I am a woman of 43, I am a single mother and I have a 19 year old daughter. First I want to thank the people who work and maintain this site. I find it interesting and useful. I am intrigued by the stories written and about women who like women or women who have relationships with women. This is due to the fact that my daughter is a lesbian. I didn't realize it until this summer, when we worked until noon last Friday in July. I got home earlier than usual. There was no one in the living room or kitchen, so he headed for the child's room. The door was slightly ajar, I pushed it open, and I was about to say, "Echo, I came home," I froze. I couldn't utter a groan and a moan stuck in my throat. My daughter was lying on her bed naked, one hand between her thighs and the other holding her phone. I pulled back, holding my breath. My first one was, that my girl is having sex and masturbating. My face and ears burned, I was flushed from the awkward situation. I felt like I was sinking, I wanted to melt and I disappeared. I was just thinking about how to walk away unnoticed and go outside again, I heard words. Words in Bulgarian addressed to my child and uttered by a woman with a slightly hoarse voice. I froze for the second time. I couldn't figure out what was going on. I tensed my whole body to make another, silent movement forward and peered in again. I tried not to breathe so as not to attract my daughter's attention. It took me a while to assimilate what was happening. At one point, everything became clear to me. She was really content with herself, but she didn't watch pornography, it was a video chat and the interlocutor was a woman. They showed each other their charms with the cameras on their phones, and the words who uttered to each other many times exceeded what I considered moral. I managed to get out without being noticed. I struggled to gather my thoughts as I walked aimlessly through the streets, drunk.
I had to talk to her, I had to understand her sexuality. Why was she winged and where I was, how did I not understand? What kind of parents am I? These were just some of the thoughts that raced through my head. I went home, still thinking and asking myself unanswered questions. The only thing I came to was that whatever she was, I supported her. At home, I pretended nothing had happened. I needed peace of mind and time to make her talk about herself and feel my support and support. It took days for her to tell me she was a lesbian, but somehow she was relieved that the cover-ups were over. The cards were on the table. Tell me he has a girlfriend. At my insistence, he introduced me to her. This was the girl from the chat, I recognized her by her voice. She is two years older than me and is a country student. In the beginning, again with my consent, he stayed at home and then moved to live with us. So to speak, I got a second daughter. Why am I writing all this to you? Because I've come across a lot of lesbian stories that suffer from misunderstanding. Fear of sharing what they are.
Girls to you I have advice SHARE. To all others I have an appeal PEOPLE TO SUPPORT THEM. All these lesbians are our children, sisters, relatives or friends. They are no different from all other people. You experience the same feelings as us: joy, sadness, love, hate, etc. Let us lend a hand, do not shy away from them. I will be happy if my story is published. This was the girl from the chat, I recognized her by her voice. She is two years older than me and is a country student. In the beginning, again with my consent, he stayed at home and then moved to live with us. So to speak, I got a second daughter. Why am I writing all this to you? Because I've come across a lot of lesbian stories that suffer from misunderstanding. Fear of sharing what they are. Girls to you I have advice SHARE. To all others I have an appeal PEOPLE TO SUPPORT THEM. All these lesbians are our children, sisters, relatives or friends. They are no different from all other people. You experience the same feelings as us: joy, sadness, love, hate, etc. Let us lend a hand, do not shy away from them. I will be happy if my story is published. This was the girl from the chat, I recognized her by her voice. She is two years older than me and is a country student. In the beginning, again with my consent, he stayed at home and then moved to live with us. So to speak, I got a second daughter. Why am I writing all this to you? Because I've come across a lot of lesbian stories that suffer from misunderstanding. Fear of sharing what they are. Girls to you I have advice SHARE. To all others, I have an appeal for PEOPLE TO SUPPORT THEM. All these lesbians are our children, sisters, relatives or friends. They are no different from all other people. You experience the same feelings as us: joy, sadness, love, hate, etc. Let us lend a hand, do not shy away from them. I will be happy if my story is published. In the beginning, again with my consent, he stayed at home and then moved to live with us. So to speak, I got a second daughter. Why am I writing all this to you? Because I've come across a lot of lesbian stories that suffer from misunderstanding. Fear of sharing what they are. Girls to you I have advice SHARE.
