Leave Me When I Needed Someone

   Well, here is a very nice lesson for you on how to fast.

   Maybe he's a jerk, maybe you're bad, I don't know ... In principle, a man is a man without being a porter / technician / general worker in the home. I wouldn't use my boyfriend to move heavy furniture, there are people for this job, imagine her getting a herniated disc, from lifting a heavy joint, and it's a terrible thing, pain, surgery ... Besides, you're not lived together, it is likely that he did not take your relationship seriously at all, I know ... There are people who are more restrained and cold, who would not help anyone but themselves, and their loved ones - family and friends. For the future, better judge who is in front of you, but also do not be the "girl in trouble" who must always be helped. It is different if the man wants such a woman and wants to raise you as a child, there are such men, yours seems not to be one of them.

   you got rid of me. He's not your friend for 10 seconds

   Dear girl, you got rid of a garbage! Glad you figured out what a commodity it was before he got you pregnant! The right boy will show up when you least expect him! Head up and block the unfortunate man who dumped you everywhere - it's not a big loss, understand! Courage!

   From the author to number 2 I did not want to be a mover or a general worker. I just asked if it could help with something. No one would make him lift everything himself, etc. Just to find out that I have a man next to me who can do you a favor. Many girlfriends can rely on their halves for a lot of things, I did not happen to a man.

   He is not obliged to do porter work and take care of you as a 5-year-old, mature wife, but you behave like that ... disgusting, I hope I don't come across people like you.

   Abe is very annoyed with how everyone gives bold advice, he lies down, and why don't you dump your busy boyfriends. They probably don't behave perfectly with you either, but you rub, don't you? How many of you have cool boyfriends at all, beautiful with a nice body, who behave perfectly .... are there at least two of them. Because in my opinion, you barely caught someone bald with a belly and considered, due to the fact that this is your level. And just like you, they always give it a fuck-like mind. I wouldn't infect him for such a thing. You demand too much from men. Reduce your claims.

   Okay, number 8, how are there boyfriends who help their girlfriends with repairs, relocations and other masterpieces? How many roommates have I seen where their friends carry luggage, help and others. Are they porters, or just concerned people? Is a relationship just sweet talk and sex? I asked him for other little things, but he didn't help me. The question is how much you value the person next to you, and whether you want to do a favor. He left me in a difficult time for me, something I would not do. I hope I don't come across a man like you who will only report with sweet talk. Everyone can talk and have sex, but not everyone can help.

   And how did you help him in a difficult time?

   I understood from everything what this man did not give you and did. What you gave him and helped you is not written. If it's just as much (I don't count sex, it was by mutual consent if you're boyfriends), it's no wonder he didn't respond to the transfer, etc. But if it annoys you that he wasn't like X, Y, etc. friends of other girls, looked for one - to become a porter, electrician, painter, plumber, etc., and was a homemaker. I hope only he is not looking for a cook, seamstress, cleaner and others.

   To number 12 And I cleaned, cooked, washed for him. I would even start moving in with them because he wanted us to live together, even if we had a child. It's a year and a half relationship. When he asked me for something, I helped. I don't know why there are men who, if they want to live with someone, don't help her at all, even for trifles. I can do it myself, but that's not the problem. The problem is that for friends, colleagues he does services, repairs appliances, runs at night to pick them up from restaurants, and at each of my requests he said No.

   Hello! I think there is nothing wrong with asking for help from the person you are with! On the contrary ... don't people have to be their support, support and be friends first of all, right? !! As for your work ... I tell you from experience that it is always for the better, whether you are to blame for losing it or someone else. When something happens, it is not without reason! We just understand it at a very late stage. I would also be offended by his action, but I would rather keep quiet and draw conclusions for myself. I give one piece of advice to myself and my girlfriends when they are hesitant about their relationships - think and watch. A relationship with an ex is absolute nonsense. Find a job, vote for yourself, do whatever and when you like. Give it a little more selfishly. And this ex of yours ... send him to his colleagues :))))

