A 23-year-old graduate student, he only has to take the state exam. Sooner or later I will take it whether this month or fall it will happen, I will try to prepare and I believe that I will take this diploma. Half of my colleagues have not yet taken their regular exams and cannot take a state exam in this situation, but I will be able to and wonder what I will do with this diploma, because as I said, sooner or later I will take it. During this study I experienced the horror of anxiety and depression, just a year ago I was a drunkard, as a result of depression, panic attacks and the like. I drank a lot of alcohol, and in the end I only thought about drinking until I went to the doctor to solve the new problem of alcohol caused by anxiety and depression. The alcohol story ended quickly, I was prescribed Antidepressant and Rivotril, which I drink all the time since I stopped drinking alcohol. I stabilized a lot, with the help of these drugs I stopped getting Panic Attacks and gradually regained my desire for life, I took my exams, and just last year at that time I was wondering whether to enroll in the last semester of my studies, because I knew best what is wrong with me. Now I may be addicted to drugs to some extent, but better to them than to alcohol. Gradually, many wishes came back to me, including that I should and I have a girlfriend (I have not had until now). But this diagnosis weighs on me and not only that, I am generally a closed person without many friends. Making friends is a coffin thing for me, I haven't had many friends in my life and I made the only serious friends at the university, so to speak, I walk alone in my hometown. But at the end of the course, things cooled down a bit. Very often I call colleagues, a colleague (who I started recently and I like), who tells me to call when I arrive, and when I arrive and the call does not pick me up. This irritates me to some extent and I wonder if I have as much of a problem as I need to change. I drank coffee with other colleagues and everything was OK. But I can't understand this behavior, she tells me why you don't call when you arrive, and when I call I must have called 5-6 times to pick up. I only give an example. I also see colleagues, but some are already working, I have to start working soon, although there is no work, I have to try and find. I don't want to go back. We are also worried about loneliness and I wonder what to do. I live in a small country town. to a colleague (who I started recently and I like), who tells me to call when I arrive, and when she arrives and calls, she doesn't pick me up. This irritates me to some extent and I wonder if I have as much of a problem as I need to change. I drank coffee with other colleagues and everything was OK. But I can't understand this behavior, she tells me why you don't call when you arrive, and when I call I must have called 5-6 times to pick up. I only give an example. I also see colleagues, but some are already working, I have to start working soon, although there is no work, I have to try and find. I don't want to go back. We are also worried about loneliness and I wonder what to do. I live in a small country town. to a colleague (who I started recently and I like), who tells me to call when I arrive, and when she arrives and calls, she doesn't pick me up. This irritates me to some extent and I wonder if I have as much of a problem as I need to change. I drank coffee with other colleagues and everything was OK. But I can't understand this behavior, she tells me why you don't call when you arrive, and when I call I must have called 5-6 times to pick up. I only give an example. I also see colleagues, but some are already working, I have to start working soon, although there is no work, I have to try and find. I don't want to go back. We are also worried about loneliness and I wonder what to do. I live in a small country town. This irritates me to some extent and I wonder if I have as much of a problem as I need to change. I drank coffee with other colleagues and everything was OK. But I can't understand this behavior, she tells me why you don't call when you arrive, and when I call I must have called 5-6 times to pick up. I only give an example. I also see colleagues, but some are already working, I have to start working soon, although there is no work, I have to try and find. I don't want to go back. We are also worried about loneliness and I wonder what to do. I live in a small country town. This irritates me to some extent and I wonder if there is as much problem in me as I need to change more. I drank coffee with other colleagues and everything was OK. But I can't understand this behavior, she tells me why you don't call when you arrive, and when I call I must have called 5-6 times to pick up. I only give an example. I also see colleagues, but some are already working, I have to start working soon, although there is no work, I have to try and find. I don't want to go back. We are also worried about loneliness and I wonder what to do. I live in a small country town. I also see colleagues, but some are already working, I have to start working soon, although there is no work, I have to try and find. I don't want to go back. We are also worried about loneliness and I wonder what to do. I live in a small country town. I also see colleagues, but some are already working, I have to start working soon, although there is no work, I have to try and find. I don't want to go back. We are also worried about loneliness and I wonder what to do. I live in a small country town.
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Congratulations on graduating and good luck on her state exam! You made a good decision, which I am happy about - it's different with a diploma. It will hardly be a problem for you to start work soon. As for the girl, it doesn't seem cultural to me. Does he call you later to apologize? If so, she is not angry, because everything happens, she can be distracted. In fact, when you graduate, the circle of contacts narrows and it will be harder to find a girlfriend. So look around, lest any other colleague be interested, and you have not noticed her over the years. Everything will be fine, because I see that you are strong. Success!
