Hello everyone, I want to share my story and get advice. My friend and I have been together for 6 years with sections through them, and we have been living together for a year and a half, but with his parents. The problem is that he recently started writing quite often on the net with a girl I also know. Sitting in front of the computer was more than normal even while he was at work and this made me doubt until I finally realized that there was more than just sharing between them, it made no sense to have intimate contact just one coffee, but I found an e-mail in which he writes that he is in love with her. My reaction was normal, I immediately said that this was the end for us and to continue my life with her, but he did not let me go and said that he did not want us to separate, but to fix the relationship between us, which lately really was not very pink. So I wanted to end all contact with her, and he did not stop writing to her to explain that he wanted them to be just friends, and I think it is impossible to be friends with someone with whom you wanted to have another relationship. Later I found out, not from him, that he asked her for time to leave me, that he couldn't so easily after so much time, and according to her he didn't love me anymore and was with me only out of fear !!!! For now, he doesn't seem to be looking for her anymore, he doesn't want friendship, but the doubt will always be there. And my question is, why after he told her these things he stayed with me and why after he claims that he loves me and wants to be with me wants to have a friendly relationship with her since she knows I don't like it Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be. and he didn't stop writing to explain that he only wanted them to be friends, and I think it's impossible to be friends with someone you wanted to have another relationship with. Later I found out, not from him, that he asked her for time to leave me, that he couldn't so easily after so much time, and according to her he didn't love me anymore and was with me only out of fear !!!! For now, he doesn't seem to be looking for her anymore, he doesn't want friendship, but the doubt will always be there. And my question is, why after he told her these things he stayed with me and why after he claims that he loves me and wants to be with me wants to have a friendly relationship with her after knowing that I don't like it? Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be. and he didn't stop writing to explain that he only wanted them to be friends, and I think it's impossible to be friends with someone you wanted to have another relationship with. Later I found out, not from him, that he asked her for time to leave me, that he couldn't so easily after so much time, and according to her he didn't love me anymore and was with me only out of fear !!!! For now, he doesn't seem to be looking for her anymore, he doesn't want friendship, but the doubt will always be there. And my question is, why after he told her these things he stayed with me and why after he claims that he loves me and wants to be with me wants to have a friendly relationship with her since she knows I don't like it? Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be. that it is impossible to be friends with a person with whom you wanted to have another relationship. Later I found out, not from him, that he asked her for time to leave me, that he couldn't so easily after so much time, and according to her he didn't love me anymore and was with me only out of fear !!!! For now, he doesn't seem to be looking for her anymore, he doesn't want friendship, but the doubt will always be there. And my question is, why after he told her these things he stayed with me and why after he claims that he loves me and wants to be with me wants to have a friendly relationship with her since she knows I don't like it? Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be. that it is impossible to be friends with a person with whom you wanted to have another relationship. Later I found out, not from him, that he asked her for time to leave me, that he couldn't so easily after so much time, and according to her he didn't love me anymore and was with me only out of fear !!!! For now he doesn't look for her anymore, he doesn't want friendship, but the doubt will always be there. And my question is, why after he told her these things he stayed with me and why after he claims that he loves me and wants to be with me wants to have a friendly relationship with her since she knows I don't like it? Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be. that he couldn't so easily after so much time, and according to her he no longer loved me and was with me only out of fear !!!! For now, he doesn't seem to be looking for her anymore, he doesn't want friendship, but the doubt will always be there. And my question is, why after he told her these things he stayed with me and why after he claims that he loves me and wants to be with me wants to have a friendly relationship with her since she knows I don't like it? Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be. that he couldn't so easily after so much time, and according to her he no longer loved me and was with me only out of fear !!!! For now, he doesn't seem to be looking for her anymore, he doesn't want friendship, but the doubt will always be there. And my question is, why after he told her these things he stayed with me and why after he claims that he loves me and wants to be with me wants to have a friendly relationship with her since she knows I don't like it? Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be. that she loves me and wants to be with me, wants to have a friendly relationship with her, knowing that I don't like it? Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be. that she loves me and wants to be with me, wants to have a friendly relationship with her, knowing that I don't like it? Does it make sense to continue or not. Please advice if anyone has experienced it what would you share? Thank you for taking the time to talk about my story, however confusing it may be.
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Hello! I myself was in the place of the girl in question and I tell you from experience that you are either tired of him or your relationship is bad enough to "share" with her and write more time on the net, believe me it will grow into something more after time if you don't take action. Good luck
Hello, I have experienced much more difficult moments than these and for years ... in 4 years my husband changed 3 girlfriends, the latter even got pregnant by him thinking that the two will start a family ... but alas, this did not happen --- I had even filed for divorce, but he did not agree-and by the way we have two wonderful children .. so I cried all night because he came home only in the morning ,, I tore my nerves and everything affected my health --I got to a psychologist who helped me a lot - I will tell you in two words do not bother, inspire yourself, pretend not to care in the sense that you do not care, no matter how hard it is do not show it --- go out with friends for coffee, to a hairdresser, tell him jokes, jokes and you will see how he himself will change his attitude towards you --- I wish you success and know that it works
my advice is to dump it ... let him make fun of someone other than you !!!
