Hello I want to share with you a very delicate issue on which I want opinions not attacks! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years but this summer she had sex with someone else .... She went to work at sea for two months as a waitress and I could not go with her. He came back from the sea and everything was perfect until a few days ago. She admitted that she had a flirtation with another boy who works in the restaurant where she works. I asked her to tell me everything without any savings and it turned out that they had sex. At the end of one of their working days, he asked her to send her because it was late and she agreed. She politely invited him to the apartment for a while (or so she told me), drank whiskey and wine and talked about all sorts of topics. She told me that he made her relax from the conversation separately and the alcohol, and then he robbed her. She admitted that she wanted it because it had been a month and a half since we had had sex. They did it, she admitted that she liked the sex itself, but it was just sex, nothing more. They repeated it a few more dinners, as well as the last one before he returned. I don't know what to do, she claims that she still loves ... And to some extent I understand her. I understand her to some extent, maybe she needed sex because the work there was very stressful and maybe she wanted a little variety at the moment and I forgave her, but I'm bothered by the fact that they repeated it more than 10 times and I doubt it was not only with a boy ...... opinions-tips (please no attacks) They did it, she admitted that she liked the sex itself, but it was just sex, nothing more. They repeated it a few more dinners, as well as the last one before he returned. I don't know what to do, she claims that she still loves ... And to some extent I understand her, I constantly work she is here and she has a beautiful and gentle face, very fine body and a nice protruding ass, the male attention to her is not lacking. I understand her to some extent, maybe she needed sex because the work there was very stressful and maybe she wanted a little variety at the moment and I forgave her, but I'm bothered by the fact that they repeated it more than 10 times and I doubt it was not only with a boy ...... opinions-tips (please no attacks) They did it, she admitted that she liked the sex itself, but it was just sex, nothing more. They repeated it a few more dinners, as well as the last one before he returned. I don't know what to do, she claims that she still loves ... And to some extent I understand her, I constantly work she is here and she has a beautiful and gentle face, very fine body and a nice protruding ass, the male attention to her is not lacking. I understand her to some extent, maybe she needed sex because the work there was very stressful and maybe she wanted a little variety at the moment and I forgave her, but I'm bothered by the fact that they repeated it more than 10 times and I doubt it was not only with a boy ...... opinions-tips (please no attacks) And to some extent I understand her, I constantly work she is here and she has a beautiful and gentle face, very fine body and a nice protruding ass, the male attention to her is not lacking. I understand her to some extent, maybe she needed sex because the work there was very stressful and maybe she wanted a little variety at the moment and I forgave her, but I'm bothered by the fact that they repeated it more than 10 times and I doubt it was not only with a boy ...... opinions-tips (please no attacks) And to some extent I understand her, I constantly work she is here and she has a beautiful and gentle face, very fine body and a nice protruding ass, the male attention to her is not lacking. I understand her to some extent, maybe she needed sex because the work there was very stressful and maybe she wanted a little variety at the moment and I forgave her, but I'm bothered by the fact that they repeated it more than 10 times and I doubt it was not only with a boy ...... opinions-tips (please no attacks)
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Either you fuck with us or your girlfriend wrote here
What is just sex? Of course it is infidelity. I feel for you.
Immediately stop "understanding" her and call her. Tell her that you are no longer boyfriends and if she likes not to look for you anymore. The second option is to wait a while and you will "admit" to her that you also cheated on a girl because you felt weak. Observe her reaction, and it will become clear to you who is weak and who is strong in your relationship. Then tell her that you no longer want to be boyfriends and if she likes to forget about you. Infidelity should not be tolerated in any way. If you close your eyes now, she will subconsciously classify you in her mind as weak and soft and this will be a green light for her to continue to need sex outside your bed from time to time when she feels "weak". Cut from the bone! You have invested 3 years in this regard and it will not be easy for you, but it is better to end here and now,
What does "just sex or infidelity" mean? Just having sex with another is not cheating, what? I do not understand. You're obviously quite desperate when you're ready to stay with her, despite everything. Don't be a doormat, dude. You don't need a woman who can't last 2 months without sex and directly throws herself at another.
A person can control his instinct, and you are very tanned, you think about other topics than sex, you live without sex. What if you were married? If you want to stay with her until you find something else ...
If the story is true, your girlfriend is just light. For 2 months to forget you and go to bed with someone else, she is not missing, she is just light. Once they have repeated it, the work is clear.
I do not want to write 100 lines of explanations, so I will give you a simple example from my life. I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago because he had to go abroad and we were together for 4 years. I love him, I'm still in love with him. I haven't had sex since August, and I love sex, it's my first and our biggest break was 2 weeks due to a business trip. Well, I haven't had sex since we were separated, even though I physically want and have opportunities. I don't owe him anything, I'm free, but the very idea of touching another person right now, and given my feelings, seems disgusting to me. This usually happens when a person loves another person, when he respects himself and the one he has feelings for. No matter how well you understand your partner, infidelity is infidelity, whether with feelings or not. And she could have slept with him once, and not a few times. One day he would be able to satisfy his physical needs for the time being.
You seem to be trying to justify it in some way? Busy work, two months without a husband, drunk more, gave in, it's just sex ... And so 10 times? Then you lasted, then you lied and finally he served you how nothing special happened and he loves you very much. I don't want to think what it would be like if he didn't love you? I wonder if you haven't diversified in the same way that you forgive him? Or are you so disrespectful? But the decision is yours, you will bear the consequences. Think about what kind of person you have next to you, when in two months he scratches out three years of relationship with the one he supposedly loves. And how will you drive her forward if she is busy again and decides to diversify?
Okay, I understand she made the mistake once, but over 10 times, sorry brother, do you take it seriously? Just dump it, such garbage will continue to cheat on you.
to 7: You say that "she could only sleep with him once to satisfy her physical needs"? It's not infidelity then, is it? Why didn't she just resort to masturbation like 90% of men do when they're at work?
Let me ask you, do you believe in aliens, and if you do, then it's just sex!
I support number 7. Just drop everything, don't fool yourself, you will suffer much more after that, don't waste your time.
It's even worse than infidelity - it's a relationship. And once it happened, it's still bad, but you can find some excuse - alcohol, your curtain has fallen and so on. But to repeat, to repeat and so on ... This woman is not trustworthy.