Hello everyone! I am writing to share my grief and ask you for advice. As you can see from the title, I don't want to sound spoiled, but I really feel that way - I'm a girl and I have a sister from a very young 3-4 year old. Our parents live abroad, and when they come back I don't feel anything towards my mother. the time when we were with her nothing good happened, she just doesn't love us, especially me - as a child I was very upset, I was afraid to go into her room while she was sleeping, to turn on the TV, I remember once how he slapped me on the hands, why didn't I throw away my pants after I wore them for a day in the washing machine, and I put them in the drawer, he hit my dolls because I love them and I feel sick, he gave my sister -beautiful dolls, in front of my dad he pretended to love me, and in private he just scolded me, told me to eat less, to stay for my sister, she was cursing me ... I am a girl, even if I was little, I was affected, even when I write these things it is hellishly unpleasant for me to remember these things ... He told me that I was stupid, like we were writing homework, she was hitting me on the head with the line, and when we were learning to write in wide lines it was horrible ... To this day I can't love her, I just didn't feel the warmth of her, it's good that she was a grandmother I'm with her ... Now she's making some pathetic attempts at a good mother, but I've just closed my heart to her. The problem is that I accepted this condition, just my mother does not love me ... But I have a lot of friends and only someone to show me some responsibility or to see me as less than her, to try to lay care i kill him at very high levels, i have a feeling that someone loves me and i don't know if it's normal,
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How can they keep saying that children were the most important thing !!! And when you come in here, how much we hated children. ж21
Hello, a boy of 16 writes to you. My case was almost the same, with the small difference that ours are divorced and I am an only child. My mother behaved the same way, I had no one around but her. She insulted me, hit me, threatened me, never helped me with anything. A year ago, things were so bad that I had to seek help from a psychologist, after I had another seizure, I will not give details. It turned out that thanks to her I got serious mental problems. Later, during a meeting with my psychologist, she found out. Plaka told me for days that she didn't want that to happen and told me how sorry she was. Now I am almost cured of the beastly problem I faced. It is already behaving normally, but the emptiness that remained in me will hardly be filled. Do some things that can't be fixed. I think it would be good for you to see a psychologist too, the topic is quite delicate, and he could only help. I could not forgive my mother, whether you will forgive is up to you. Head up and good luck. :)
Well, be glad you have a good grandmother. Think of her as a mother. And don't deal with your biological mother. When she grows up, she will need you, but then you don't pay attention to her
Hello! I understand you so well, if you know ... I also grew up without a mother, she separated from our family when I was only 2 years old. This has always been the thing that has depressed me internally, there is no explanation, there is trauma, emptiness, just a small place in the heart that is not filled. Like you, I was raised by my great grandmother and caring father. These are the people I will be grateful to all my life, because without them I would not be what I am now. I have never lacked anything in this life ... except one thing - motherly love. So many sad pictures come to me from childhood ..; / I have the feeling that this made me stronger, more combative, but on the other hand it affected me negatively to one degree or another. Like you, dear author, I am always looking for hugs, warmth, love, I have the feeling, that all the tenderness of the world will never be enough for me. Unfortunately, there are many women who long to cuddle and enjoy their little baby, but they were not destined to be mothers. In our case, this is unfortunate ... our mothers received a Gift from God, but still did not appreciate it. I don't understand what kind of person you have to be in order not to love your little self, your heart. ; / A lot of pain, a lot .. Despite everything, I have never been negative about it. Over time, I drew my own conclusions. Anyway, I'm not going to go any further, I hope you understood what I was trying to tell you. There are many people like you and me. It is destiny and we have nothing to do but enjoy our life as it is now, without thinking about the wounds inflicted on us by those closest to us. I just pray that one day I too will be endowed with wonderful children to whom I can give all the love that has accumulated in me. I will not allow them to experience what I experienced, I will not allow it .. g, 21 :)