   I'll tell you something else, if the knife rests on a bone, a person becomes very inventive. That's how it is - you either learn to swim or you drown. Don't choke. The bad in most cases does not come only, but always in a series of ink. You often say to yourself that you are bad, that you can't stand up, and in the end not only do you stand up, but you keep moving forward and up. Don't worry about the moments when everything around you seems to collapse. It is collapsing to build something new and better. Rarely does something that is just bad happen, usually every minus is a secret plus, but this becomes clear to us after years. Be sure that you will cope with any pain, not because you are so strong, but because you have no other chance. And don't stop believing that better days will come. If nothing else positive has happened to you in recent weeks, at least you've opened your eyes. Always have a plan B. No matter what people explain to you, no matter how much you rely on someone and find them reliable, you should always be ready right now to be completely alone and in the middle of a difficulty. Happens. When you hire other people, you should expect any excesses. Have a set aside amount of money for an emergency, such as paying someone to move your furniture. You came across a man who did not realize that a family is built with a woman and not with friends. He was serious in words, but he was not ready to be serious in his actions. Do not blindly believe words without a solid foundation beneath them. As soon as he is ready to help a friend move, he should be ready to help you with something similar. Especially since you're his wife and his wife ... whatever we're talking about, does it involve strenuous physical activity, men are better. I can load my own luggage when I move, but, wow, my friend manages much more smoothly and quickly than me. I drag some bags on the ground, lift them with both hands step by step. Tragedy - complete. The same is true for home renovations. I empty drawers, cabinets and wardrobes, push on the floor, struggle. I succeed in the end, but there are people who will do much better with less effort. So far, none of my boyfriends have left me alone to deal with something like this. I didn't ask for help, I just mentioned the upcoming activities and they offered to help me in good faith. In the same way, I offer help without being asked. I think it is in principle. A loved one needs help, you have the opportunity and reach out. I do it without thinking about it and I enjoy people who also help without thinking about it. I have no intention of praying to anyone, and it is not right to do so and engage a person who wants to do something more enjoyable at the same time. In case I have the financial ability to pay a porter or a master, I pay and breathe lightly. As for sex, well, he may want to faint. It doesn't hurt to ask. I also really want to win the lottery, but I will stick with the request. If you really become a family with this man, then how will it be different? You go out alone, drag some strollers on elevators and stairs, the baby is either in your arms, or you try not to kill him as he lies in the stroller ... alone. You better not do it to yourself, this is the most painless example of something that every mother can handle, and there are so many other situations where you really need 2 more hands and it's very bad not to have them with you. Support is something

   Glad you got rid of it. The next day, when you get pregnant and ask him to take you to the hospital, this will be the answer again. Ignore the individuals above. They would tell you that just because you're carrying his child doesn't mean he has to help you raise him, say. The insult is not that he didn't have time to help, but that he rushed to help his friends instead of you. So for them it can, for you it can't. This person doesn't love you and doesn't care about you. Get him out of your life. You're better off without him.

   Good thing it happened so that you could see the real face of the person next to you! Imagine that you were seriously engaged and had given birth to a child before you realized that you could not rely on him. Apparently you just weren't important or a priority to him - he sat with you while you were comfortable, the moment the situation changed he was whipped. Forget it, stop all communication and look ahead!

   Wow, some of the commenters offer a very clean relationship. She demanded a lot, to take care of herself, she seemed to be alone with him. Don't let anyone distort your understanding of relationship and family, and find someone who imagines things like you, namely to be together and help each other in every situation.

   I would not stay with such a person for another minute. Not helping your boyfriend when he needs to is a betrayal for me. Me, while we were boyfriends with my wife ... In fact, our relationship started shortly after I decided to repair a power strip, which then exploded in my hands ... From then on for 5 years (as boyfriends) it was a pleasure for me to I help with everything. We have changed rooms several times. I took cars from friends so I could do her job. I also painted the dormitory room to make it pleasant. I didn't leave her alone to pick up luggage from the bus and carry it alone. When she took work home, I did it with her. I helped her sister and all her friends when they needed it. And it was never a question of whether to do it or not.