To all others I have an appeal PEOPLE TO SUPPORT THEM. All these lesbians are our children, sisters, relatives or friends. They are no different from all other people. You experience the same feelings as us: joy, sadness, love, hate, etc. Let us lend a hand, do not shy away from them. I will be happy if my story is published. In the beginning, again with my consent, he stayed at home and then moved to live with us. So to speak, I got a second daughter. Why am I writing all this to you? Because I've come across a lot of lesbian stories that suffer from misunderstanding. Fear of sharing what they are. Girls to you I have advice SHARE. To all others I have an appeal PEOPLE TO SUPPORT THEM. All these lesbians are our children, sisters, relatives or friends. They are no different from all other people. You experience the same feelings as us: joy, sadness, love, hate, etc. Let us lend a hand, do not shy away from them. I will be happy if my story is published. who suffer from misunderstanding. Fear of sharing what they are. Girls to you I have advice SHARE. To all others I have an appeal PEOPLE TO SUPPORT THEM.
All these lesbians are our children, sisters, relatives or friends. They are no different from all other people. You experience the same feelings as us: joy, sadness, love, hate, etc. Let us lend a hand, do not shy away from them. I will be happy if my story is published. who suffer from misunderstanding. Fear of sharing what they are. Girls to you I have advice SHARE. To all others I have an appeal PEOPLE TO SUPPORT THEM. All these lesbians are our children, sisters, relatives or friends. They are no different from all other people. You experience the same feelings as us: joy, sadness, love, hate, etc. Let us lend a hand, do not shy away from them. I will be happy if my story is published.
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Well, I understand you, but it's all very sad ... You "support" her, but you understand very well that you probably won't have your real grandchildren. Also, that this is not the natural existence of a person. But there is nothing you can do about it. Our children are growing up. And even if they don't, they stop giving birth. Whether from laziness, from over-satisfaction, from persecution of false values - I don't know. The intelligent and civilized part of humanity is aging and leaving. They stay and multiply like cockroaches ... not to mention what they will erase me. Apart from my condolences - I have nothing else to tell you.
As far as I know, this is a disease of the soul, also a lineage transmission. It is treatable because I was looking at the testimony of a former lesbian on the internet. So ask someone. It's not normal. You will not have grandchildren. In the church someone can pray for her and get better.
You are a strong woman. The important thing is that everyone is happy as he understands it and as long as it does not interfere much with others. Enjoy life and love yourself! M
You must have been hanging out in the squares with idiotic shouts and slogans - welcome. You have what you jumped for.
Look, I understand what you mean. But! I do not think that a decent person, man or woman - will make your child show his private parts on camera. After such stories, there are people who use against the other photographic material to intimidate. I'm not against lesbians. I'm against older people inclining younger ones to appear in videos or photos like that. To me, your daughter's girlfriend is not ... the good person you think she is.
Well ok. I wonder how you haven't noticed this before? You are obviously quite estranged from your daughter. How are you with your father, do you have contact, did you love him?
People are different. Short, tall, blond, dark, smart, stupid, hetero, homo. I don't see any drama. You did the right thing as a parent. The only thing that matters to you as a mother is that your child is healthy and happy.
Not everyone is normal for someone.
My opinion that people with such deviations are mentally ill (freaks) Disgusts me or to put it mildly I do not understand Putting you in your place and cooking your child in this way is more than awful and would follow a long conversation and shorten the reins to no time to think nonsense. I had a case with such a person and I was going to sweep the floor with her, but she missed an ugly picture: such people :(
This story is made up. I'm homosexual, my family knows, I'm accepted, but they haven't jumped for joy. What kind of support can we talk about at all, the relationship between two people is theirs, everything else is complete nonsense.
