Hello. You will probably read one of the banal stories that often appear here or on similar sites. Let me first say that I am 34 years old and he is 38 years old. We met on dating sites. He is from another city. Nothing new, right Even before we met, he insisted a lot on this meeting. Well, we saw each other, he came to my city, which is 200 km from his, we had a great time and even in the end there was an unexpected outcome for me-sex. But let's say it's human, we couldn't stand it. The emotion between us was very strong and so we did. Then we continued to talk, even text each day, in the morning, sometimes in the evening for good night. Time passed and we saw each other again. We both went somewhere outside our cities, and this time most of the expenses were at his expense, which made me feel uncomfortable and even offered to take half, because I know he doesn't have great opportunities either. We agreed. So then after about 20 days we saw each other again, during which time we wrote again on the site and text messages, sometimes we heard each other on the phone. We met for the 3rd time. Then he told me he was afraid I didn't want him. I told him it wasn't, but sometimes I was reserved. After this meeting, he stopped entering the site where we had met, but we continued to hear each other and text each other, but he started to skip. Gone are the days when we didn't hear each other, I had no word or bone. And when I asked him what was going on, he was giving me a drama every time. But still he kept writing to me, telling me how much he missed me and wanted me, how he thought of me, and so on. It's probably an exaggeration, but to lie completely ... I can't believe it. Why does he care at all, if he doesn't sleep? The last time I offered to see him for the first time, but he refused, on the pretext that he was out of town on his birthday and couldn't help but go. Although he wrote me such a love text the day before that ... when he told me, I showed understanding, but it seems that my irritation was felt. He immediately sent me how much he missed me and how he dreamed of us being together forever, etc. If anyone has an idea why this happens and why it behaves like this ... am I too naive or ... at times it seems to me that he looks at me a little more seriously, as a possible more serious attitude in the future, and at times it seems to me that it is just sex. but my irritation seemed to be felt. He immediately sent me how much he missed me and how he dreamed of us being together forever, etc. If anyone has an idea why this happens and why it behaves like this ... am I too naive or ... at times it seems to me that he looks at me a little more seriously, as a possible more serious attitude in the future, and at times it seems to me that it is just sex. but my irritation seemed to be felt. He immediately sent me how much he missed me and how he dreamed of us being together forever, etc. If anyone has an idea why this happens and why it behaves like this ... am I too naive or ... at times it seems to me that he looks at me a little more seriously, as a possible more serious attitude in the future, and at times it seems to me that it is just sex.
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Hello. Coincidentally, my last 2 connections started on the internet. We were together with one gentleman, but not quite 4 years, and with the other nearly 3 .. of course somehow from a distance .. The balance for me is that these were not relationships, but rather sex with empty promises ... With you it may be different, but no one here on the site will know for sure ... Ask him, have a face-to-face conversation with him and watch as a bystander .. from a third party judge whether he is deceiving you. I know that at the moment you want things to be different, but be impartial so that you do not suffer yourself at a later stage of your life :) Good luck
Well, he likes you and is interesting, it's clear to you too. However, in my opinion, he behaves this way either because he is committed or simply because he does not see a common future for two VIPs - for one reason or another. You are far from each other. It's hard to get anything.
I think there is someone, and you are his variety. Most likely someone from more time. You don't mention being married, but he has someone. He may not live with this someone but he exists.
I think it's just sex. Just because it's not one-time doesn't mean it's not just sex. You don't know him. You build an idea based on what he shows you and what your imagination complements. In fact, you know more about your neighbors that you see every day. He is reserved because he has already won you over. He showers you with text messages when you pull at him so that he doesn't lose you like a sexual friend. It's convenient for him - he doesn't have to waste time taking me down again and again. He has already "enchanted" you. All it takes is to keep the flame going with some romantic promise. I would advise you to listen to your intuition when you have no answers to your questions. She's already given you alarms. :) If you like it - continue this relationship, but do not rely too much on serious development. At least hold the emotion until you get to know it better.
not married or engaged - from another city he feels safe with you - there are at least 2 Jiesema - one for people like you. The other option is a male florist. Both options do not warm you - it remains a personal judgment. Ask him to call your girlfriend at the next meeting --- it's as if your battery just dropped ... his reaction will betray him - and he might confuse them if there are two))
most likely for him it's just sex. can be seen with other women, and nothing prevents me from sending text messages to them. it's convenient for him to have a chick to see from time to time and he tells you what you want to hear: he loves you, he thinks of you, he misses you so you don't cut him off completely. once he has diluted the calls, then there is probably a new star on the horizon.
For starters, ask him if he is married or engaged.