I have had a problem for some time, which is something like social anxiety / phobia, but a little more specific. I would not say that I am shy and have no problems talking to people on any topic and under any circumstances. The problem is entirely related to my current state, because in some cases I feel great and radiate positive energy, and in others - fear and people around me seem to feel uncomfortable. When this happens (for example, when I'm in a place where I have a kind of limited freedom, like a subway / bus / room) and I feel like my facial muscles are under tension and I feel a little awkward. It happens that I don't know where to look and when someone starts clearing their throat, coughing, sneezing, sighing, it gets even worse because I think they are judging me. I keep looking good and lead a healthy lifestyle. I'm thinking of starting to meditate, which should help me be more "right now." I feel unnatural and maybe I lack self-confidence. Maybe I focus too much on other people and what they express. I listen to any recommendations without "go to a psychologist", because this is not advice.
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I'll just tell you that people are much less interested in us than we imagine. In other words, no one cares so much about what you look like or what you do. People have more important problems than thinking about you.
There is a book by Siegfried Schnable called "Are You Nervous." There are dozens of cases like yours. It helped me a lot to get rid of a condition like yours. Good luck and don't forget that everything heals over time! PS If you are aged 16-23 I fully understand you.
The facial muscle that you described is a kind of nerve tic that results from some phobias and neuroses. The "sick" themselves feel it, but it also becomes noticeable to others during prolonged contact. Other variations of these tics are - snoring, pulling the lower lip to the side for a second, turning the eyes left and right, drumming with your fingers on the table, etc.