Strange that some time ago I wanted to be alone, even more strange that until then I did not know what real loneliness is. Then I looked with ridicule at the lonely people, as losers unable to cope with the problems in their own lives. By then I was tired of all the social contacts, I wanted to be alone for a while to rethink who I am, what I live for, why I am like that and not like anyone else. I often dreamed of being different, I was an empty being, staring at the future, always telling myself that one day everything would change, drawing plans in my mind, building the future in my head, but then I still did not understand that to become the future in my head My reality is that I have to lay a solid foundation that requires a lot of effort and sacrifice. And so living in my future, I had not yet been alone, I had long been accustomed to wearing the mask of a faceless and mass existence, I had long been accustomed to my role in society - I was a good friend you could always count on, I would never say a bad word against you if you didn't challenge me, even though I had an amazing outlook on life, I still couldn't say what I saw. And so I was dumb to the world around me, the truths about it are still in me, but they remain unsaid. One day I said - enough! And it was as if in my head seeds sown for a long time had sprouted, seeds bearing the sanctity of new thinking, new ideas. Now loneliness was my only goal, I had to immerse myself, I had to abstract briefly from others, I wanted to read books, I wanted to write, before training was important to me, a beautiful body was a must, now I looked at all these vain things. shame. This, What I mean is that in order to get to the truth, you have to pay a high price, the task may humiliate you or at least destroy your social role, but this is a path of greatness, impossible for everyone. I failed and I don't seem to have the strength to continue, but before I give up, I will make one last attempt, take a look at the daily bastard and maybe come back as a winner. Loneliness is bad, it kills slowly, it is an opiate, how many times have I not gone back to the time I was with someone else, even now when I think about it then I was not happy, I was happy to live, now - loneliness is like a barrier on the road that I can't cross, nothing can accommodate it, except good friends who are a utopian dream for me. Dear people, do not stumble where I fell, move forward no matter how difficult, for me it is too late, I bear the mistakes of my decisions,
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With a population of over 6 billion, a man is alone in his head ... you sound just like me some time ago. and I didn't have many friends, I dreamed of such people as we see on the screen - funny, devoted, pleasant, etc .; I never found any. I may have made a mistake on the street :) and I haven't had a girlfriend for years ... I forgot the pleasure of a woman next to me, to be taken by the devil. but this is not a reason to 'blunt' like that. as if the world is over ...!? you have taken the step with self-awareness, now just follow this path and life will follow you; if you stand next to the mirror and spit, only you lose: / M.
You are not alone. ... "If you go through hell, keep going. Alive! ..."
The problem is that we cannot always live with the mistakes of the past, we must learn to overcome them, because otherwise a person is doomed from birth. We must value our lives enough to understand that each of us has a place in the world - with his mistakes, with his illusions, dreams, ideals, aspirations, sorrows and troubles. When you want something from life, when you really want that thing, but life doesn't give it to you, you start to see things from a different perspective. It is that you have to fight to prove that you deserve what you have and to achieve what you want. The fact is that nothing is given for free, you have to achieve it yourself. In real terms, anything is possible, we just need to know where to put our efforts to achieve what we really want.
Man, I don't know about anything else, but one thing is clear - your drama is second nature. You still need someone to be yourself. You need someone to witness you and make a "thank you" for you to feel good and full. If I tell you that hermitage and asceticism are the last stage of our spiritual maturation here on Earth, you will probably not believe me, nor will you understand why, but I assure you - this is so. But not a hermitage like yours - forced, but one - deliberately chosen, despite the numerous initiatives for contact from others. Awareness (and experience) of the fact that we are all one whole, great and multidimensional spiritual being, understanding that the other - it's you, makes the concept of "loneliness" meaningless - what loneliness you are, since we are all one! ? But to reach such a level of awareness requires effort, spirituality, practice, new experiences, altered states of consciousness, etc ... Only unconscious people are afraid of loneliness or it weighs on them. Moreover, as paradoxical as it may sound - in order to be in fuller contact with others, you must be deprived of their physical presence. Because physical presence presupposes the endless chatter of "reason," presupposes intellectual rather than mental contact, presupposes contact on a conscious rather than a subconscious (and superconscious) level. It's good that you're starting to realize, but you still have a long way to go and a lot of work to do. You barely touched some truths. "Confession" sounds like a cross between complaining and trying to impress others, but believe me, neither you nor we really need either. Regarding the "advice" you give us - we have tried one, two, three and five ... we know more or less how things are :) Good luck, and if you are not ready for loneliness (as it seems) ) - run away from her. "Beauty does not happen by force", as it is impossible to skip stages of our development - there is time and appropriate conditions for everything. Dare!
Tighten up !!! I was also at the bottom of everything. Sometimes you have to find the strength within yourself to deal with it. It's always easier to have the support of a friend, but when you push others away, you're really alone! Never keep pain or confused thoughts, even sadness, inside you. Share with someone and it will be easier for you ... So gradually you will make contacts again..and after a while they will take you out of the hole of loneliness :)
Wow super cool!
Don't worry, you're not alone. We are all lonely deep inside, we just don't have to look so deep.
4, I'm glad for you. I guess you've practically achieved what you're talking about, and yes, I totally agree. Because I experience it too. I wish you success, 4. To the author: yes, I also liked your way of expression. One of the few stories that doesn't sound the same as if written by one person. About your situation - 4 told you how things are. I would just add, don't think negatively about being alone. Try not to have such a negative attitude, because then you will attract the same.
That's how I feel and I couldn't find the right words for who I am and how I feel at the age of 14 I don't have real friends until I didn't have a boyfriend the only thing I do is study a lot and I don't know where I'm going this world and I don't know what I'm going to do I have no idea about anything and her parents are one ... straight .... I don't know what I live for, there is no meaningful thing in my life to be proud of and happy with ... off ........
Hardly some phrases would help and especially from 7 and others. It's easy to say, but it doesn't change anything. I'm 20 years old I feel the same way. I've been closed for a few years. People turned me away from a small town. When I look everyone has their own life, surrounded by many people, and I nothing. I am no different from the detainees. I always look somewhere in the future and far away that something can change, but these are more dreams. He sits at home for weeks and doesn't even have anyone to go out with. I have no self-confidence - my problem with communicating with others is very big, at times I feel as if I have no right to communicate with them, I am inferior. I am afraid that I will die alone, I have not seen anything in life - without good and bad moments, without anything. I've looked around here and there and hardly anyone like me is in that position. This,
8, I am glad to find a soul in a similar phase of my development. No, I haven't fully achieved it, but I feel that's where things are going and I'm not pushing them, nor am I trying to stop them ... I'm just letting them develop on their own. It's not like cutting it with a knife ... I know I have some more commitments to fulfill for my children. I also love my wife, although not in the intellectual-sexual sense as I did 10-12 years ago. I try to pull her forward slightly, carefully so she doesn't get scared. In society, I also have some commitments that I have to complete before I retire. I communicate with a very limited circle of like-minded people, with whom we exchange mainly spiritual experience and ideas, without engaging in various dependencies such as "you are the dolls, give me your rags". It's exciting - it just happens. Much wiser and more advanced people than me told me many years ago, and although I did not believe them at all, I treated them with ridicule and the insidious thought that they were a little crooked, now I understand that they were right. Good luck to you too, 8. I'm glad I met you.