I don't know where to start, there is complete chaos in my head, as well as in my life. I'm even afraid that someone will recognize me in this story. I wondered for a long time whether to sit down and share my torments, here the day came. I have been engaged for 10 years, we met when I was entering puberty. While I was still at school, I was happy to see a prince on a white horse, I was proud to be able to keep a person by my side for so long, things were perfect. He wanted to be non-stop with me, and I love him so much and I was very happy. Every free minute was set aside for him, so it is to this day ... but I'm not happy anymore. Over the years, it slowly began to change, and in a way that I did not notice. I don't know if I was blind, but looking back, I see the red flags. In short, I don't know how this connection still exists, if it can be called a connection at all. First, he separated me from my friends very lightly, then he began to complain about some stupid things, e.g. : makeup, clothes, jewelry, etc., and suddenly, a few years later, I realized I shouldn't be here. You will say "well, go away", I did it many times, and every time it was a circus, threats, quarrels, he threatened to kill me if I dared to leave him again. He didn't hit me, but the mental harassment is very severe. It hangs on my head, it knows all my passwords without me even giving consent, and so on. Complaints and police did not help because "there was no evidence." I'm scared. The problem: I don't know why, am I crazy, am I masochistic, but I still love him and I'm still in love with him and I can't stand it. I had so many different ideas about our future. I'm so emotionally hurt that I'm starting to think that no one will like me, or I will not like anyone. But every day I dream of a peaceful and good life, to have a child, to have a family, to build a home, to have a career. I have saved you many things, but for my part, I have always tried to be perfect, not to cause unnecessary scandals and problems. I wanted to share because there is no one. To complain, death is called. Thank you! :)
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Find a way to study abroad or work there. He should not know where. What you are describing is a toxic relationship and you have to save yourself, start over. Of course, there is someone who will like you. Alpha, w. 30 years
You have a serious problem, but you have to face it with relatives and friends around you! Go away, block it, try to move now by taxi or with friends and relatives. Don't be left alone anywhere! The good thing is that you don't have children. Just be persistent, you can get away, believe you can! Nothing good is waiting for you with this person!
When you get rid of it, you will wonder why you didn't do it earlier ... I hope you realize it quickly. Success!
If in these 10 years you have not created a home and a child and you have not set foot on your feet, I do not know what else you are doing in this regard. Leave it in one place, but you've wasted about 12-15% of your life? !! It's great to be a good person, but it shouldn't be at the expense of your life and happiness.
You can die with him as long as you love him and stay. Lack of action is also an action in itself. You stay, you wait for a miracle, you do not move from your position in practice and so things do not change either. You do the same thing, the result will always be the same. If you don't leave him, you will be together. If you do not give yourself a chance to live without this love now, it will become more difficult over time, because you will have even more memories behind you. Tighten up, girl! Your life does not end with a broken heart. Yours is practically like a raisin, a crushed one, harassed, barely beaten, but you are afraid that you might accidentally break it, abandoning the young man who is mentally harassing you. And how far are you able to get with it? Will you marry him, will you give birth to a child for him? Do you want your daughter to have a man as an example, who misbehaves with his wife? Do you want your son to imitate such a father? I will explain it this way: it is better to hurt yourself once by leaving him than to hurt you every day because you have chosen to stay. What do you think he will do? If he attacks you, you will get a medical and restraining order, you can put him in jail if it gets worse. Will he kill you? He won't do it, he didn't even touch you, he just manipulated you. And if you're scared, carry a hot spray in your pocket. You are human, you have rights, take advantage of them. There is no such love that is worth destroying yourself. He is not the only one, he is just the first in everything. There are others, you will fall in love again and you will feel better. because you chose to stay. What do you think he will do? If he attacks you, you will get a medical and restraining order, you can put him in jail if it gets worse. Will he kill you? He won't do it, he didn't even touch you, he just manipulated you. And if you're scared, carry a hot spray in your pocket. You are human, you have rights, take advantage of them. There is no such love that is worth destroying yourself. He is not the only one, he is just the first in everything. There are others, you will fall in love again and you will feel better. because you chose to stay. What do you think he will do? If he attacks you, you will get a medical and restraining order, you can put him in jail if it gets worse. Will he kill you? He won't do it, he didn't even touch you, he just manipulated you. And if you're scared, carry a hot spray in your pocket. You are human, you have rights, take advantage of them. There is no such love that is worth destroying yourself. He is not the only one, he is just the first in everything. There are others, you will fall in love again and you will feel better. There is no such love that is worth destroying yourself. He is not the only one, he is just the first in everything. There are others, you will fall in love again and you will feel better. There is no such love that is worth destroying yourself. He is not the only one, he is just the first in everything. There are others, you will fall in love again and you will feel better.
Hello Girl! I think the main problem is in yourself. You have chosen the wrong partner and the worst thing is that you continue to be with him and live unhappy and in fear. I recommend Robin Norwood's "Women Who Love Too Much". Find answers for yourself, probably hiding in your childhood. I wish you courage and success!