Hi, I was and I still seem to be in a similar situation. And my friend is attracted to various "girls" on the net, some I know, others do not, but in the end it is clear to you that this situation is hellishly depressing. I tried to leave him too, but he convinced me to stay anyway. I can't say that things have changed much. The stupid thing is that once you lose confidence and you can't trust him anymore and say the truth, and to lie to you seems the same. Things can no longer be patched. If you have the strength and do not see a future in this regard, stop it. I'm trying to do the same. I am keeping my fingers crossed and hopefully we will be able to find people who truly appreciate us!
Hello dear, go on with your life, you will meet another who will truly love you and you will be the only one for him, I wish you success
My advice is to reconsider your behavior and why is it that he prefers to chat with another ???? This is usually when you start living together. There is a twisting that you are tied in a towel. I think leave him alone and watch him. It's obvious if he wants to be with you, isn't it!
Hello everyone, I want to thank you for your opinions and advice. They don't seem to write to each other anymore, but trust is gone and that's the worst thing, as well as the fact that it's hard to say end to a long relationship. No matter how much I reconsider my behavior, the problem is his, and it's not just me who's to blame. As for boredom, it can be normal after so long, but I want to tell all the girls on the other side to think before they do it, because you don't know when they will be in this situation and whether it will be nice !!!!!!!
It's going to sound rude, and I know that's exactly what you wouldn't want to hear. But ... leave it until it gets worse. I had a relationship with a boy for 5 years. We parted, we got together. Remember that patched links do not exist. Once you lose trust, it doesn't make sense. Apparently he no longer has love. Either you're tired of him, or your relationship is just completely exhausted. You will ruin your life with him. You better put an end to it until you are too engrossed in your own feelings. And what is this acquaintance? Now he writes with her, tomorrow with another. He stayed with you simply because you are sure, you love him, he does whatever he wants while he is with you, because you are weak to resist. There are so many good guys waiting for a girl like you. I wish you success, but don't wait!
Momiqeta, we live in this world and there is no way to change it. There are families, there are extramarital affairs, there are girls on the net ... But there are children who want to live well. And to start all over again is just stupid. It is also unknown whether the next one will not repeat things. In my opinion, we have to fight for our favorite men with women's means. Every woman knows what they are. These are women's numbers, as men say. And they are inexhaustible. Men don't know them. After all, we give birth to these men, we teach them everything that then accumulates in our heads. WHEN OUR BOYS BECOME DISOBEDIENT, WE SHOULD NOT CHANGE THEM "BUT BACK THEM" WHERE WE SHOULD. No one loves out of obligation.
He is of the sort: I want mine, but I also want someone else's: Yes, but no .... It doesn't happen, he won't stop, if not with her, it will be different. Even if he stops temporarily, then again will start again. And his cold attitude towards you is not good. And if a glass breaks once and you stick it all the same, it's not the same.
This is a hobby of your friend! You're just tired of him already, and in the chat everything is new and exciting. If you ask me, ask yourself if you still love him and if it's worth living your life with him. Success!
I guess after a while people get bored and want something new and different, but my question is because of the passion of one of the two, should we always say no to the end. However, anyone can experience temporary insanity. It is clear to everyone that love is not the same as in the beginning, but is this a reason to end a relationship ????
A relationship is not just passion, love, fluids, sex, ... At some point it turns into love, affection, trust ... and a bunch of other things worth fighting for. You know best how you feel about your boy and whether it is worth fighting for your common happiness at the cost of everything. But I don't think you should end this relationship just like that, lightly, because some people have told you that you don't deserve such treatment. None of us know how you feel about each other, you know him and you know if you can trust him. I see things with him this way, ... I don't know how your sexual relationship is, but considering that you live wall to wall with his parents :( ... So my thought is that it is very likely that he does these things for her. he talked, just to fuck her. Maybe he needs more sexual attention;
By number 13, I love him, even though I no longer trust him as much as is normal in these circumstances. As for sexual relations, I'm more of the one who takes the initiative, strangely enough he tells me that he doesn't have sex so often, so I guess that's not the problem, besides, as far as I know he's not a man who would get involved with someone just for sex, but you can never know, so I think the problem is different.
Very bad, darling. I don't want to disappoint you, but I see the separation on the horizon. I hope I'm wrong.