I agree with # 9. I'm a man of 25. I'm from a small country town. Unfortunately, my best friend's sister is the opposite. We grew house to house. I remember the moment it was understood. The whole town was talking about it. He had a lot of buckets. After graduating from school, his sister went to Sofia. My friend found a wife and they lived together. He is a good boy, quiet, meek and enterprising. He liked to rummage in car engines. He went to work in Austria in construction. With the money he earned, he wanted to have a wedding and open a car repair shop. He worked there and sent the money to his future wife. Unfortunately, his father died. He returned in a week, and his sister also showed up. Then he returned abroad and his sister stayed in our town to help their mother after the shock. Won't this sick creature deceive his sister's wife. The doves fell in love while he squirmed and they both ran away with his money. Eddie's neighbor caught them in a mold.
Author, I congratulate you on the way you acted and on your thinking. If there were more people like you, eh ... I'm also a lesbian, a little older than your daughter, and only if mine were understood like you at home. I just dreamed of being your daughter's boyfriend and knowing you. People like you give me back my faith in humanity. thank you
Thank you. Your words made me cry. I am 26 years old, I have an attraction to women and I have known it since I was 14 years old. I'm alone all the time, from the moment I get used to me, that I like girls, from the fact that I want to have a woman next to me, for a hug. Against this background, at puberty I was very anxious and alone with all this. To this day, I do not share that I like women in front of my family. And I lived in a dormitory with my first girlfriend for 5 years, university. We broke up. I now live with my current girlfriend. My relatives, who know the past and the present and know where I live with whom, do not feel it. I can't admit it to them. My ex-girlfriend, 10 years older than me, also does not share it with those closest to her. My current girlfriend doesn't share it either. It is very difficult for us in this regard. All this loneliness and the way to be alone in it is difficult. It weighs.
Author, I want to congratulate you on your strong character and the ease with which you accept the fact of your daughter. I have a girl of 22. Some time ago, imitating the clothes in the wardrobe and I discovered sex attributes, and these things make me think that she likes women. Unfortunately, I do not have the courage to have a conversation with her, and her answer scares me. My heart is constricted, I don't know how my husband will react. Woman 47
I am a woman of 29. I know I live is the 21st century. High technology and fast changing dynamic life. Concepts change perceptions too, but should we say frankly bad things are good? What do we say about intimate relationships between women, 'It's not bad if they are nice and don't disturb others.' "What about women who use attributes because sex shops are self-satisfied; "The same goes for men. For sex between mother and daughter, mother and son, father and daughter, father and son, brother and brother, sister and sister and cousins, cousins, etc. Again, we use our familiar answer" Not bad as long as they are good as long as they don't disturb others' People what's going on? Why should we try to distort our own understandings and morals to please sick people.
Number 9 and number 13 the sick are you. In which century do you live, let me guess, in the more, the past !!! Congested, thanks to you Bulgarians consider us the most conservative in all of Europe !!!
Girl at 18 I don't see anything wrong with being a lesbian. Well done to the author for her tolerance.
