Hi, I'm a 17 year old girl and I've known for a long time that I'm a lesbian. But no one knows but my best friend. I have a lot of girlfriends at school and I'm among the 'popular' girls, so I'm afraid to admit the truth so that everyone doesn't turn their backs on me. Recently, however, I started to like a girl from the other class - she trains football, wears huge T-shirts, skinny pants, baseball caps, buttons and never puts on makeup. Her behavior is also atypical for a girl - she only goes out with boys, jokes with them like brothers, and since I know her, she has never looked at a boy in a special way. I was almost convinced that she was a lesbian, but I soon heard her shout about a boy "look at him like a fagot", and I've heard her throw in some such homophobic hints before. This made me very hesitant and now I don't know what to do. Should I tell her how I feel and does her behavior and appearance show in any way that she may be a lesbian? !!
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Just because she's masculine doesn't mean she's necessarily a lesbian. However, her statement worries me somewhat. Why not make friends first, go out, get to know her so you can possibly decide what to do.
Maybe these statements are a good way to cover up. Try.
Since you yourself claim that your behavior cannot suggest to others that you are a lesbian, why do you think that her behavior can suggest an orientation?
I'm in the same situation, only a 25-year-old gay man sympathizes with you
You will know each other if you have closer contact. Invite her to a coffee outside of school, but so that she doesn't feel it's a special invitation. If he likes women and you in particular, he won't be annoyed by the invitation and ... how can I tell you, he feels when a woman wants you. Look, like women and whatever you think you like, show it, fuck people and what they think, there are liars, hypocrites, addicted and evil people walking around us. Will they judge you? Be yourself.
she's a man, she's not a lesbian, don't hope
Watch the song by Ally Hills- How to know if a girl is a lesbian. Hahaha I adore her. And now seriously - she has a huge chance to be a lesbian. Homophobic comments can only be a defense mechanism. My best friend is a lesbian and she's always joking about it, saying things she doesn't really mean. However, I'm afraid that if this girl is really homophobic, she might hurt you. If you admit your feelings to her and she shouts at you, for example, or tells everyone about the incident. There are terrible people in this world. I don't want to scare you, I'm just being honest. I think it would be best if you wait a little longer, hover around it, try to strike up a conversation. If you get close to her, you will easily extract the information. You can only say something about a boy or if she has a boyfriend, if her reaction is nasty, boys, then the situation is clear. Or if you have a trusted friend, to whom you can share about the situation can help. Good luck, write what happens, I'm interested!
Flirt and you will understand. Otherwise, many LGBT people (especially in high school) try to disguise themselves in this way. Or they can't accept that they themselves have a different orientation .. A lot depends on the person, I would post it on social networks for more info. : '')
I am also a lesbian and I have some experience with such girls, I behave in exactly the same way with boys and I dress like that ... She is definitely like that, but still be careful. Don't trust people easily !!