At the moment I am tormented by thoughts about my ex and that is why I am writing here to ask those of you who have returned to them ... how was it when you renewed your relationship, is it different from last time? And most importantly ... is it worth it? I keep thinking that once we have ended a relationship and we have considered it good to separate, it is better not to look back, because if we try again it will be worse. What do you think?
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It depends on many things - how long the relationship was, how things ended and why and whether you still have feelings. But if it hurt you, why go back to where you weren't happy?
Hello darling, I guess you're quite confused, now I'll tell you what happened to me, I went back to my ex and it was the same for the first 2 days you can feel the change, but then, things can change again and it happens, as before ....,, it makes no sense to read the same book twice after, knowing what the end is and "I'm already on this principle. If you love it very much come back, it depends on the person whether he is serious and whether it really will change, and change it is quite difficult, but if it's just for fun and you can't be attached, come back, but boys suffer the most, for those girls who haven't returned to them. .. All good darling, you will judge the situation :)
things are simple the former is like a book read, no matter how many times we reread it, we already know what the end will be. n. n. if it's just for sex it works. but again for a connection with expectations of a different end, forget it.
I developed a very complex theory on the subject a long time ago. The idea of the theory is that you end your relationship with a person at some point in your life. You separate and move forward, you change. If you come together, everything repeats itself, as if all this change in you has never happened. The former are people from the past, they challenge the past in us and we somehow go back when we reunite with them. One thinks that because time has passed, everything will be different, but this is definitely not the case. There was a reason for the separation, you forgot it, but when you get together, you will remember it in less than a week.
Until you try, you will not understand. I went back to my ex and it was a mistake (I'm not with her anymore) ... It depends on the situation, it may be bad, it may not be ... You will understand
It's not worth coming back - I say it from experience and observation. Ž
My girlfriend and I were 2 and a half years old ... In the end, after all this time, she thought I was suffocating her and wanted her to be free and alone. We ended the relationship, I missed her a lot, I tried to shake off this incident, I barely succeeded, but in the end I managed to forget it almost completely. We didn't look for each other for half a year (I tried for 3-4 months at least, but it didn't work and I finally stopped), finally she called me one night. We started writing, talking, seeing each other, everything was beautiful for 1 month ... Going out, dancing, hugging, kissing, I was resurrected ... and hop stopped looking for me again, for no reason ... I managed to contact once I ask what the reason is and the answer was - there is no such thing and that I do not deserve this attitude. In general, he brought me back to where he left me, only in a worse condition ...
From my experience, I would tell you that it is a waste of time and a series of disappointments and sufferings. You have just overcome him and he is looking for you, sorry, changed. Forgive me, come back. the first 2 days everything is wonderful and the old quarrels start again. Again quarrels, again divisions, again you are beaten and you have no motivation for anything. There are probably cases in which both have learned a lesson and then live well, but it is rare Especially in infidelity - never forgive! It will crush again.
Sometimes it's for the best. I had a relationship that lasted 3 and a half years and I broke up with the boy because it burdened me very much emotionally ... it just crushed me the last few months of our relationship. He took it terribly hard and came very close to self-destruction. Three months later, under the circumstances, we met again. And it was very wonderful, because she had the thrill that had long since disappeared from our relationship. It was mysterious and fun. We were together for 2 months, until we came back to those painfully familiar relationships, where you almost have the feeling that you know the person better than yourself. And so it happened that we parted by mutual consent and we were both completely okay with that. We understand that our relationship has simply ended. In my opinion, a connection when it ends is felt on both sides ...
From the Author: Thank you very much for the comments! I know that if something happens again, it will be for a short time, but I would still throw my head forward because I feel unfinished.
Well, I'm of the opinion that some relationships have been ridiculously terminated. In order to be able to demonstrate his honor and how much he is above things. Maybe with the expectation that if he feeds his ego enough, everything will be older. However, some acquaintances and the woman committed suicide due to the mental harassment that was imposed on her for 3 months