Congratulations on the way of thinking. You have acted as all parents should in principle treat their children. I congratulate you as one such child who is so confused about his sexuality. I want my parents and loved ones to think like you. The problem is that they consider lesbians and gays to be people who are not normal, precisely because they are different, and they don't think they should be. I am sure that in many cases, not only in mine, most young people do not dare to admit to their parents what their sexual orientation is. I have tried to talk to them several times and their opinion on the issue has always been categorical and they have changed the subject, I already know that there is no point in trying to change them, just when I become an adult and I can take my life into my own hands. tell them and whatever happens will happen. I'm telling you all this, to see that your case is much better than most. Keep supporting your daughter. ♥
Hi, maybe I'll get involved a little late. It's hard for me to guess from your story what the real situation is with your daughter's sexuality. Scientifically, almost all of us have a certain element of bisexuality - a famous American psychologist even makes a six-point scale (very few people are 0 / absolutely heterosexual or 6 / absolutely homosexual). Bisexuality may or may not develop, it may have weak manifestations, and it may be hypertrophied (ie, it is standard for a weakly bisexual person to go entirely "to the other side" due to circumstances). In their teens, girls are very likely to be "polysexual" (able to experience sexual attraction and even have a relationship) with another human being, regardless of gender. This is usually experienced unless he is given too much freedom. My friend had a three-year relationship with a girl between the ages of 15 and 18, during which time she also slept with several boys. Her mother caught them "in a mold", cried, then told her "that she supports her" (a cliché, by the way). My own father, who is an absolute idiot, doubted that I could be gay myself, and at one point he told me that if I was, he wouldn't love me any less - I could barely contain my serious expression given the impact. , which my classmates did to me then. I mean, too much tolerance in gender style may not be the best tactic. If your girl is really a lesbian - ok, you made her feel better. But imagine that she was not actually a "six" on the above scale, but only a "three" or a "couple". - In fact, you have combined with her older friend and developed her teenage polysexuality. Being gay is not normal, no matter what they tell you - it is an anomaly in human sensuality, and people who have it, often suffer from their inability to live fully. Maybe you should have talked to her, made her look at herself, and judge if she really only liked women. Probably, if she had thought about it, she would have found that she could have a full-fledged relationship with a man, even if she was aroused by women. I'm not trying to judge you or give authoritarian opinions, I'm just stating facts. quite often they suffer from their inability to live fully. Maybe you should have talked to her, made her look at herself, and judge if she really only liked women. Probably, if she had thought about it, she would have found that she could have a full-fledged relationship with a man, even if she was aroused by women. I'm not trying to judge you or give authoritarian opinions, I'm just stating facts. quite often they suffer from their inability to live fully. Maybe you should have talked to her, made her look at herself, and judge if she really only liked women. Probably, if she had thought about it, she would have found that she could have a full-fledged relationship with a man, even if she was aroused by women. I'm not trying to judge you or give authoritarian opinions, I'm just stating facts.
Is homosexuality innate or not? I think it is a mixture of both, and that, as the author writes above, it is manifested differently. It is difficult to be like that in a society of "normal", but it is also difficult to be misunderstood on any grounds considered by society to be reprehensible ... What I consider wrong in the attitude and behavior of the author is the following : first, because of her lack of a clear idea that homosexuality is a deviation, she unreservedly accepts the situation, beginning to see it as an EQUAL way of sex. If she is heterosexual, she should state her views clearly, not try to adjust to her daughter. Her daughter may be affected, their relationship may be separated - both between people with principles and those without them - but she cannot in the name of "peace" and " with which it has finally proved its unprincipledness. I do not judge you, madam, but one cannot live in eternal indulgence, in the name of supposed love. One can be loved without sacrificing one's own principles, and if one does, it cannot even be called love. with which it has finally proved its unprincipledness. I do not judge you, madam, but one cannot live in eternal indulgence, in the name of supposed love. One can be loved without sacrificing one's own principles, and if one does, it cannot even be called love.
It's much better to be a lesbian, to lick relatives there :), than to be the neighborhood blood. I respect lesbians and their choice (what they don't find in men they get from their peers) but also outside the norms. R.
I want to thank everyone who took the time to read what I wrote. Special thanks to the readers who posted comments. I respect the opinion of all of you, but I do not agree with some of them. Numbers 9 and 12, I don't think these are mentally ill people. Lesbian, for me this state of mind and body, emotionally and sexually. It is a way of life and perception of one woman to another. Number 21, I don't find anything perverse, perverted and ugly in lesbians. 80 percent of men and 60 percent of women like and approve of intimate relationships between women and their love. In addition, these people read kigi and watch movies on the subject. Not only does this not disgust them, but it also stimulates their sexual activity. Hardly this huge percentage think of themselves as perverts, and that's ugly. Number 27, I do not agree that I am unprincipled. Maybe you're judging by the fact that I'm not startled by the sight of my 19-year-old daughter masturbating in front of the phone. First of all, I don't see anything wrong with masturbating. I don't think there are many people left who don't resort to this from young to old at different times. And who knows our own bodies better than we do, and my child is 19 and it is normal for the blood to boil. Second, whether a person will masturbate in front of a phone, computer, TV, in the bathroom, in bed, etc. or fantasizing about something, everyone chooses for himself, as well as where he likes. She just chose this option at that moment and the view did not repel me! Number 25 made me think. Maybe I also unknowingly encouraged her to develop her polysexuality. However, looking at them in the evening, I see in the eyes of both love, harmony and awe. Seeing how this girl treats my daughter and that makes her happy, I would reconnect with her. I think that after that, I would entrust her in the hands of a woman again, and I am already skeptical about men. The author
My condolences madam, you missed your girl! But this is the result of the intrusion of pederasty and lesbianism in every way by the media, advertisements, NGOs, our stupid idiots, etc. stupid organizations. I hope she is at least bisexual to start a family.