I started writing comments less and less, but your story touched me. They say that by recognizing yourself in the words of a stranger, you share his pain. And I share yours completely. We are at the same age with the only difference that I took the state exam and now I work. However, I am from a village, lonely, and I still remember the panic attacks I received years ago as if it were yesterday. As you can guess, I can't help you with anything so much. I will only tell you not to give up looking for work and love, because especially the latter gives meaning to your life. It is very difficult for young people in this situation of the state, but we must be persistent and combative in order to achieve something. As for loneliness - I realized long ago that friendship is up to time. Like you, I have discovered that my truest friends are from my student years. However, as they separate 300 km from man, which you call your closest friend - your relationship more or less cools down. All you have to do is accept the situation ... About this colleague of yours - try your luck, but show her your feelings clearly. It is not enough just to call her - look for more contact with her and if possible face to face. Show her that for you she is not just the colleague with whom you took the Morphology exam, for example, but she is an important person. Send her the color for March 8 :) Even if she doesn't respond to your feelings completely - I'm sure she will be very happy. And try to have fun. And I go like a freak alone in my hometown (village more precisely), but I walk in nature, listen to music, watch comedies (even children's movies), read many, many books and so I do not have much time for self-pity. Every day I get up with the thought that life is ahead of me. I'm only 23 after all: ) Like you - so put a smile on your face, play Cloudy with Meatballs 2 (for example, although 1 is much stronger), make yourself a coffee and keep it the same for everything else ... I so I dealt with panic attacks some time ago ... No drugs, no alcohol ... No help ... Just me and my feelings. And you will cope. I sincerely wish you success! :)
Brother, I fully understand you. And I've been through the hell of depression. People like us who are more sensitive are often rejected by women. My observations about Bulgaria are that although they say that they want an intelligent, educated, understanding person next to them, women are constantly striving for rude rural individuals. I even wonder how they didn't jump on your neck while you were swearing - maybe you didn't swear enough, or you didn't fight, I know. As for this chick - don't get so obsessed with a particular woman. You may not like her, you may not be her type, she may like another, etc. If it doesn't work, you are looking for another. The idea is to find someone with whom you like each other and when you call her to enjoy, to have common interests, topics of conversation, you remember. And one last piece of advice - I don't know what kind of person you are, but relax, say funny things, smile, try to be cool. Nowadays it is filled with loading grumblers, vicious individuals, etc. Be different, be the person who always cheers, who makes people feel good and calm, does not talk about problems, but about pleasant things and you will see 100% the difference - they will look for you, you will be nice company, the chicks will look at you with a different eye.
Number 2, I agree with everything except that the 300 km interfere with the connection. I have a friend who is more than 300 km away and we still keep in touch (for 4 years now) and we have never studied together. Only in the summer we visit and see each other.
Author: thanks for the advice I will start consecutively 1. Before the summer we met and she told me when I come to call her. And a few days later I came to this city again, I called and received only a text message that she had a job and she would call me later, and when the time came I finally called and did not pick me up, but I swallowed it. Then maybe I saw her as an ordinary friend, nothing more, I tried to keep in touch with more people. And then neither my demeanor was such that he thought I liked her or anything. I just think it's different. But for me, not picking up the phone is a lack of basic respect. The same with a colleague where we were roommates, I called on New Year's Eve and it didn't pick up and I stopped calling. Now maybe she thinks I like her, I don't know. But during the years when I called, she didn't pick me up. And so to speak, that he knows about some of my problems. As for other colleagues, I can't remember if there is another one that I like. And so number 2: it may not be enough to call, but one non-lifting as I said is a lack of elementary respect. When I am called, even unpleasant people call me. You say that I should act differently like flowers on March 8, but if he doesn't respect me as a friend and a person, does it make sense? I have my hesitations, I may not be right, but I have them. And for the loneliness and the small town with each passing day while sitting here the situation will be the same, I will find it difficult to find friends, I grew up in my hometown and I know what it is nothing keeps me. And number 3: I drank like the world, but I've never been aggressive or swearing, maybe before a game. At the moment it will be difficult to find another one, I have no company, it will be difficult to meet a new person.
author: And the other thing that worries me is that the work is not going well. I'm at such a year that I have to work, I've worked before, when there was work and I know what. When you don't work, you have no money and you are zero.
I have been in a similar state. Exactly at this age. With the difference that my depression is caused by a health problem. I'll tell you what helped me then. 1. I told myself that despite everything, I feel like living 2. I gave myself up to 30 years to stay in this world, whatever happens 3. I started pretending to people that everything is fine, I stopped complaining. 4. I started work - I found myself in a great place, which literally changed my life in 1 week. 5. My job started to bring me income that until now I could only dream of :) I don't know how it happened, but suddenly I started going to parties, my friends started looking for me, and in reality from that moment I started to have a social life, although and modest, which I did not have in my student years. The only thing that didn't happen to me was to meet love. But I gave myself another year of time - now I'm 29 years old. I hope that next year at this time, I will not think about suicide, but there will be a reason to say - come on, another 5 years, and then I will think about it. If you're in a small town now, why not consider a master's degree in a larger one? It will definitely be refreshing. Start some work. "Erase" the problems in your life. Try to live like the person you see in your dreams - it's possible! Have you seen the movie "The Secret"? It is very stimulating for me - every time I watch it, I am filled with optimism. for a master's degree in higher? It will definitely be refreshing. Start some work. "Erase" the problems in your life. Try to live like the person you see in your dreams - it's possible! Have you seen the movie "The Secret"? It is very stimulating for me - every time I watch it, I am filled with optimism. for a master's degree in higher? It will definitely be refreshing. Start some work. "Erase" the problems in your life. Try to live like the person you see in your dreams - it's possible! Have you seen the movie "The Secret"? It is very stimulating for me - every time I watch it, I am filled with optimism.
author: To change something I have to get out of this atmosphere in my hometown, there is simply nothing to happen here. But the bad thing is that, as I said, I'm worried and I don't know how I'm going to meet people. Regarding the master's degree, everything is related to money and another anxiety that appeared after these panic attacks, I don't know if I will be able to cope with a possible job. At the moment I am so confused, on top of that I like a person who has no elementary respect, who pretends, I have even caught in small lies.