Hello, I want to ask someone with the same problem, to tell me how I will continue, how I will start a family, how I will have children !? I'm almost 18, a year ago I found out I had HPV. Type 16 and 18. High risk! They took them away from me at the end of May last year, since then I haven't thought about sleeping with a boy, just imagining that I will give him this thing and ruin his life ... I blame myself too, I feel like wreck, as if I'm not up for anything ... I don't even know how to formulate my topic or questions, I'm hellishly confused. They haven't appeared since they were removed, but they will be on the face of a cold and weakened immunity. I'm afraid, how will I live with this !? I'm afraid that one day it will turn out to be cervical cancer ... I may not even have children. Everything just collapsed, I have so many ribbons and 1st places in beauty contests, so much effort to look the way I look, so much deprivation and training to have the dream body, and I slept in the trash with someone who doomed me ... Please, just tell me something, help me, how to cope, mentally , physically, even personally with this? I don't wish it on anyone ...
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Hi, First of all, you shouldn't blame yourself for anything. This is a disease for which you are not to blame. The man you slept with is not guilty either. Such things happen, I'm almost sure he didn't know. And that doesn't make you a less valuable person. Second - in 90% of cases the body clears the virus within two years. It is not a life sentence. My friend has HPV. He told me before we went to bed. But I decided I wanted to be with her in spite of everything. Her lesions had been removed with some scorch shortly before we met. The doctor said that the virus is transmitted skin to skin and once the external manifestations are treated, the risk of infection is small. There are also techniques with which to further reduce - during sex I do not take off my underwear, but just take my penis through the gap of the boxers and put on a condom. In this way we avoid skin-to-skin contact. She goes for preventive check-ups and we have decided that if changes are noticed again, we should stop having sex until they are removed. I avoid having oral sex with her, and if I do, I cover her with a cut condom. I will not lie to you, it creates a lot of difficulties, but to a large extent it is also how you accept things. I would not trade my girlfriend for another woman, regardless of her health problems. We agreed to wait as long as necessary for her body to clear the virus. Yes, you will have to avoid casual sexual contact so as not to risk the health of the other, but if someone really falls in love with you, the virus will not be a problem. it creates a lot of difficulties, but to a large extent it is also how you accept things. I would not trade my girlfriend for another woman, regardless of her health problems. We agreed to wait as long as necessary for her body to clear the virus. Yes, you will have to avoid casual sexual contact so as not to risk the health of the other, but if someone really falls in love with you, the virus will not be a problem. it creates a lot of difficulties, but to a large extent it is also how you accept things. I would not trade my girlfriend for another woman, regardless of her health problems. We agreed to wait as long as necessary for her body to clear the virus. Yes, you will have to avoid casual sexual contact so as not to risk the health of the other, but if someone really falls in love with you, the virus will not be a problem.
Find a good psychologist and work together. I think it will be very useful for you and very soon you will feel freer, calmer and happier. :)
Darling, I will pray that everything will be fine, be alive and healthy and never forget to believe in miracles. M 24
Thank you for your quick response, the comments of all three of you literally made me cry. Number 3 you're right, I need to look for a specialist, I need to talk to someone ...
Dear girl, I was infected with HPV 6, low risk, but still infected. I treated the warts with Aldara cream, they also found a sore on my cervix. I've been through all the worries you're going through right now. I found a good gynecologist who told me that most sexually active people encounter the virus at some point in their lives. I was prescribed an immunostimulant - Samento. At the moment there is no mention of the virus, with some abstinence from sexual intercourse and strengthening the immune system, your body clears itself. The sore is gone, and my cytosmear is the first group. My fiancé has no sign of getting anything like that, and I got pregnant quickly. Your life is not doomed. Examine yourself regularly, find a good gynecologist and take care of your body and psyche. You are still so young, life is ahead of you and I am sure you will recover.
Thanks for tip number 7! I also cleared myself of these horrible things, there has been no mention of them for almost a year now, even today I took my smear and hpv test results. I am the 1st group and strains 16 and 18 are gone. I'm grateful for that, but I can't be completely happy, I'm constantly stressed, I check every morning to see if there are any warts. I'm worried about dating, I don't want to go out with boys or men, I've built high walls around myself and this virus is the reason for them. I wish you all the best and healthy baby!
They mainly strengthen their immune system. If you smoke, stop immediately and a suitable gynecologist.
Never blame yourself for what happened to you, people were created to be unique. Man carries his own burden and only man really knows what is in his soul. Always be honest and straightforward, respect some moral values. And when you decide to move on, and you will, don't lie to the person you allow to be with you and tell them about your health problem, right from the start. It will be difficult, people will disappoint you, they will betray you, but one day you will meet a good person who will be for you, will accept you, will support you, and will be a support in your life. Don't give up on life, don't shut yourself in, live, but be a good person.