According to the author, I'm starting to think something is wrong. She is either BI-sexual or sexuality and is starting to change by living with her daughter and the other lesbian. It reminds me of what happened to my own sister. A girl appeared in her life who was not a commodity, a pure lesbian. In the beginning, my sister started to change her mind about relationships between women, until finally she became a lesbian.
There is another point here. Women and men are very different. From a woman's point of view, men are rude, unspiritual and insensitive. From what has been written above, I am left with the impression that the girl grew up without a father and his men are from a completely different planet. Accordingly, it is not unexpected to find a haven with another woman who also satisfies his purely biological needs. But not everything is so predestined. In the future, she may meet a boy with whom she can achieve a spiritual connection, and hence rediscover her feminine nature. This story is actually quite instructive for mothers. Don't go in front of your little daughters in your favorite female thoughts about how nasty certain males and males in general are. There may be unexpected consequences.
I will tell you a secret. I hate gays. But I love lesbians. I'm not a man, I'm a woman. I'm not a lesbian myself, but I like them, and I would sleep with one. I think there is a huge difference between gays and lesbians. Some, being men, are impudent and at times annoying, and lesbians in my opinion are intelligent women who choose to be with each other instead of with a rough goat .. There is nothing wrong with your daughter being like that, because it can don't worry that over time it may fall into the hands of an aggressive or bad guy. I'm not saying that all men are like that, but there is definitely a large percentage of them, especially in Bulgaria, and not only. Testosterone often has its say, and your daughter will only be happier and calmer if she is with another woman.
It is very important to have one child, but no one thinks he can turn the thread. If you had eight children, you dream how many are the opposite.
Hi ma'am I'm a girl of 19 and I'm gay. I read the story and comment you posted. I reread them many times and each time my heart was beating wildly. I think you are a great person and a unique parent. In my opinion, you are one of the few parents who accepts and supports their daughter. For the fact that she feels comfortable, cozy and secure in the arms of another woman and not only that, you think that for her this is the right choice. In a second I would change you with my own parents. Unfortunately, there are many girls like me who hide their attraction to women because we remain misunderstood. Because the poison called homophobia in our country has penetrated deep into the souls, hearts and minds of people. That's why there were excesses after the Pride this year with a few girls like us. It's normal to be a lesbian on the outside, marrying women is allowed, hugging and kissing on the street is common. It's different here, we lesbians are a bad thing, we pervert children. These same children watched lesbian porn, incest, and sex with animals in their homes five minutes before they saw us kissing on the street. But internet access cannot be ignored, we must be stopped. We are guilty of debauchery, and if by chance a girl falls in love with women, it is our fault, not her nature. Gentlemen Puritans lesbian is born is not happening. Well done from the bottom of my heart to the author incest and sex with animals in their homes. But internet access cannot be ignored, we must be stopped. We are guilty of debauchery, and if by chance a girl falls in love with women, it is our fault, not her nature. Gentlemen Puritans lesbian is born is not happening. Well done from the bottom of my heart to the author incest and sex with animals in their homes. But internet access cannot be ignored, we must be stopped. We are guilty of debauchery, and if by chance a girl falls in love with women, it is our fault, not her nature. Gentlemen Puritans lesbian is born is not happening. Well done from the bottom of my heart to the author