becomes very difficult. My mother and I fought for years until she realized that I was already independent and couldn't tell me what to do. So it's all in your hands. Find a job, stop taking money from yours and spend it on what you want. Making your own money gives you a great incentive. There is no way men can look at you if you don't like yourself. I personally do not like desperate people without visible problems. And the only problem with you is the lack of self-confidence. I'm sorry to say this, but no matter how ugly or ugly you feel, there is always something to change for the better. Make every effort. Forget your childhood and see what you can do about it now. Just from one moment on you do not oppose your situation becomes very difficult. My mother and I fought for years until she realized that I was already independent and couldn't tell me what to do. So it's all in your hands. Find a job, stop taking money from yours and spend it on what you want. Making your own money gives you a great incentive. There is no way men can look at you if you don't like yourself. I personally do not like desperate people without visible problems. And the only problem with you is the lack of self-confidence. I'm sorry to say this, but no matter how ugly or ugly you feel, there is always something to change for the better. Make every effort. Forget your childhood and see what you can do about it now.
I feel for you! Change the environment, as you describe them, these people around you are not good! My advice is to start playing sports regularly (even if it's one run in the stadium) and not to pay so much attention to your appearance, but to your development as a person. Start doing or learning something that gives you satisfaction, whether reading, writing, playing an instrument. Don't let any complexes crush you, you are more than one package! Success!
Author, I'm telling you as a man - makeup is not important, not at all. I personally don't like make-up and stuffy girls. I like just ordinary women who dress quite normally with jeans and a T-shirt or some kind of dress. Don't worry, obviously your environment is like that. I also met a few normal people at university, but that doesn't mean there aren't any.
from number 2 Forgive me, dear, but your level of literacy, level of personal development and maturity of thinking, correspond exactly to the stereotype of a 12, 13-year-old girl. Even if you're not the same girl, even worse for you, I'm sorry.
You find a job and move out. Tolkoz. Otherwise, yours will continue to define your life and control you, and you will continue to experience yourself as a victim. Otherwise, number 1 is right for makeup in my opinion (I'm a 30-year-old man): Too much makeup is just ugly. It is best with a little makeup - light eye shadows and lipstick for example. Of course the face is clean and washed. If you have any hairs between the eyebrows or like a mustache, for example - remove them. You must shave under the arms too. The hair is washed and maintained with some normal shampoo and adequate hairstyle.
Hi, I'm so sorry about what you went through. People and especially children can be very nasty, downright little monsters. Things can be completely different, you just have to believe in yourself and start imitating what you want to become. "Fake it till you make it" so to speak.
Start an hourly job and buy for yourself. There are clothes at a decent price, as well as makeup. Watch online tutorials on how to make up (in the beginning make lighter and everyday makeup until you get used to it).
From the author: I work, but I take the minimum because it is difficult in a small town. The money goes to the doctors' pockets, I have been going to the doctors for three months and there is no effect. So far I have taken a single salary, and when I put BGN 150 in handles, there is nothing left for me. But health is most important. As for makeup, I can't even apply shadows. I'm not used to makeup at all. I don't wear dresses, skirts too, I have a complex of that because I don't like myself in general. I can't leave and I want to, because my program is until the end of the year and if I leave I will return the money. So it's all fucking up.
First, how come you have no right, how old are you, 20, over 20! Look, this is different with the prices in the salons. There are also good salons that do not take super expensive, but you will have to inquire. And you can do without a salon. Except for the haircut, don't take any chances! Second, what does a hairstyle mean? My course is 80 people and 2 or 3 of them are girls who have some shallow hair in their straight hair every day, etc., but they do it themselves in most cases. Wash your hair, comb it. If you want to straighten it in Bazar and OLH, there are presses for 10 leva each, used, but ... they are presses, and with a press you can both straighten and curl. And clothes don't have to be super expensive to be fashionable. The Internet is full of everything. There are so many blogs and sites with videos and tips, if you haven't built your own style yet, use them. So when you go out, whether in a regular store or second hand, you will know what to look for and what to avoid. But look at the more normal people, not the silicone playmates, who pour money only in make-up and rags, because they have nothing else to impress with. And hair removal is important! Armpits, legs and that area, a must! A razor is not expensive! Of course, they will make fun of you if you give off bad odors and the hair intensifies them. Cosmetics are now a little more complicated. There are shops where they are at low prices, unless you look around and find something or Bazaar and FDA. They do not have to be branded, there are the cheap ones that are not much inferior to the expensive ones. And how to make up video blogs and tutorials there are an awful lot, as well as ideas for hairstyles. Get some tweezers too. First, carefully research the issue of eyebrows in blogs, choose your shape and act! Before you start with make-up, it is important to do it, because shaped eyebrows change the look. Good luck!